Re: My fiance is from back home....
too many rishtas with him already...... hope all goes well if you do get married to him.
Re: My fiance is from back home…
you married a fob 
Re: My fiance is from back home....
^ no... by now you should know the difference between an imported, FOB or western born and bred guy.
She married someone from back home, who later became FOB and the children would be 'local' born and bred.
Re: My fiance is from back home....
Pakistanis are aliens don't marry them.Its better to suicide than marry them.
Re: My fiance is from back home....
Don't marry him.
1)
He wants the British passport. Living in Pakistan I know guys who'd do anything to escape Pakistan. "Wants to live in Pakistan after he gets married" he's lying.
2)
The facts that he is your double first cousin means your future kids would have a higher probability of being born with birth defects. Don't believe me? Do the research yourself. Schedule an appointment with a doctor and ask about the risks involved.
Don't make a decision without doing proper research, all you need is google.
Even if your cousin truly loves you, imagine living with disabled kids. The probability of this happening is even higher in your case compared to the regular first cousins(with just a single pair of common grandparents).
Better safe than sorry.
Re: My fiance is from back home....
mughalpricess9, If you need some solid reason to use to convince your parents, you can listen to people talking about increased chances of birth defects of your future children.
I hope your parents are reasonable enough to understand your hesitance to accept this proposal. But sometimes, we need to have logics and arguments to convince our parents, if you have this kind of healthy relationship with your parents where they allow discussions and then making decision based on mutal agreement. Just saying that you don't like the guy etc might not convince them. Using some solid reasons might help you convince your parents.
Re: My fiance is from back home....
dont rush, firstly age gap is odd and you people are not mature enough to understand the meaning of marriage, so discuss with your mother first and let your parents know about your disliking about him, the culture differnce is huge so this rishta does´nt seem compatible
Re: My fiance is from back home....
You're too young, both of you. Is he financially independent and will he be able to provide for you on his own? What about you?
I don't think you should consider this or any other rishta at this age. Give it a few years and see where you stand then. A LOT of things can change between now and then.
Re: My fiance is from back home....
So your dad's brother is married to your mom's sister and they want you to marry their kid? Please, i beg you, look outside your gene pool. Seems like your family is very adamant in making relationships within the family and that's just NOT healthy. Plus he's 18 and you're 20, wayyyyyy to young to get married. Actually it's not too young IF you two are capable of surviving on your own. Are you? Do you have stable jobs? Are you done with education? Probably not, yeah, you guys aren't ready for doing your own laundry let alone getting married.
Re: My fiance is from back home....
I would say think very carefully in terms of medical factors that potentially will effect your children. It is a real and serious issue. Book an appointment with your GP and take your mum along too to discuss it.
Re: My fiance is from back home....
I don't think people care about the gene issue...
if they did they wouldn't want her to desperate marry him
Re: My fiance is from back home....
I dont know if I will love him or not. His lifestyle, goals and taste is different and opposite to mine. My mum uses the line 'opposites attract' on me.
tell her you are going to marry some local kev or trev speaking of opposites attracting :)
Re: My fiance is from back home....
I spoke to him.... told him I cant. Spoke to my mum.. actually cried to her and told her I dont wanna proceed with this rishta..... all is well for now.
Re: My fiance is from back home....
But I feel sooo bad that I broke his heart. really bad.
Re: My fiance is from back home....
^He's 18, this is just puppy love for him, he'll get over it. -__-
Re: My fiance is from back home....
think twice baby its abo livin ur entire life wd sm1 .
Re: My fiance is from back home…
He’s not a fob, sheesh.
Re: My fiance is from back home....
Anything in particular you didnt like about him when you met him or or is it just the stereotypical view of asians from 'back home' forcing you to change your mind? 2 years age gap is not a big deal unless theres something else you didnt mention about him, his family or his future aspirations in your post.
Re: My fiance is from back home....
if u dont have a boyfriend or a better rishta .. id just go with it bcz itll save you and your parents the hassle of finding you a irshta anywyas .. i think your just getting scared for no reason .. the guy is in love with you and ur families know each other and are happy .. what if you never get a lover liket his again ? .. think about it .. spend teh time getting to know him .. i think itll make u more comfortable in ur decision
Re: My fiance is from back home....
if u dont have a boyfriend or a better rishta .. id just go with it bcz itll save you and your parents the hassle of finding you a irshta anywyas .. i think your just getting scared for no reason .. the guy is in love with you and ur families know each other and are happy .. what if you never get a lover liket his again ? .. think about it .. spend teh time getting to know him .. i think itll make u more comfortable in ur decision
so just incase she cant find anyone again she should just say yes?
She is only 20!