My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

[Pakistani_Prince]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

@aqua70

So much misinformation…

@Bobby1 uncle, why can you not stay on topic, the 4 witness is for if people accuse woman of being an adulteress. Accusing someone of committing zina without proof is actually a sin in itself, doesn’t matter “who” you believe. Idk why you brought in the sexual assault part because for that a woman does not need witnesses to present her case, speaking strictly in Islamic court.

100% correct

[Iconoclast]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

@Bobby1

You can ask for a divorce and you ask for the cheaters property and alimony and child support payments and the children of cheaters spit on the cheaters face and don’t subscribe to this bs that an adulterer and a cheat and a liar is still deserving of respect because he is a father. Polygamy is a crime in our society.

Hahahaa
Who the **** do you think you can deceive with this bs. The French First Lady was ****ing classfellow of her son, Clinton was ****ing his intern, Trump was ****ing everyone he could. So go back to your cage and battle some imaginary Desi villains. And go spit on the faces of Trumps and ClinTons.

[Beeba123]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

‘It really isn’t accepted’ because it is isn’t. Me and my dad had a very calm convo. Yesterday he was 100% normal. There was no drama. There never is cos I follow my mums example and keep quiet for the sake of peace at home.

We see them often, every family event as I have mentioned. All I asked is how to DEAL with it because I find it hard to.

I’m not sure why you are trying to make this much more negative than it needs to be

[Beeba123]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

@Xaos I never said I hated them. I said I hated the situation. And I want to know how is best to deal with these emotions to move on in life. I am nothing but kind to my half brother and sister but it is hard for me INSIDE.

So before you go making sweeping statements of someone’s maturity level, taking jabs at their emotional instability and their apparent hatred (made up in your own head), have a look at how you come across yourself.

That’s really sad. If you don’t actualy want to be helpful then don’t join online community boards.

[Beeba123]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

Guys to claify, there is no ‘step invovled’. My parents are not divorced. The other woman has 0 relation to me and the 2 kids are my half siblings.

[Beeba123]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

Not the only time you were wrong ;0)

[Xaos]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

@Beeba123 I am not the only one who is saying that one needs a certain level of maturity to move on from such situations. As for the hatred, people don’t have to spell it out for other people to know, it was quite evident from your first post.

[Bobby1]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

@Iconoclast

Hahahaa
Who the **** do you think you can deceive with this bs. The French First Lady was ****ing classfellow of her son, Clinton was ****ing his intern, Trump was ****ing everyone he could. So go back to your cage and battle some imaginary Desi villains. And go spit on the faces of Trumps and ClinTons.

I had an industrialist friend back home, he is one of the wealthiest guys in Pak and he was the biggest womanizer ever, he had been with countless women, many married, Many Pakistani politicians like Khar had a huge reputation for raping school girls etc also for common people I had seen a ton of hanky panky going on. There was this Pakistani girl who wrote an article about being with dozen men before she turned 19 so lets not act like this stuff does not happen there. It happens a lot. If people get caught here there is legal recourse, I think Tiger Woods wife took in hundreds of millions. Many women are financially dependent there and have virtually no rights in case of divorce and divorce is a stigma so they are forced to stay with the deceptive man. We Are civilised people we don’t spit on people and aggressive in discussions.

If the law gave them the financial protections there is a good chance the mother would have walked away.

[Beeba123]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

@Iconoclast your comment is stupid and has 0 basis. There’s not point continuing any further because straight up this was a waste of time for anyone who read it. Don’t. Post. If. You. Don’t. Care. And. Think. Everyone. Is. Beneath. You.

[Beeba123]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

OK @Xaos
There’s no conversating with someone with pre-judgements.

[Beeba123]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

@Bobby1

I think the step mom has a major blame to take as she had an affair with a married man who had children, step children should confront their mother about her morals. The other issue is the misogynist patriarchal culture which allows women to be treated in this way. If OP would be open to diverting her energies towards speaking about inequalities and women’s rights then that would be a great thing. I also dont agree with parents being respected regardless of being cheats and liars. I never demand my kids and wife to respect me, one should be deserving of respect. The reason they dont think twice before engaging in bad behavior is that society mandates children and wife respect them even if they are not deserving.

