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wow. thanks for the heads up man. appreciate it
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just because you're living in a western country it doesnt make it ok for you to sleep around with girls. and you're attitude with women is really horrible.....the way you think of them. ok i know it must hurt you to know that you're wife has had sexual relationship with another man.....but its equally hurting for a woman too. Im sure you're new wife must be feeling the same about you having slept with someone else. Personally I think a divorced man would probably be better able to live and work it out with a divorced woman....and vice versa.
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GAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!
How can you NOT be a troll??? 
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Edal, you are very correct from a male point of view. No woman will take it easily what you wrote. However, I would say you made several mistakes!
A woman is her father's , her past lover's, her husband's...... all at ONE TIME. She is made like that. She is like a liquid that can take any shape. A husband has to control her and that's what Islam says clearly. Agar aap roab nahi rakhain ge toa woh app ko nachae gee....you will dance on her tips.....for sure!
Never spend lavishly on wife in early days. See how your relationship and understanding grows with time. There are couples where all finances are handled by women and husbands are happy with that......but that is after 15+ years of marriage.
A wife that eagerly looks at your wallet is never good!
Marriage is not a movie scene. It is opposite.
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^ then you dust off and get right back up** * feels like another songs coming on ***
Yup:
And if at first you don"t succeed
Then dust yourself off and try again
You can dust it off and try again, try again
Cause if at first you don"t succeed
You can dust it off and try again
Dust yourself off and try again, try again (and again)
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During the great "act" women are the ones who "take it", I mean you know what I mean, they get used for the mans carnal pleasure.
WOW.....just a pure WOW!!! I literally spit out my tea when I read this. With that type of attitude about sex....your wife is one lucky girl!
Men are nasty and gross. That's why women will never experience the torture we do knowing you have been penetrated.
LOL.....I wonder how the men reading this feel knowing that their wives/GF sees them as "nasty and gross".
You see it goes back to our man brains, no matter how much feminists hate it, or how liberal we are, we can't change our DNA. In the depths of the male mind he views his wife as his territory, for him to know that another man experienced that territory is TORTURE!!
Wow...once again...what a lucky woman your wife is...to be viewed as your "territory". If only the rest of us will be lucky enough to find a man like you!
** On a total side note...with comments like these coming from a Muslim man....Islam doesn't need non-Muslims to make us look bad. Non-Muslims don't need to come up with their own insults or fabricated lies....they can just interview people like you and just take the direct quotes.
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Don't worry, EDAL.
It's all good if you slept with girls in the wild wild West. As the saying goes, "When in Rome...do as the Romans do." That mantra might have been your guiding force.
And then when you married pure girl, it might have been "What happens in Rome, stays in Rome." :D
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Ok now we are playing..
Edal beta, when you open a thread (esp in life1), you remain stay there to see wuts coming in and respond as per that. But glad you came back.
Hang in there... you'll know many faces here within no time, esp if you write something against any woman...TOBA TOBA ISTEGHFAR...
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I rarely come to this section but i read the first post and here's my take on it...
Edal thta's what happens when young fools fall in love with a hot woman. I mean let's be honest she was probably stunning and that's why everyone was okay with you getting married. most pakistani families would hate to have a divorced daughter in law, much less one that is older. the fact that you moved out of your parents home and bought into her words shows she was probably a decent lover and eventually her charms weren't enough for you to forgive her bad habits and ugly personality. I have seen lots of men move out of their parents house for a wife that demanded it and most of the time it ends badly, either they are the wife's slave and will always be told what to do or they divorce and go home to their parents with their head down. I don't feel sorry for you at all because I have seen this happen plenty of times. I hope this is a lesson learned and more men realize that just bc a woman is hot doesn't mean she's wife material. good luck on the next marriage.
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Women are things of beauty and pleasure
THINGS? seriously!!! and then you say you expect people to understand. :(
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I rarely come to this section but i read the first post and here's my take on it...
Edal thta's what happens when young fools fall in love with a hot woman. I mean let's be honest she was probably stunning and that's why everyone was okay with you getting married. most pakistani families would hate to have a divorced daughter in law, much less one that is older. the fact that you moved out of your parents home and bought into her words shows she was probably a decent lover and eventually her charms weren't enough for you to forgive her bad habits and ugly personality. I have seen lots of men move out of their parents house for a wife that demanded it and most of the time it ends badly, either they are the wife's slave and will always be told what to do or they divorce and go home to their parents with their head down. I don't feel sorry for you at all because I have seen this happen plenty of times. I hope this is a lesson learned and more men realize that just bc a woman is hot doesn't mean she's wife material. good luck on the next marriage.
