My problem about my wedding

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i dont know if its just me that thinks this way but when did the trend start of having a wedding photographer and videographer at weddings..Im not sure was it a trend 6 years ago? thanks

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I know exactly where ur coming from with the in laws..they think its fazool karcha and no need for it!
How would ur husband feel if u had a little party with ur friends where u all got dressed up- if hes funny about it u could jus have it at the house or something!..
And with the clothes we go to FSD for shopping and u can get a beautiful lehenga for £120-150 even less than that if u really barter with them.
Obviously if u have more to spend u can get really extravagant ones!
I can sympathise with u and feel for you..becaus eu wna enjoy yourself and re live the day but feel stupid doin it when ur husband thinks its silly!
x

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Everyone needs to stop accusing other people and sayin their haters- all she was doin was bein honest..
Its like telling someone they look good when u knw they dont..sometimes u gta be cruel to be kind and jus say it like it is..ur doin the persona favour not HATING- so learn what hatin means before u point fingers.

Musharaf is the best ???!!!
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thanks for everyones comments? Is their anyone else who feels the same way as I do...for instance if someone didnt have a good photograph or didnt have nice pics or video etc on their wedding? or are their any people that didnt have a wedding video.....I just need to know so that I know that their are people in my shoes so that I dont feel left alone in this situation......

any replies would be appreciated x

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i have family in several parts of pakistan and we have videos of family weddings as old as 20 years, including videos weddings as new as this years.... photos are available for even my grandparents weddings....

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bride2be....Yes i am aware of that but people used to take their own photos and home made wedding videos not professionals...I was asking when it became popular for professional photograph...but thanks for your comments

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tell u truth, i did feel that way sometimes...i mean mashallah i had a nice wedding, nothing was lacking, but there were times i felt, i wish i could've picked out my dress, done my own shopping etc... the pictures wre fine, but i could've done better poses, i could've looked better, slimmer etc, acted more like a "bride" than what i did etc...but..i realized compared to others in my family, we did had a pretty nice wedding.....

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sara atleast you got nice pictures, nice hall etc i didnt even have them..I know I should be grateful but it keeps coming up in my mind as much as I try to forget it and the most upsetting thing for me is that my mum has lost one half of my wedding video because it was made on two tape cassette...So those memories lost forever...I have tried searching but it just seem to vanish....I dont know I keep thinking and whenevr I think I get upset....

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i am so sorry...i feel bad for you too....but your husband should make an effort to make you happy.....after knowing everything...and how you feel..he should try to make you feel better...after all..you both are to spend your entire lives together..and you are his priority...

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they were all taken by professionals.

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sara516...when you meant "acting more like a bride" what did you mean by that? Also do you have any wedding pics that you can upload....did you have professional photography..thanks

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Mehroo...I just wanted to ask you if you have any regrets about your wedding...for example not having good photos....
I just wanted to ask you did you have a bridal photoshoot after you got married professionally or did you not bother?
thanks

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hi...just wanted to add my comments

Ami123...i had exactly the same experiance at my own wedding...its not a day i look back at with pleasure or happiness...i could very easily say that it being the most impotant day of my life, was one of the sadly one of the worst...i looked ugly (and personally, i dont think i am! lol) there was no structure, no theme, no nothing...subhanaAllah, im very happy with my hubby, but it does break my heart when i think abt my wedding day. I dont think one person made a nice comment about my wedding, i want to BURN my wedding film, to this day i have it hidden so far awy that even i have forgotton where the hell i have placed it! And i totally agree with u in everything u say...i dont think anyone else other than he/she who has experainced such crap can empathise.

I cry each time i think about my wedding, it shoud have been the happiest, most beautiful occasion, but no, it was the complete opposite. And all of my cousins and freinds look like fairys and princessess on thier weddings and i just so wish mine could have been like so. So, yeah, i understand what ur going thru, but subhanaAllah, urs is a happy marriage, and may Allah tala bless it for the rest of you lives.