Yup.

[Beeba123]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

@Illuminate

This thread may be getting a little derailed.

OP, I’m sending prayers and good thoughts your way. Hoping you come out stronger than ever and find peace with the situation. Your family has worked through it. I know you will continue to do so as well. All things come together eventually and you may not see it now but if you have positive thoughts and intentions and continue to work on yourself things will work out for the best. Good luck.

Thank you so much. I needed positive vibes after this whole thread took a major L

[Beeba123]

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@Bobby1 that is true but in my personal case my mum didn’t leave because she didn’t want children to be disturbed, also she comes from wealthy fam herself so she would have been OK.

[Bobby1]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

@Beeba123

@Bobby1 that is true but in my personal case my mum didn’t leave because she didn’t want children to be disturbed, also she comes from wealthy fam herself so she would have been OK.

Good luck young lady, you have a good head on your shoulder and you will be fine. There is always a price to pay for our actions. The biggest asset for a man is the love and respect of his wife and children and tainting that is a great loss. We all die and leave legacies behind and the best legacy is that the family knows that this man gave his family everything and put the family’s needs above his all the time. My wife’s father died when she was quite young, he was an amazing father and she talks about him so lovingly. I live my life so after me my children talk about me the same way. So if your father has lost a bit of respect then he has paid a big price.

[Iconoclast]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

@Bobby1

I had an industrialist friend back home, he is one of the wealthiest guys in Pak and he was the biggest womanizer ever, he had been with countless women, many married, Many Pakistani politicians like Khar had a huge reputation for raping school girls etc also for common people I had seen a ton of hanky panky going on. There was this Pakistani girl who wrote an article about being with dozen men before she turned 19 so lets not act like this stuff does not happen there. It happens a lot. If people get caught here there is legal recourse, I think Tiger Woods wife took in hundreds of millions. Many women are financially dependent there and have virtually no rights in case of divorce and divorce is a stigma so they are forced to stay with the deceptive man. We Are civilised people we don’t spit on people and aggressive in discussions.

If the law gave them the financial protections there is a good chance the mother would have walked away.

My friend you can’t even make a logical argument, You carry a baggage of desi family issues that haunts you. I hope one day you will be able to think clearly. I am done arguing with you.

[Beeba123]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

@Bobby1

Good luck young lady, you have a good head on your shoulder and you will be fine. There is always a price to pay for our actions. The biggest asset for a man is the love and respect of his wife and children and tainting that is a great loss. We all die and leave legacies behind and the best legacy is that the family knows that this man gave his family everything and put the family’s needs above his all the time. My wife’s father died when she was quite young, he was an amazing father and she talks about him so lovingly. I live my life so after me my children talk about me the same way. So if your father has lost a bit of respect then he has paid a big price.

Yep that is definitely right. Thank you so much @Bobby1

[Iconoclast]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

@Beeba123

@Iconoclast your comment is stupid and has 0 basis. There’s not point continuing any further because straight up this was a waste of time for anyone who read it. Don’t. Post. If. You. Don’t. Care. And. Think. Everyone. Is. Beneath. You.

I don’t post to get approval. If validation is what you are looking for, then you have got a long way to get over it. Good luck.

[Iconoclast]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

@Beeba123

Yep that is definitely right. Thank you so much @Bobby1

A daughter feeling happy for a stranger, bad mouthing her father, to be validated. Tuch tuch tuch.

[Beeba123]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

OK @Iconoclast. If you can’t understand the wider breath of @Bobby1 ‘s comment and have nothing of value left to say instead of mindless comments, please just don’t say anything

[Xaos]

Re: My dads secret other marriage and years of fighting with it

@Beeba123 Sorry to burst your bubble but you don’t make the rules here,you can’t tell anyone to not register or not post. Just how bad you are at taking criticism even from anonymous people online shows what a long way you have go in order to get over this.