You shud report me for being 'rude' ummm again read english.
YOUR the one being RACIST! so i would quit if i was you!!
lolz
i can't talk to extremely emotional people i am sorry i do quit :)
hope ur happy now
lolz i can't talk to extremely emotional people i am sorry i do quit :) hope ur happy now
Ok if that makes you feel better hun, I dont know why you 'lolz'-ing... Racism is a big issue. Your a very narrow minded creature.
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The mere fact that he trusts you enough to discuss his problems with you and comes to you for advice is a big thing. Not everyone does this. Not everyone is open. You are lucky you have someone who loves you and thinks highly of you as to see you fit to share problems with. You should be happy for yourself and him, instead of thinking of leaving him.
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ok seriously people cut her some slack.. who wants to live with a whiner? On top of it it's a man!!!I'm sure little problems she can handle and try to solve it for him but a moany person always takes that for granted. Just tell him to quit this nonsense and talk about some real issues here .. like how we gonna spend the rest of our lives together after getting married, or where we wanna raise our kids.. how much should we be saving each year to buy a dream home etc etc
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Happy heart.. I think you were being racist here, calling her "mixed" with a winky eye makes you look like a witch more than an angel.
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hey guys isnt that sweet???he discusses every problem with her..it means he gives her so much importance..o/w men just want that they shud give the last word...
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Do you love the guy??? And if so, then sit down and have a heart to heart, and tell him what you feel!! Try to make it work...cause by the sounds of it he really does love you and you don't want to let that kind of a guy go if the problem can be resolved! And yea I agree it can get annoying and depressing if all he does is "whine" but try to help him become a stronger person by showing him you'll always be there for him in his tough times and that whatever decision he makes you will back him up 100%! Maybe its a confidence issue?? And if you don't pic the rest of your life togehter...just cause he whines too much... i think there is a deeper reason hiding behind this issue!! Just be true to yourself!!!
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SD, it seems your instincts are kicking in. You are not living in a jungle, girl. Security is not a basic requirement these days. Your guy sounds like a dependable person. A person who is strong and who can make you feel secure will feel the urge to provide security to a few other females in addition to you.
Ok if that makes you feel better hun, I dont know why you 'lolz'-ing... Racism is a big issue. Your a very narrow minded creature.
Yes and i even keep on loving you more and more
i wonder when it will stop
i hope it will never stop
you have to make the final decision and you basically have two options:
1- If you truly love him and care about him then you need learn to accept him for who he is, there are pros and cons in every relationship and be lucky you have a guy who likes to open up (that's very hard to find I hope you know)
2- If you truly believe that you can't stand him sharing his problems with you the rest of your life then honestly for the betterment of him and you, leave this relationship since you guys aren't married its still very much feasible people who like to share their problems with others aren't going to change all of a sudden, there are some people who just need a outlet whether it be a man or a women
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i think SD is right...afterall v all girls need a MAN and not a BOY to spend life with...****
thats the problem na..i get upset wenever he shared his problems with me...i dun want to remain worried all the time now and after marriage...i mean i havent seen husbands who always keep telling their wives all the problems..itz so depressing:@
move on. he is not for you. if you cant share his problem, find some problem free guy ... if there is any such person .....
I fail to you understand what kind of relationship is this where you have ask him to share his problems. Husband/wife are to share good and bad times. Looks like you are only looking for someone to share good times only :)
I love to hear from my wife if she has to say something ..if she wana share her problem that only means she is trusting me for solution .....
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^ True.
He isnt the right guy for you. Let him go and find someone who can appreciate being respected and trusted.
^ True.
He isnt the right guy for you. Let him go and find someone who can appreciate being respected and trusted.
is every husband like that???do u people feel itz normal ???..is he not a weak person??
is every husband like that???do u people feel itz normal ???..is he not a weak person??
no itz not normal...one of my friend's husband,he is so sweet that watever problem he faces(wether at office or at home),he never makes her wife stressed out for that..if he does not have money,even then he manages to make her wife fell comfortable rather than telling her all the time about his problems..a person must know how to handle stress...
is every husband like that???do u people feel itz normal ???..is he not a weak person??
