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HOT TEA You were staring at larkiyo ki pictures on facebook a while ago and judging them, now you have gotten ur eyes on younger sisters because they are more fresh looking...lol ;)...
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HOT TEA .... lol.. :p You were staring at larkiyo ki pictures on facebook a while ago and judging them, now you have gotten ur eyes on younger sisters because they are more fresh looking...lol ;)...
He may just be posting for fun. He did not even come up to that larkiyo ki pictures on facebook thread to justify himself and opened another thread where he insisted that he liked younger girls when he visited to see the elder ones. He must be one smart munda on earth ;)
Coming back to the topic, I again insist that parents don't allow other daughters to meet the potential rishta families (unless the age different between the daughters is very small) so that such things of picking and choosing girls don't happen. Parents have their own opinions. Its a different argument that youngers ones should not be left unmarried because of elder ones. But this picking and choosing girl by the visitors seem like a buyer is choosing vegetables from a shop, bari wali nahi choti wali de do.
Still a guy/ his family likes the younger one, they can conver this to the parents afterwards and see their response. Things can proceed if parents are ok with it.
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Okay am I the only one who would get offended and even furious if a guy comes to see my older sister and I catch him checking me out instead… I would feel my sister is already being cheated and the guy is a huge tharki 
And for your information, in many cases I have seen the younger siblings themselves wanting their older siblings to get married first - it’s only natural. Also parents start looking for a rishta for their children when they’re almost done with their studies or have entered the professional phase or are simply just ready to get settled. And this phase comes on all of them one after the other (mostly in order unless in special cases where the older one still has to make a career and the younger one is ready to be settled etc.) or both of them are almost the same age so it doesn’t really matter that much.
Also, this is my very personal opinion, I strongly believe that the younger sisters have no reason to be there, since it’s an arranged marriage set up, you don’t know if you would accept the proposal or the other party will like you. In which case there is no need to unnecessarily appear in front of non-mehrams (whom you might have nothing to do with the rest of your life). It is understandable that the girl in question has to be there. If they don’t like the older sister, they can try again when the parents and that younger daughter decides to start looking for a match. Who are we to tell anyone, how to go about something just because it’s more convenient for ourselves.
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By the way, I think it would be different if you happened to meet the second one, fell in love, and were both prepared to get married. Then I think the parents INSISTING that you wait until the older sib gets married is frustrating.
BUT you just said that you're crushing on several younger sisters, and it's certainly not something that the parents should change their plans for.
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Happened to me four five times now where I have gone to see risha but I liked the younger sister. From the perspective of parents, why do they have to marry their girls in order? From an elder sister perspective, if your younger sister is getting good rishtas why stand in the way? i'd think she should be selfless and stand aside while the younger sis can get married.
As for me, tough luck i guess..
After 5 times you haven't yet realized what kind of spouse you are actually looking for?? Please make a list of the exact requirements you are looking for so that next time you don't waste some family's time
Even in arranged marriages people have a preference which is communicated between the families even before this whole rishta visit ritual. It seems to me that you have a preference which always changes when you see other options. If you continue like this it's going to be a long journey dude.
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**I don’t understand what happened to HOT TEA’s cousin who was trying to hook him up with her friends?.. Some of those Pakistani girls almost resembles with sluts according to him…lol.. All of the sudden, he is checking out rishtas but enabling interest towards non-potential younger sisters. He is the most shareefest guy I have ever seen to be honest with u who passes judgments based on looks/dressing ;)… I am the youngest sister among all, he should definitely try with me.. :is: YOUNG AND FRESH .. What do u think Ashy :p… ? 
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But it becomes awkward when people come to see bari wali and like choti wali. Have you ever thought about the rejected one's feeling. how will she feel? she can lose her self confidence and become more self conscious. Who knows before you how many times she has been rejected by people who likes her younger sister and that's why she is so self conscious. If you felt her pain you would not complain about this. No wonder people hide their younger daughters when proposal comes for elder ones.
Um so what do you expect him to do about it? Marry her out of pity? Why is it even his responsibility to care about her shattered ego?
We like who we like.
and you know--the little sisters have no need to even be there. as far as i remember that's how the rishta thing was done, younger girls aren't seen anywhere.
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Good idea $ehar. You have made things sooooo easy for HotTea. 
But be careful to have lots of pics with dupatta on your head 
HotTea, you should contact $ehar asap. She is the YOUNGEST sister, you see She will be the most fortunate girl on eath to have the most shareefest guy on the planet 
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I see what you are saying Hot Tea...the issue isn't WHY he likes a certain sister but rather why (usually) desi's insist on the marriage of the elder sister.....IMO it must be a thing where parents are paranoid that people may say that the elder one has something wrong with her.
I don't know how relevant that is today. My cousin is marrying before her sister and a few friends of mine have married before their elder sisters, however the marriages were love marriages rather than arranged
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love it:rotfl:
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hahhahah lol
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lol…oh i remember a paki drama where there was a rishta party who came to see the elder daughter and the younger daughter (who was supposedly more beautiful) was told strictly by her mom to stay behind and not come infront of the rishta party…now i know why 
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Sara, I’d have been more inclined to be sympathetic to the OP if there was ONE younger sister who he fell for who was just perfect for him. I’d totally encourage him to pursue the relationship. Younger sisters should NOT have to sacrifice their happiness for the older sisters and no one is telling the guy to fall on a sword and marry an incompatible older sister.
But it’s happened 4-5 times - it just seems like he’s almost biased towards the younger sisters 
And before anyone says anything to me, I’m a middle sister.
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Sounds like you went shopping 
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After 5 times you haven't yet realized what kind of spouse you are actually looking for?? Please make a list of the exact requirements you are looking for so that next time you don't waste some family's time
Even in arranged marriages people have a preference which is communicated between the families even before this whole rishta visit ritual. It seems to me that you have a preference which always changes when you see other options. If you continue like this it's going to be a long journey dude.
I do have a general set of requirements, it just so happened that in those instances, the younger sister fullfiled them a lot better than the elder sister. It's not as if I just change my requirements after looking at the younger sister.
And I'm not wasting anybody's "time". All the families I have visited know very well that I'm not coming to do nikkah with their daughter that very same day.
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maybe the qualities you like are specific to a certain age, maybe look for that specific age group of prospects?
p.s but they wl also grow one day, hopefuly :p so keep that in mind :D.
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Um so what do you expect him to do about it? Marry her out of pity? Why is it even his responsibility to care about her shattered ego?
We like who we like.
and you know--the little sisters have no need to even be there. as far as i remember that's how the rishta thing was done, younger girls aren't seen anywhere.
That's what I mentioned earlier. Asking for the "younger sister" is probably a little bit insensitive to the older, but hopefully, we're mature adults who can live with the fact that not everyone would like us. I know I do.
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maybe the qualities you like are specific to certain age, maybe look for that specific age group of prospects?
That's a good point but typically the diff in age in those instances wasn't that high (maybe 3-4 yrs max). It's not like I the girl was 32 and I liked her 19 yr old younger sis.