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That's a good point but typically the diff in age in those instances wasn't that high (maybe 3-4 yrs max). It's not like I the girl was 32 and I liked her 19 yr old younger sis.
well that's still a good difference, i know me n my sister are about 5yrs apart and it feels like on some matters i belong to a diff century :p.
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By the way, I think it would be different if you happened to meet the second one, fell in love, and were both prepared to get married. Then I think the parents INSISTING that you wait until the older sib gets married is frustrating.
BUT you just said that you're crushing on several younger sisters, and it's certainly not something that the parents should change their plans for.
Well, one of the families specifcally said that while they liked me they will only marry off their elder and not the younger one. Just due to the stupid desi social "stigma".
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yeh depend karta hai ke tum loag kitna wait kar sakte ho. i mean for example you guys are ok waiting for one yr or phir bhi bari behen kanwari hai tou surely your parents can speak to her parents and say “ke ab kaafi arsa hogaya hai shaadi ho jani chahiye” and i am pretty sure ek saal ke baad larki ke parents is tarah se rishta haath se jane nahi denge. haan zahiri si baat hai rishta mangte waqt yeh kehna munasib nahi hoga ke hum ek do saal tak wait karein ge us doran tak bari ki shaadi hogayi tou theek warna aapko choti ki pehle karni pare gi coz that will sound mean.
agar phir bhi baat nahi ban rahi tou mera mashwara yeh hai ke aise rishte dhoondo jahan bari choti ka chakkar hi na ho…ek hi beti ho unki ya ek hi ho jis ki shaadi honi reh gayi ho…goodluck. 
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If the age difference isn’t too drastic between the two sisters, a lot of times families will marry off the younger sister first. If its an average rishta they won’t even think about it, but if its a good rishta parents are willing to get their younger daughter married off first. It has happened with serveral of my guy cousins and the girls family were willing to get their younger daughter married off first.
Heres what I think happened:
Bhari Wali:
HotTea: 
Bhari Wali: 
Choti Wali: 
HotTea to Choti Wali: 
Choti Wali: :no:
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haha - that’s just nasty..
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Take a step back girls.
Dont mix the issue of cheap process of lerkee daikhna with liking chotee wali. As much as I am against this whole process of eating free snacks at girl's place its totally a personal preference for guy or girl to like or dislike someone.
If someone does not like the girl he went in to meet and instead liked the younger sister, whats wrong with it ?
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Take a step back girls.
Dont mix the issue of cheap process of lerkee daikhna with liking chotee wali. As much as I am against this whole process of eating free snacks at girl's place its totally a personal preference for guy or girl to like or dislike someone.
If someone does not like the girl he went in to meet and instead liked the younger sister, whats wrong with it ?
I'd say leave em alone. I have been ignoring those posters as well. They are just immature women who feel that if someone doesn't "like" them, it will be the end of the world. If you are really a grown-up you should be be able to take "acceptance" and "rejection" in stride.
Re: mujhe choti wali pasand hai!!
Take a step back girls.
Dont mix the issue of cheap process of lerkee daikhna with liking chotee wali. As much as I am against this whole process of eating free snacks at girl's place its totally a personal preference for guy or girl to like or dislike someone.
If someone does not like the girl he went in to meet and instead liked the younger sister, whats wrong with it ?
D6C: It seems that the OP has a pattern of preferring the younger one. It's not like there's one he's fallen madly in love with. He is just more interested in the ONES that he's not actually brought in to see.
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sounds like a commitment issue to me.
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I'd say leave em alone. I have been ignoring those posters as well. They are just immature women who feel that if someone doesn't "like" them, it will be the end of the world. If you are really a grown-up you should be be able to take "acceptance" and "rejection" in stride.
It's kind of funny your calling people with a perspective different than yours immature. Maturity is when a person can be understanding of other viewpoints, whether they agree with it or not. Calling girls who don't share your viewpoint as suffering from sour grapes does not bolster your case.
And if you read what's written, most posters are trying to explain the rishta process from the girls and sisters POV - they are not trying to convince you to marry the older sister - just to approach the situation with a bit of sensitivity , which again is a measure of maturity.
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I'd say leave em alone. I have been ignoring those posters as well. They are just immature women who feel that if someone doesn't "like" them, it will be the end of the world. If you are really a grown-up you should be be able to take "acceptance" and "rejection" in stride.
Here is a very simple answer.