Well its all about questioning :)
You also could have asked: Is every husband strong?
Anwser: NO ofcourse not a husband is a human being not all the husbands are strong and don't tell their problems to their wife.
My bro is married and has 2 children they have a perfect happy life and my brother always shares everything with his wife.
I mean how can you even think that every husband is strong. I really think that guppies on this thread did give you some good advice Sweetdoll but you are not really willing to read anything positive.
You are waiting to read and believe only that anwser which is confirming whats in your head :) and thats a very easy way.
Well its all about questioning :)
You also could have asked: Is every husband strong?
Anwser: NO ofcourse not a husband is a human being not all the husbands are strong and don't tell their problems to their wife.
My bro is married and has 2 children they have a perfect happy life and my brother always shares everything with his wife.
I mean how can you even think that every husband is strong. I really think that guppies on this thread did give you some good advice Sweetdoll but you are not really willing to read anything positive.
You are waiting to read and believe only that anwser which is confirming whats in your head :) and thats a very easy way.
SD says that she has always wanted/idealized one thing in her hubby and that he is to be strong....happy heart wud u accept a girl if she does not possess the only quality that u have always wanted???wud u b ok with that??
SD says that she has always wanted/idealized one thing in her hubby and that he is to be strong....happy heart wud u accept a girl if she does not possess the only quality that u have always wanted???wud u b ok with that??
Fair enough Neha
I like your question i really do and as i said its a fair question.
I think in life there is no such thing as a perfect couple, perfect husband or perfect wife.
U ask me wether i would marry someone who does not have quality i have always whished my partner would/should have.
Well first of all its very innocent, immature and not practical to have that wish. Suppose i DO find that girl with the quality i always wanted. But what about OTHER qualities of my partner? Shouldi neglect that?
You can make life as complicated or as simple as u want my suggestion is to make it easy.
I do not understand if she feels not happy about it then should she not first talk to family ?
Do they not know best to help her out?
I mean gs forum or other forums are good for advice i am not against it but this is important matter and marriage is not a joke in our culture.
I am really shocked by some advice she is getting aspecially about breaking wtih her fiancee.
Do u really think its mature to advice her (wihtout knowing her /him or the whole situation) to break with her fiancee??
I mean ok we listen to her but should we not (in all fairness) also listen to the other party what HE has to say before we have any judgement?!
Fair enough Neha I like your question i really do and as i said its a fair question. I think in life there is no such thing as a perfect couple, perfect husband or perfect wife.
U ask me wether i would marry someone who does not have quality i have always whished my partner would/should have.
Well first of all its very innocent, immature and not practical to have that wish. Suppose i DO find that girl with the quality i always wanted. But what about OTHER qualities of my partner? Shouldi neglect that?
You can make life as complicated or as simple as u want my suggestion is to make it easy. I do not understand if she feels not happy about it then should she not first talk to family ? Do they not know best to help her out?
I mean gs forum or other forums are good for advice i am not against it but this is important matter and marriage is not a joke in our culture.
I am really shocked by some advice she is getting aspecially about breaking wtih her fiancee. Do u really think its mature to advice her (wihtout knowing her /him or the whole situation) to break with her fiancee??
I mean ok we listen to her but should we not (in all fairness) also listen to the other party what HE has to say before we have any judgement?!
u r rite that we shud make a decision by listening to the other party as well..but right now we dun have an option and from her views it seems as if she is very unhappy and she desperately wants a strong life partner and she is not getting the one in her fiance...itz not easy to discontinue a relation and imaine how unhappy she wud be that she is thinking to end it despite the fact that her fiance is so loving and caring as she mentioned...complex situation!!!