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and it seems to be that your husband can never stand up against his family to defend you. Why on earth would you want to spend the rest of your life with such a man?
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take a break for a week or two from your work, and tell your husband that you quit.
and see how he and his parents treat you.
if they treat you even trashier than before then its you have some strong decisions to make.
ps. keep asking forgiveness. ALLAH SWT is ghafoor-ur-raheem.
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Be cautioned. You should quit your job if YOU want to quit your job. And be careful of the risks. You quit, and tomorrow, things get bad with the husband and inlaws and they kick you out, you wont have any source of income. This may be precisely why they have you hanging around, because they know that if all else fails, at least they can rely on the bahu to keep finances running.
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Whatever you do, please don't think that a child will solve your problem. It ever never does so please if you are thinking about getting pregnant, stop!
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^ she is absolutely right.
CM is wrong about blood and water 
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Im sorry but dont get offended but if you had any common sense when the engagment was broken the first time by these childish rumours or what not. You would of rejected it and lost contact with these freaks! Theres no other option but a divorce. Theres no point taking a break. Just a complete cut of contact from these awful people and your life will be so much better. You dont need these people, their bringing you down, one day your gonna be the door mat... if not already. I say get out and run and fast!
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Why was this thread revived?? It's from back in Nov 2009. What do you people do? Read through the archives of GS every night?
May be they want to know what happened.
Your husband can't control the MAJOR things in his life such as his lack of employment, and financial conditions, and his inability to stand up to his parents. He can't control these big things...........so in order to feel like more of a man........and in order to feel like he has at least SOME control over his life............he likes to control the little, itty-bitty, things that are sooooooo insignificant such as the blanket. In a pathetic way, these small things make him feel powerful.....make him feel that he has some control over you,
It could also be that......even though he wants you to work.........he could be feeling INSECURE over the idea that he's jobless and he has to depend on his wife to feed the family and run the house. This probably also makes him feel like less of a man. So, he wants to make you feel like LESS of a woman.....by picking on your domestic household skills.
When you were experiencing so many headaches during the time between the engagement and the wedding......you should have ended the ristha.
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^You should atleast have read the dates before responding.
^You should atleast have read the dates before responding.
I did read it. Maybe the thread was brought up again since the OP recently created another thread on the same issue. She could still read the recent responses to this thread...because they contain more details about her marriage.
Why was this thread revived?? It's from back in Nov 2009. What do you people do? Read through the archives of GS every night?
I guess thats your job considering you have over 23 **thousand **posts! jeez, Sort it out!!!