You were there to see the older one, you can either say yes, no, or I'd like to know more about her. You weren't there to see the younger one, and she is not an option. If you had gone to see the "choti wali" and were a really good rishta, you could of have had a chance and her parents would consider you before the older sister, but you weren't there to see her. That is the problem, stop blaming the desi mentality.
Sisters have a very special bond, and since you mentioned the word rejection, the younger sister is probably going to think that you rejected her older sister for her and that is just going to cause problems. Even if the older sister encouraged the younger sister to consider you as a rishta, she probably wouldn't because depending on how close they are, she probably would be guilty.
As for your other question on why parents go in order, its not due to the desi mentality, but more of the reason of arranged marriages. If we had love marriages, girls would get married when they fall in love, but since we have arranged marriages, parents have to look for suitable ristas. Parents are going to look for rishtas for their oldest daughter first because of the obvious factor of age. Parents do consider engagements for their younger daughters if there are good rishtas since no desi parents wants to let a good rishta get away.
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D6C: It seems that the OP has a pattern of preferring the younger one. It's not like there's one he's fallen madly in love with. He is just more interested in the ONES that he's not actually brought in to see.
That is not true. You're just making things up at this point. If I did have an actual true preference of younger girls ONLY, I wouldn't even have gone to see the older sister.
This is not some ploy at my end to indirectly bag me a younger girl by first looking at the elder sis. If I wanted a younger girl, that's what I would then specifically target. To me age doesn't make a difference (unless its on extremes).
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Here is a very simple answer.
You were there to see the older one, you can either say yes, no, or I'd like to know more about her. You weren't there to see the younger one, and she is not an option. If you had gone to see the "choti wali" and were a really good rishta, you could of have had a chance and her parents would consider you before the older sister, but you weren't there to see her. That is the problem, stop blaming the desi mentality.
why do things have to be so rigid? This is truly desi mentality.
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why do things have to be so rigid? This is truly desi mentality.
then marry a non-desi and stop complaining
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**Happened to me four five times now **where I have gone to see risha but I liked the younger sister. From the perspective of parents, why do they have to marry their girls in order? From an elder sister perspective, if your younger sister is getting good rishtas why stand in the way? i'd think she should be selfless and stand aside while the younger sis can get married.
As for me, tough luck i guess..
That is not true. You're just making things up at this point. If I did have an actual true preference of younger girls ONLY, I wouldn't even have gone to see the older sister.
This is not some ploy at my end to indirectly bag me a younger girl by first looking at the elder sis. If I wanted a younger girl, that's what I would then specifically target. To me age doesn't make a difference (unless its on extremes).
The part in red in your OP is what I was referring to.
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The case of OP would have been strong if good reasons were presented.
Since this is occurring usual and rather common for OP.
Possible solution:
1- His parents should request Larki Walay to show only one girl and even lie, " We have only one daughter dude!"
2- OP should not look for bari wali age girls ever!
3- Always ask, if they have a choti at home BEFORE going to anyone’s house. Then say, please ‘show’ choti wali (if withiin 3-5 years of bari wali). Why bother looking at bari wali? 
4- OP should become a little younger, so no one will show bari wali. 
I mean, yes it is a matter of choice agreed but do not go to someone’s house invited and start Taanka Jhaanki!
Shopping around in someone’s house is not good.
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^^^ WORD!!!.... It is disrespectful towards the potential girl, humans have sensitive feelings...
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ASHY your so funny 
..hahah.. I was having such a stressful day, U MADE ME SMILE BABE … HotTea is too shareef for me :p…lol… I guess he is being shy and all to contact me privately or respond us… He is probably taka jhaki other younger sisters…
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hahahahaaa $eher you have a competition here 
… i am youngest one as well:aisha: :is:.. all out going and bubbly type of girl 
… and i don’t resemble any slut at least on fb what do you think?? 
Itna SHAREEF larka aisy kaisy hatoon sey jany dein 
Sara where did i say that he should get married with eldest one out of pity. I was trying to tell him why eldest ones are self conscious when people come to see her.
and yes it is common practice in desi culture to hide youngest ones. One of my friend who is youngest and really beautiful used to hide in her store when people came to see her eldest sister. But when things nearly got finalized youngest one came in front of them and people changed their mind and asked for youngest one. Finally what they did they hide her completely till the day of engagement. And on that day SIL saw the my friend, her eyes sparkled and she said to my friend “ary app kahan chupi thin itny arsy sey” . The eldest sister was very self conscious till the day of her marriage.