Strawberry,
You're not making a big deal out of the password since 1) he gave it to you himself and 2) you found inappropriate emails. The fact that you found such emails justifies your concern.
There is one advice that I would like to give you. Be confident and secure with yourself. Not every girl that a guy talks to is his "girlfriend." She can also be just a friend, cousin, sister, coworker, neighbor.
In the future, no matter which guy you marry, don't jump to conclusions about his contact with females UNLESS you have strong evidence (as in your current situation). I have female friends on facebook...who have male contacts. Many of those male contacts are just friends or cousins or coworkers or acquaintances.
You know my dad travels a lot in his line of work. Sometimes he'd be away for a couple of weeks. And one day I asked my mom if the situation makes her nervous. And she told me, "It's all about trust. Marriage should have trust." My mom trusts my dad when he's away from home or when he's on the internet. My dad, AH, has not given my mom reason to be suspicious.
^ And that's what you need to remember in the future. WAIT until you have STRONG evidence. If you DON"T HAVE evidence....then its not right to assume that every single girl is a girlfriend.
After marriage, you might one day run into a male acquaintance from your school. You might even run into a male family friend. You might stop and smile/talk to this male. It would be wrong for your husband to assume that you have romantic feelings for the guy. See what I mean?
If a guy has female friends on facebook.......so what? That's no big deal. It's no reason to get scared. BUT if you have SOUND EVIDENCE that he's communicating romantically with these females.....then you can worry about it. BUT until then......it's better to not to become suspicious.
In your current situation, you found proof that your fiance is acting shady. So, you have every right to be concerned. You're not making a big deal in this situation as you have the evidence. Now you just have to hear what he has to say.
As I said earlier, you're on the right track. I'm proud of you for making the effort to talk to this guy. You're already becoming stronger:)
Also, please show the emails to your parents as they are also involved in this matter. Maybe you should print out the emails....in case they are deleted by him later on. If your fiance gives you a stupid explanation for those emails...then the only way for you to convince your parents is if u show them the emails. So print them out or have them read it on the computer.
thanks redvelvet!
so im not making this into a big deal right?
im srry if i sed anything wrong in my pervious posts.. it just got me really heated how
some of u think becuz dats how he probably thinks too!
the pwd issue is bothering me becuz if he never gave it to me.. i wud have probably never found out nd he wud have been someone to me that hes not. funny thing is he knows i kno his facebook pwd nd i never went on it cuz it didnt matter but i did check today.. nd it has NOTHING but guess wat all the grls he talk to secretly are from fb. he e-mails them instead of writing on their wall so i wudnt find out. how cleaver!