dear all,
I am new to this forum. I just thought I would share my feelings with you lot.
I have been happily married for 6 years now and all is good apart from the fact that i didnt have a good wedding. I know its been years but he thought keeps coming to me that my wedding was not good and that I didnt look good…Firstly our wedding budget was really tight so we had the mehndi at home. Then we didnt have a professional wedding photography or a videography so most of the pictures came out blurry (not many people had digital cameras then). The nikah and ruksati was done on the same day and only the decorations were horrible and the venue wasnt nice. I didnt think of it at the time but when i look at my pictures I feel like crying! Also the valima
decorations were not nice either..not colour cooridinated to my outfits on both days…to top all that the guy who made the video made a mess out the wedding video I do not like watching it..I didnt feel this way at the time I was getting married…I never looked at my wedding pics for like 3 years and then I look at them again and the nightmare of the pictures came back…
Now my sister is getting married and my family is on a good budget now so my sister will have a good wedding the way she wants it..I am really happy for her but feel sad when I think about mine..
Wedding has nothing to do with successful marriage. Go and read my todays blog about my own and read Aahmed's comment also.
Wedding was an event and its over for you, what is left is the mariage and as you said, you are happily married. That is a blessing my friends, many people dont have it in thier life in spite of having a very lavish wedding.
yes..TLK is right..despite having EVERYTHING on the planet..some people don,t have great results..!If you are happy and content..then nothing matters..you can always wear your wedding clothes..and have few proffesional shots done.
You can renew your wows , as they say it in USA.
But You can't really renew your wedding. It is just a celebration not a wedding. What if your wedding was spectacular but ( Allah na karay) your marriage was a disaster .I can understand your wedding was disappointing but it should be comforting for you that your marriage is spectacular. Just be thankful to Allah for such a grand blessing.
I think instead of crying you should smile and tell yourself that you are one of the luckiest person on freaking earth whose marriage is going strong.. if you love your life today than don't worry about yesterday coz what's gone is gone... be positive think ahead.. you have so much more to look for in future... be happy.. put a smile on that face and thank Allah
You can renew your wows , as they say it in USA.
But You can't really renew your wedding.
:D Dont want to give this thread a religious trun, but Ulema say that the way we live and utter words without thinking, its is a good habbit to recite Shahaada once every few month and even renew Nikah evry 2-3 years.
SO technically, she can do things all over again if she wants to
Why don't you plan a nice day just for yourself and hubby? Something extra special, with both of your favorite meals, spa or something that will interest you both. Dress up for him and you can even schedule a portrait/photo session with a professional photographer. And like TLK said, renew your 'vows' that day. Frame those pictures later on and they will always remind you of this special day.
hey dont feel sad.. its a blessing to be happily married.. wht u can do i.. buy some nice clothes (lehnga etc) on ur anniversary.. have a photoshoot.. even call ur friends/relatives.. everything can be done..
thanks everyone for the comments, I appreciate them...I think i was starting to compare myself with other peoples photos on this site of their weddings...I mean everyones weddings look nice, bride looks nice etc and then I end up comparing to my own wedding. I have so many regrets that things should of been a different way on my wedding such as I should of had lighting otherwise the photos and video wouldnt have turned out dull and everyone keeps saying its a special day and it will never come again. That just makes me feel upset about my own wedding. The worst thing i think is that my mother in law has shown alot of people the wedding pics and the video.
Thanks for the idea of the wedding anniversary I will think about that....
.I think i was starting to compare myself with other peoples photos on this site of their weddings...I mean everyones weddings look nice, bride looks nice etc and then I end up comparing to my own wedding. I have so many regrets that things should of been a different way on my wedding such as I should of had lighting otherwise the photos and video wouldnt have turned out dull and everyone keeps saying its a special day and it will never come again. That just makes me feel upset about my own wedding. The worst thing i think is that my mother in law has shown alot of people the wedding pics and the video.
Thanks for the idea of the wedding anniversary I will think about that....
Buy photoshop and doctor the photos to look like the way you want them to look like . It is not hard and it is fun. Same thing with your wedding movie. My family had a mahndi in Pakistan but my wedding was in USA , my wife combined both of these movies in such a way that it looks like that the people in Pakistan and USA are all in one and same wedding at the same place and same time.
Just another bright idea to cheer you up.:D
Another comment from my daughter to cheer you up. We were watching that old movie of our wedding and my little daughter asked : "Daddy did you not take me to your wedding ? I am not in there anywhere "
If you really are concerned with having good photo's, go do it! Wear your bridal suits, get mehndi done, get your makeup and hair done, and find a good photographer (not those olan mills types).
I didn't have a shaadi at all, but my marriage was a little different than most. You can always have another celebration!
Mirch, aww thats so sweet your daughter saying that! that has cheered me up. The problem is that all my photos were taken from film not digital camera and I do not have the negative anymore. To be honest I want to change the
backgrounds of every picture as the decoration were'nt nice.
Mirch, aww thats so sweet your daughter saying that! that has cheered me up. The problem is that all my photos were taken from film not digital camera and I do not have the negative anymore. To be honest I want to change the
backgrounds of every picture as the decoration were'nt nice.
Not a problem , your friends will have a photo scanner if not you can buy a scanner they are a dime a dozen now a days, not exactly but for 25 dollars you can buy a nice enough photo scanner.
The photo touching technology has gone to such an extent that you can correct many mistakes of the photo in addition to changing the background with just a touch of a button.
ami123 look at the bright side its been six years that you have been enjoying a blessed life.
Would be willing to trade these 6 years with a bigger wedding party?
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Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww ami123! As much as i agree with every1 else's point of view that at the end what matters is that you are a happily married women. BUT i think like everyone else you probably had some dreams of having your marriage the certain way and you werent able to fulfil that due to whatever reason. But i see no reason why you should feel about it all your life instead of doing something about it. How about having a grand reception and getting yourself and your hubby nice wedding clothes and do all that we do in marriages. Get professional photography and videgraphy done and than you will be happy.
Or if you are even more adventorous hehe why dont you have the whole proper wedding done again maybe during your wedding anniversay?. I know of someone who had the mayon, mehndi, barat, valima lol and i guess the maklawa too on their 25th wedding anniversary. And my god they spent as much money as one hopes to spend on their one and only wedding. So that was kind of shocking but whatever makes them happy.
So i would advice you to definately do one of the two as one should try and fulfill all their desires especially when they are as innocent as yours :). Good luck!
thanks maham that was really sweet of you to say that...to be honest my husband is not bothered about it as much as I am...also im not sure if I would want the whole idea of mehdi,walima etc I think just a small gathering because it wont be the same as your wedding day....I think if i ask my mum she would be happy to have an anniversary for me but i think my inlaws would think im kind off strange..I dont know. Like you said there is nothing wrong with having another function where you dress up like a bride and groom even though some people might think its funny!
I do have photos but there are not digital only film so i cant donwload them
