my fiance is cheating on me??

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Yep her not getting married to him will certainly cure him of his moun maarnay ki adat.

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so whats your solution? marry him? sure if she is on world-mission-to-sudhroo-all-guys.

She should just let him know why she is not marrying and this all on the top of the fact that she is not ready to get into long relationship

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My rant is directed towards your comment on her matureness.

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This is soooooooooooooooooooooo typical. Anytime a woman says she wont stand to be insulted or humiliated, she is a feminist.

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I actually feel she is quite mature… the only thing i had an issue with was trying to apply something her friend did with her bf/fiance and she doing the same with her fiance… that just doesnt work..

Strawberry, u seem like a very sweet person.

The fact that ur trust has been broken.. it will take a very long time for that to rebuild if u decide to go ahead with the marriage. Even if he regains your trust, im pretty sure this will always be in the back of your mind and you’ll be anxious everytime he is on the net or going out without you… i dont think you need that

having said that, you’ll prob be anxious about getting into any relationship with a guy, but at least you’ll know what to look out for.. what are the signs and how to approach it..

there are MANY MANY nice guys out there who wouldnt do this… so you dont need to be tied down to one that is being a jerk… (deleting his emails cus he knew you could use them is a clear sign of a loser.. in my books)

who cares if he’s ur dad’s best friends son.. u happen to be his dad’s best friends daughter and he should respect you and your family just on those grounds. How dare he jeaporadise the relationship between your dad’s and his. And noone has the right to blame you for that… you didnt do anything wrong… so dont feel guilt or anything else of the sort..

Talk to your family and tell them how it is.

good luck :k:

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thanks alot u guys!! but its not that easy to wake up one day nd be like its over. even thoughh i hate him so much right now but he was my fiance. i gave my heart to him nd he took it for granted. how can he do this to me? i was nothing but nice to him! i kno i have seen everything that proves him to be wrong but for some reason my heart is not beliving it. iduno what he was thinking but i kno for sure he wasnt serious abt the whole thing. he sed he never met her before so im guessing its one of those net thing.. all guys do it.

there are so many questions coming to my head. where did i go wrong? he knows he cant find som1 better than y mess it up for himself? y wud he want to talk to other grls when i am avaliable most of the time? is he looking for frends mayb?

i kno i need to only think abt myself right now but as a older daughter of the family, i need to loook at other things. i have to keep in mind my what my parents will have to face? how his family nd my family relationship gona be? his parents are such nice pple! they sent a rishta for their older son before nd i rejected it. when i went to paki this time, even though i rejected, they treated me and my family so nicely. all this shudnt matter to me though. if i take them out of the picture than i dont want to be with dis guy!

it scares to think abt my life afterward. will it be the same? i have this daag now that i have engaged once. what if the next guy wrost than him? i have to look at so many things. atlest he wudnt hit me? he never raised his voice to yell? doesnt stop me from doing anythin.

please pray for me that whatever decision i make is the right one. i dont want to regret anything later on!

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^ So you're ending it or have ended it already?

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^ no, i think shes thinking about giving him a go

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i havnt decided anything yet!!
i need my parents advice before anything. i am abt to go talk to them.

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^ Good luck. I hope it all works out for the best. :)

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strawberry, ur so sweet. ur thinking about ur family before thinking about urself. no one can give u better advice than u can give urself. only u know ur own situation the best.

but let me just say a few things. firstly, the relationship between the guys family and ur family will definitely not be the same, but do u really care? im sure ur dad has more friends than this guy and when u compare it to how miserable u will be ur whole life... well u cant compare it. secondly, u will not have a daag on u for this engagement being broken. dont live with the burden of an unhappy marriage. u can definitely find a better guy and ur siblings will also find great spouses inshallah. and anyway, u dont wanna marry into families that consider this stuff a 'daag' it just shows how ignorant and closed-minded such people are. dont stay with this guy just because of what other people will say.

speak to ur parents soon and hopefully everything will work out for the best.

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You did nothing wrong. Some guys/girls feel better about themselves if they know they are desirable to others, and they may continue to do so even after being committed. In fact, sometimes they need the attention more after they are committed- they want to feel wanted. This people deserve people that are like them- not someone like you- and the relationship will work out better- either each person will realize that it kinna sux to have their partner be in the attention of others, so they will tone it down OR they will enjoy their partner being liked by others. You are the type that will never be happy with this sort of person.