Ends badly because their wives demand it or ends badly simply because they move out from their family home?
Most people would say living with the husband's parents is more likely to cause problems than moving away from them (but still obviously better to stay close by).
As for bad habits and ugly personality I don't think u can get much worse than people who think it's ok to 'mess around' before marriage with multiple partners but then demand or expect their other halves to be virgins..
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Her father kept her like guarded treasure. She was not even allowed to use facebook or hotmail.
so people who use hotmail and facebook are unguarded treasures? flintstones meet the flintstones :D
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oh em gee @ some of the responses
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EDAL, wait till someone does that to your daughter
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lol tell me about it.
so people who use hotmail and facebook are unguarded treasures? flintstones meet the flintstones :D
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EDAL I hope you are blessed with lots and lots of daughters, as they are simply treasures. :)
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Finally, look I know I made some mistakes in the past in terms of having sexual relations with Western females outside of marriage. I admit it was wrong. I have made tons and tons of tauba over it.
However, lets be honest here do not the vast majority of young Muslim men in the U.S or Canada also do this? I mean most of my friends were either Lebanese, or Irani/Afghan, and their all doing this. But all of them want and get virgin wives from back home. Especially if you go of to college, its almost a right of passage.
Now before my whole experience I use to look down on them as having double standards. I use to ridicule them over this. I use to say smugly "I am open minded blah blah blah " All turned out to be BS.
Yet when I was put in that position myself, what I learned was they were right, and I was wrong. You see it goes back to our man brains, no matter how much feminists hate it, or how liberal we are, we can't change our DNA. In the depths of the male mind he views his wife as his territory, for him to know that another man experienced that territory is TORTURE!!
You see, women will say" you also had gf's and had sex etc." Yes but you can't claim that in terms of sexuality, perceptions, and relationships men and women are equal.
Men can have 4 wives in Islam, and some women do tolerate that. I don't know a single guy who will share his wife with 4 men, hence its not allowed in Islam.
Women are things of beauty and pleasure, even other women will appreciate a pretty girl. Men are nasty and gross. That's why women will never experience the torture we do knowing you have been penetrated.
Also, and I hate to do this, but lets admit it. During the great "act" women are the ones who "take it", I mean you know what I mean, they get used for the mans carnal pleasure. All women I have been with totally love it when you just pick them up have your way with them, they love that.
Knowing that another man has "had his way" with your wife is very very hurtful. However I loved her enough to accept that, I NEVER BROUGHT THIS UP. It would only come to my mind in the dark hours of the night as she lay next to me, and it def hurt. However I kept it to myself. This was NOT the reason for divorce.
I was only posting this to some other smug liberal guy like me who thinks he is more "modern" and can handle it, think twice.
But I didn't expect to see this harsh kind of reaction, I thought it being a Pakistani forum , people would understand.
Ignorance at its best.
And the reason why a liberal guy like you couldn't handle it is because you were PRETENDING to be liberal. Gazillions of people marry divorced men and women and can live with it. Because they have the sense to see the reality for what it is. This is not to say that it is easy.
But instead of using a ridiculous example from Islam (that you clearly know nothing about), you should accept that you failed to accept her completely, including her having had sex with anther man.
And just because you failed, doesn't mean every single man in the world is like that, or every single woman is used for men's carnal desires or that women are men's "territory".
And Pakistani forum doesn't mean your hypocrisy and stupidity would be cherished and you'd be comforted for being ignorant.
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dude ager himat naheen to panga leena zaroori tha???
She did not cheat on you or stole from you, did she??
She getting divorce after divorce tells she not any smarter then you.
As ppl said you didn't have to go in with out knowing her issues, to begin with.
Still your view of life situation sounds some what shallow for a person who is
focused on grater good.
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Ends badly because their wives demand it or ends badly simply because they move out from their family home?
Most people would say living with the husband's parents is more likely to cause problems than moving away from them (but still obviously better to stay close by).
As for bad habits and ugly personality I don't think u can get much worse than people who think it's ok to 'mess around' before marriage with multiple partners but then demand or expect their other halves to be virgins..
it's never a wise choice to make an ultimatum and force a man to chose between his parents and his wife, at the same time both parties the wife and the inlaws much play fairly. it seems like his parents and family were nice ppl... anyhow like i said i've seen this story happenn many times i'm surprised people assumed his story was fake.
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Don't worry, EDAL.
It's all good if you slept with girls in the wild wild West. As the saying goes, "When in Rome...do as the Romans do." That mantra might have been your guiding force.
And then when you married pure girl, it might have been "What happens in Rome, stays in Rome." :D
For him its more like, "When in Rome, do the Romans!!!" lmao