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respect786...thanks for your comments it feels nice to know there is someone who had undergone a similar situation as me on my wedding day. I'm so sorry your wedding wasnt good either...but mashallah it sounds like you have a blessed marriage and that is what counts at the end of the day.

I feel the same way aswell, like i dont want to watch my video as it just depresses me so much when I look at my pics and video. My sister has got all her wedding clothes now from pakistan and they are absolutely gorgeous! even her jewellery.. I am so happy that she got what she wanted and im happy that she will have the wedding that she always wanted..When did you get married? was it in pakistan? Was it really that bad?

thanks so much for replying..if you feel more comfortable you can private message me.

thanks

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7 days?????? OMG. Thats really sad.

Ami123- Where did u get married?? pakistan or somewhere else?

like another guppy said, that u must've had some plans/dreams abt how ur wedding should have been but u really gotta look at the bright side. u have been happily married for 6 long years. that IS the most important thing.

as u said that ur mom-in-law showed ur pics and videos to a lot of ppl, which could mean that she was very happy abt how things went.

another important thing to bear in mind is that things are always changing as in trends, deco, fashion etc etc. how things wer 6 years ago arent like that today. ppl getting married today would loook back at thier pics and compare themselves with the brides (of/in the future) and see a difference.
for example, wat abt the mothers or grandmothers of some of us that got married years ago and didnt even get to have a video??? u think they should now get sad comparing themselves with the brides of today?

u mite not think u looked all that pretty but im sure ur in-laws, ur family and even ur husband thought u looked gorgeous.

focus on the +ive side, its done, its over....but u and ur husband are still together and are happy. shadi hoti kis liye hai keh aik ghar ban jai...aik family ban jai...and u got it girl =)

Cheers !!!

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Hello

I am sorry I forgot to reply.

no I dont have any regrets at all ,As I said I had a huge wedding and it was fun .but no professional photoshoot etc.I have not had any bridal phootshoot after my wedding :-) and for me it does not matter much.

I have videos of my wedding with funny-objects and indian songs (very typical one) but who cares :-) we watch them with kids and have a good laugh .

so No regrets at all .

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ami123...i tried to pm u, but i cant as i haven't posted a certain number of posts before i can pm any member (?) anyway, i only replied to ur post as i know how it feels to be lonely in this situation and to be quite honest, i thought i was the only one who went thru this as i havent so far come across who didnt have a nice wedding or who didnt look nice on their wedding. I thnk the most important part for me was to look stunning for my hubby, so that when he sets his eyes on me it would be a lasting impression...but it wasnt to be so. Sad really, cos i graduated, worked and thought well im gonna do my wedding dhoom damaka se but all that changed the second we stepped into the brillient land of pakistan with its grewat lot of uneducated, uncivalised backward freaks (of course that doesnt apply to everyone and i dont mean to offend anyone when i say ths...im only talkin about my experiance of pakistan and its people (the bunch that iw as sorrounded by).

Anyway, ys im from the uk...where abouts r u? im in Lancs...

By the way, does anyone know any good photographers up north? i wanna have a proper photoshoot with hubby...i wanna knwo do they sort u out with makeup and hair or u just go in as u are and come out looking as u went in lol

Well...Ami123...i think the only positive message i can give u is to be strong and to look forward, think poitive abt ur future and try to dim ur bad expeiance...take care

More pics of this dress?
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Exactly! Past is history, future is mystery, and present is a gift. So make the best of the gift you have at the moment and don't let your past experiences spoil it.

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soniy83...I got married in the Uk but we only had a nikah and valima and very very small ruksati on same day as nikah..thanks for your comments. I know I should look to the future and I am trying my hardest. Everything has been triggered off due to my sisters wedding soon.

Also I know I have said this many times but my wedding video is not even worth watching, the sound in really bad as well as the picture quality. On top of that I cant find my ruksati video i have searched high and low and it is lost at my mums house!

respect786...I am from near london..When did you get married? Was it really that bad having a wedding in pakistan? who planned the wedding, got your clothes etc etc....Do you have any pics of your wedding? Did you have a professional photosession and video film.

So many questions...sorry:)

thanks