I think it's fair to say that it was only an engagement that broke, not a divorce. I don't know how harsh aunties can be, but to me an engagement falling through does not seem that bad, I think it can happen to anyone; don't consider that you have a daag- you did nothing wrong and should hold your head up high

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may i ask one more question.

would u guys consider this fooling arnd nd getting better after marriage or just simple cheating?

basically is it considered cheating?

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me personally.... think its fooling around, unless he's actually REALLY involved with this girl.. or if he knows her personally..

but others may view it differently

but, duno if he'll get better... thats something for u to judge since u know him better than any of us :)

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It's fooling around. He's bored. You're far away. Make sense?

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omg... it's called cheating/unfaithful/insincere!

my husband and i started dating a month before i moved to pakistan for 3 years!!! in that one month i saw him only two times. in the next 3 yrs we spoke over the phone and online constantly and saw each other once a yr. he never even flirted with another girl (dont ask me how i know since he lived in ny and dormed at a university with tons of girls everywhere... easy girls, and i was in khi, girls just know that kind of stuff. u can tell when ur significant other has been 'looking' around, my husbands the most sincere man i've ever known and i can tell the difference between guys like him and guys that love looking for trouble).

so don't tell her that it is just him fooling around cuz he lives in pakistan and that it will be over once they are married. u and him are in a committed relationship! ur both engaged to be married. u tell me what HONEST person would flirt with other women when he's engaged.

honey, the guy is cheating on u. engagement is a committment. this is not a phase, he has obviously done this twice already and this is durign ur engagement. arent people head over heels in lust during the engagement period? he should be so into u at this time during ur relationship and the fact that he's not should give u an inside into his character and ur potential future with him. even if someone would just call it fooling around... would u accept him if he was fooling around with other women while he was with u? fooling around=cheating when u are in a committed relationship.

lastly, let's call it what it is ... cheating.

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Well, that is really wrong.Why husband and wife shouldnot share their passwords?
You were inebriated i guess when you wrote this.Okay now you seem veteran,why these things only happen in dramas ?i know real people doing this.

Things like this whittle down the trust .Girl i think you should ditch him.God has given you a chance to correct yourself.If your parents love you they will understand you.I know it really hurts , when you are loyal and you experience infidelity from your partner.But try to overpower this trauma.
after sometime this will blot out.

Some girls have this fear ,OMG what if i donot find the right guy for my self,what if i donot get married to a right person.I mean the only aim of life is to get married ?NO
Allah sab ki kismat achi kare.Amen!

God i love doing this.:)

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It would be better to move on, you do not trust him. You dont want to spend the rest of your life wondering what hes doing when hes not around you. It will drive you crazy. He lost your trust the 1st time the orkut incident happened. Thats why you felt the need to check up on him by asking his password. Im not saying its wrong to know his password, i know my husbands passwords and he knows mine... but not because either of us asked the other, and honestly i dont even remember what it is because ive never used it.
The "daag" of a broken engagement you talk about is better then being miserable for the rest of your life. Most people complain that their spouse paid more attention to them during the engagement period.
Its better to be on your own, happy and content than being married and sad... IA you will find someone who make you a better person not some crazed detective wanna be
Just have faith and do dua hajaat.

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No, all guys dont do it. Not all men flirt and have internet/real life affairs during their engagement period. Its just a few and those few have trouble written all over them. Sadly, when we love someone we dont like to believe the worst about them. Who does? Its just how we are. As for seriousness...not many affairs are serious. The idea of an affair is to have fun on the side. I dont think your fiance ever meant to leave you...but he did intend to do whatever he wanted behind your back. Which is worse.

You should think of your family, you're the eldest. Just remember something: at some point...everyone else will go on to live their own lives and only you will have to deal with this guy's issues for the rest of your life. No one else. As for not hitting you, he isnt doing you any favors by not raising his hand on you or not yelling at you. You're entitled to that respect. Plus, most men that I know dont beat their wives.

Life afterwards...wont be the same. You will have faced a disappointment and learned something about men. Will it be a little difficult? Sure. Is it a million times better then being divorced? Absolutely.

In the end, its your decision and upto you. I just dont think its right to worry about my partner's loyalty all the time...its not fair to me, my current family or future family to dive into something that is so unstable to begin with.

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if your forgive him and carry you have already what do they say

apne paaon par kulhaari maarna

yeh dts wt u will have done

i dont know wt else to say bt if you dont hve the courage to deal with breaking off an engagement or the so called daag ( im sure there wont be ) then why did u even wnt to fidn out if ur fiance ws cheating on u

coz at the end of the day u will forgive him neway

newayz good luck