Re: Multiple Wives
sara 87, don't agree with some1 simply because they are perverted enough too misquote an islamic teaching......look into it YOURSELF. There's a lot of [EMAIL="b@#tards"]b@#tards out there, some of whom claim to be muslims.
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lol chacha jee dun be chamcha:rotfl: 
..u know …me know and whole world knows ..we r allowed to marry more then 1 woman..jalo jalo:yahoo: 
…if u disagree with that then there is nothing left to talk and frankly speaking there is no difference between u and non muslims .
.u r clearly putting down things which r allowed in islam eventhough u know u r wrong…its not i m in favour of marrying more then 1 girl… …but there r ppl who do want to have chaaar biwis nothing wrong..god has made that halal 
and i have no rite to critize something which is halal in islam and same applies to every other muslim:chai: …
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Thanks for all your replies guys! :) I personally cant imagine everrrrrr letting my husband get married to someone while im still around... for me thats a NO-NO.. i wouldnt be able to deal with him spending time with her, having kids with her and all that... and no matter what you guys say about treating them both EQUALLY, its human nature to have a bias... face it... the guy is going to like one wife more than the other. The case with my friend is he married two of his cousins... one is a year older and the other is a year younger.. he married both of them in the same month... he says he likes the older one moer (the first wife)... but i dont think he likes his second wife AT ALL... I dont understand why he had to have two wives.... its just a tradition he has been forced to continue because his jatt family believes he SHOULD.. not that he really needs to because im sure his second wife could have found someone else to marry.... I think its strange that his wives consented to this marriage knowing beforehand that he was definitely gonna marry a second one... especially because they are educated and have been raised in the US and Canada.... these laws were made thousands of years ago.. and at that time, these laws were necessary to fit those circumstances... im not saying we should do away with teh law altogether, of course not, because that is what Allah (swt) wanted, and it can still apply to many people who are disadvantaged due to the inability to have children, financial situation, etc... but simple reasons such as TRADITION? no way, to me thats unacceptable...
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Instead of dodging my post, answer the question. I'll repost again:
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Now, I wonder if this discussion is about mutliple wives or ideals of masculinity. Why are the two intertwined? At age 80, Hugh Hefner has 3 live in girlfriends and looks like a coat hanger (who needs a cane in strong wind). What's his story?
What's a "real" man?
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If you don't know, then admit it. From your post, it doesn't sound like you knew many growing up.
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If you don't have anything useful to contribute, then move on. Stop polluting every thread with your nonsense.
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and if some man wishes to do so, he has every right to do so....
and if a woman is not happy with Islamic laws, the man is better off without having a wife who doubts laws put down by Allah Himself....
I agree. That sums it up nicely.
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she find it neccasery, i guess:rotfl: …
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all i have to say is that it is allowed, guys dont have to, many dont, but they can, women have the choice if her husband does so, she can leave him, as she has the right to for any reason...ask any scholar, they will tell u the same.
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yeah its just sad because i feel sorry for his second wife... he says hes scared of her, basically doesnt like her, adn already plans to have his first kid with his first wife because hes clearly not itnerested in the second wife... its actually strange because he called the second wifes parents when talk of his marriage to her was initiated and simply told them that he didnt want to marry her... but tehy were headstrong on keeping it in the family and forced him to marry her anyway.... it doesnt make sense to me... why would any parent want to ptu their daughter ina position where shes going to be second best and where they already KNOW that the guy doesnt even WANT to marry her.... i think us Muslims need to focus more on religion rather than culture and tradition... because religion is much more important than the other two if you ask me.... the girl is young and educated, has no medical problems, and doesnt need to play second fiddle to anyone.... really very sad. I hope that this cycle of forced marriages, broken hearts, and demeaning behavior comes to an end one day because we as Muslims and Pakistanis are better than that. I've heard one too many sad stories of people not being allowed to marry each other because they weer in love BEFORE marriage, of people being forced to marry cousins or whatever just to honor their parents and tradition... will it ever end???
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I understand that Islam allows a man to have up to 4 wives and no more, and even though the debate on circumstances and conditions will continue till the Day of Judgement, I just don't see how anyone could possibly think that the guy in this case is justified and Islamic in his actions. The people that think he has an Islamic right to behave this way have a seriously inaccurate perception of Islam.
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ooohhh mr hussain, u still don't get it, having multiple wives IS allowed ( r u with me so far, mr 'i never went too school'), OK now here the other clever part that you don't seem too understand, theyr'e are certain circumstances which allow a man too marry more than one woman of which all are about the protection of vulnerable women (u still with me, or do u need me start again mr unparr), i'm not gonna go over them because you already know them.
I know ure problem hussain, ure insecure about your ability to perform as a man & know that IF you ever find a wife she would surpass you in every way & your scared that soon (very soon), you'd have to hand her the trousers & you'd end up cooking & doing the dishes with an apron around your waist "MR" hussain....87.
also note that using sooooo many smiley/ laughy arm waving cartoony things in your reply only shows your immaturity & your lack of ability too argue.:)
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luxuryitem, nobody dodged your question, you just never read through the replies properly, so here we go again....just for you LI....so whats a real man?........PyariCgudia describes the basic character or a 'real' man..........& i agreed, don't get me wrong, thats just the basic character traits, there's a lot more......but you'd have to know me to know what the rest are............oh look, i got another warning, just when the last one was removed.........damn you mr hussain....87.........this is what happens when you talk too thick people.
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Just a side note for everyone. Stay away from personal remarks and discuss the content of the topic.
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I agree with you pyaricgudia, i just wish our elders would finally wake up and smell teh coffee, they impose too many of their ideas on the kids, thus leading them to kinda sin... cuz he only did it for his parents, and now hes having a very hard time being equal.... and face it, i really doubt anyone can ever be equal in treatment to more than one woman... its human nature for him to have a preference.... chocolate is chocolate but some is more delicious than others
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How many husbands have you had?
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quite a few
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The only reason I see here for him to not marry the two girls is that he was pressured and unwilling to be part of the second marriage. He didn't even like the second girl. If he liked them both, and thought he might be able to treat them equally, then it would have been fine.
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Your definitions would exclude:
- Alan Turing. (homo)
- Alex. The Great. (homo)
- Hazraat Suleiymaan (hetero)
This is a small list but if you looked you'd find more. Point is that you can't define real man/woman/person in terms of r'ship to opposite gender. Life is much bigger than that. We are used to pcg's idiotic posts but I was giving you the benefit of the doubt. Grow up, live a little and your model will be refined to include a larger world view. Let me know when that happens and we'll talk again.
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This is somewhat off topic, but I just wanted to say that reading your posts (and reactions to them) was very entertaining.
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just pissing of some western namooniess 