Re: My experience with a divorced lady.
Finally, look I know I made some mistakes in the past in terms of having sexual relations with Western females outside of marriage. I admit it was wrong. I have made tons and tons of tauba over it.
However, lets be honest here do not the vast majority of young Muslim men in the U.S or Canada also do this? I mean most of my friends were either Lebanese, or Irani/Afghan, and their all doing this. But all of them want and get virgin wives from back home. Especially if you go of to college, its almost a right of passage.
Now before my whole experience I use to look down on them as having double standards. I use to ridicule them over this. I use to say smugly "I am open minded blah blah blah " All turned out to be BS.
Yet when I was put in that position myself, what I learned was they were right, and I was wrong. You see it goes back to our man brains, no matter how much feminists hate it, or how liberal we are, we can't change our DNA. In the depths of the male mind he views his wife as his territory, for him to know that another man experienced that territory is TORTURE!!
You see, women will say" you also had gf's and had sex etc." Yes but you can't claim that in terms of sexuality, perceptions, and relationships men and women are equal.
Men can have 4 wives in Islam, and some women do tolerate that. I don't know a single guy who will share his wife with 4 men, hence its not allowed in Islam.
Women are things of beauty and pleasure, even other women will appreciate a pretty girl. Men are nasty and gross. That's why women will never experience the torture we do knowing you have been penetrated.
Also, and I hate to do this, but lets admit it. During the great "act" women are the ones who "take it", I mean you know what I mean, they get used for the mans carnal pleasure. All women I have been with totally love it when you just pick them up have your way with them, they love that.
Knowing that another man has "had his way" with your wife is very very hurtful. However I loved her enough to accept that, I NEVER BROUGHT THIS UP. It would only come to my mind in the dark hours of the night as she lay next to me, and it def hurt. However I kept it to myself. This was NOT the reason for divorce.
I was only posting this to some other smug liberal guy like me who thinks he is more "modern" and can handle it, think twice.
But I didn't expect to see this harsh kind of reaction, I thought it being a Pakistani forum , people would understand.
wow!!
hahahaha omg rofl hahaha
Some intense **** going on in here.