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"You will never be able to be fair and just among women (wives)...." Qur’an (4:129)
thankyou for posting this :)
We all know that Allah knows us better than we know ourselves....cuz he is our creator and he knows things about us that even we dont know. If Allah says you will not be able to be fair and just among women....then this is the end of this discussion :)
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and please stop ignoring the verse i posted from the Quran :)
and you're welcome...Impulse and Sahar. :)
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Oh my God, what a pot of bullcrap.
Right, so I’m never going to know what sisterhood means until I let my husband take on a second wife.
What a retarded post.
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I am over-drastically sorry if you think somehow there was a parallel connection between my post and this comment of yours. I totally do not agree with you even though you might have though for a second that you were agreeing with me.
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makes me question my faith…seems contradictory with the verse where it talks about the number of wives…
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Speaking strictly in terms of just the condition of the marriage, would a man ever need to be faithful if he has the right to marry more than one wife? He would constantly be looking around for the next wife.
Does it only apply to men. I mean if a woman has a very high paying job, could she also have multiple husbands if she can support all of them? Just wondering…although, I don’t understand why she would want to have more than one:hayaa:.
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Imagine all the babysitting.
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^ You are totally in denial of one important and major aspect of Islamic life. Should u decide to marry a muslim which I think you will, you will always have this fear of him bringing another woman- which I think he has full rights and powers to. I am guessing you will learn to adjust with you sister with time... JazakAllah :)
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Seems like I've opened a pandora's box here.
As far as I understand the issue about multiple wives, Allah (swt) has given the option to men to marry up to four women. But this option has certain conditions; one of which is NOT to marry for lust or to fulfill sexual satisfaction. This option is there to help or give "sahara" to women who need it. So to put in persepective, lets consider a married couple who are living a happy life. One day they come across a girl who is physically disabled and is stuck in poverty; In this situation, the man CAN marry this girl and prove to be her "sahara". This act would give the guy azeem sawaab.
Looking at things superficially, I don't think I would marry more than once. I don't really know why but I wouldn't have the inspiration to get married a second time.
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Okay, need I look around and see that most muslim men are monogamous. A whopping majority, in fact. And the type that take on more than one wife (in this day and age) are not the type of guys that most civilized women would run into in the first place.
Smell the reality. Chances are, I'll be in a monogamous marriage until the day I die. And there is nothing haraam about that.
AND I will still be able to experience sisterhood. What a great deal.
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can anyone explain y the stipulations r kinda contradictory?
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As far as I understand the issue about multiple wives, Allah (swt) has given the option to men to marry up to four women. But this option has certain conditions; one of which is NOT to marry for lust or to fulfill sexual satisfaction. This option is there to help or give "sahara" to women who need it. So to put in persepective, lets consider a married couple who are living a happy life. One day they come across a girl who is physically disabled and is stuck in poverty; In this situation, the man CAN marry this girl and prove to be her "sahara". This act would give the guy azeem sawaab.
Looking at things superficially, I don't think I would marry more than once. I don't really know why but I wouldn't have the inspiration to get married a second time.
We should ask quas and his type whether he's going to be heading to northern Pakistan or Sudan or Iraq sometime soon to take on a mutilated woman as his wife. I doubt he'll be able to handle being married to an unfortunate woman as his first wife, let alone as a second.
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:k:
But again, how many guys are willing to marry another woman to help her? Like someone else said, those guys who say its their Islamic right, they don’t tend to be religious at all anyway, only when it happens to suit them.
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2 confusing
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Just find one chik willing to put up wit u and ure nakhray, THEN worry about findin another :biggthumb
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im a one woman man, most guys arguing in here are.
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yah all the guys who complain about wnating to have 2-3-4 wives will prolly never be able to satisfy one wife 
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Yah, I only want one wife, and she will be satisfied…Hopefully 
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I would say _______ Jaanu you can marry her I am okay with it. No matter whatever reason; to financially support her or if he loves her or if he wants to marry her or to get his own child (I wouldn't be so selfish, i would let him marry someone else if I wasn't able to bear my own child).
A selfish woman won't let her husband marry another girl or lady to get his own child.
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I am willing to head towards Northern Pakistan, Iraq, or Sudan to marry my wife 2nd/3rd wife- no issues but only on one condition- my first wife has to be from gupshup. Bolo, manzoor hai? You believe in good men.. I believe in good women.