Happened to me four five times now where I have gone to see risha but I liked the younger sister. From the perspective of parents, why do they have to marry their girls in order? From an elder sister perspective, if your younger sister is getting good rishtas why stand in the way? i’d think she should be selfless and stand aside while the younger sis can get married.
As for me, tough luck i guess..
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they are not objects, u moron...
dont have to get married in a certain order, but its not ur going for shopping and u choose a different item!
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did you even read or udnerstand what I said? Being a typical desi woman, probably not. there are not objects nor am i going for shopping. Liking someone is a personal choice and I chose the younger sisters in those circumstances.
What's your problem with that?
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Beta - bari walii lay lo --- bari chez k baray faide hote haiN :)
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Happened to me four five times now where I have gone to see risha but I liked the younger sister. From the perspective of parents, why do they have to marry their girls in order? From an elder sister perspective, if your younger sister is getting good rishtas why stand in the way? i'd think she should be selfless and stand aside while the younger sis can get married.
As for me, tough luck i guess..
I likey you!
Now whose taking bets for the hat trick thread?
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you chose? was the option of choosing given? if not u were shopping!
n i dont care if u think of me as a typical desi woman, btw any sane person would not like this... be it desi or not...
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you chose? was the option of choosing given? if not u were shopping! n i dont care if u think of me as a typical desi woman, btw any sane person would not like this... be it desi or not...
Wow, sorry, but you are literally dumb as a rock. Yes, I will "CHOOSE" who I marry the same way the girl will "CHOOSE" me. As for shopping, if two guys ask for your proposal, and you choose one, are you "shopping" as well?
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ok maybe im mistaken, but u are talking abt seeing a proposal and liking the other sister more.... which is not the same as the example ur mentioning to me.
i guess u dont understand the meaning of the word 'choose' in this context...
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did you get two proposal?
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Happened to me four five times now where I have gone to see risha but I liked the younger sister. From the perspective of parents, why do they have to marry their girls in order? From an elder sister perspective, if your younger sister is getting good rishtas why stand in the way? i'd think she should be selfless and stand aside while the younger sis can get married.
As for me, tough luck i guess..
Just out of curiosity, what about the younger sister was more appealing? Was she more social, communicative, prettier, younger - how is it in 4 or 5 situations you always seemed to prefer the younger sister?
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Just out of curiosity, what about the younger sister was more appealing? Was she more social, communicative, prettier, younger - how is it in 4 or 5 situations you always seemed to prefer the younger sister?
Good question. In those instances, the looks weren't all that different (afterall they are sisters!) but I just felt the younger ones had a more polished educational background and seemed to have a more outgoing/bubbly personality. On the other hand, the older ones seemed lethargic and stern even.
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did you get two proposal?
no that's the whole point. They didn't want to marry off the younger one until the older got married, which is nuts in my mind. Who says you have to follow a numerical order in marrying off your daughters?
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Just out of curiosity, what about the younger sister was more appealing? Was she more social, communicative, prettier, younger - how is it in 4 or 5 situations you always seemed to prefer the younger sister?
this.
I can understand if it's a personality thing.
well why can't u get engaged to the lil sister?
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well some people dont care numbering/ordering.
i have seen example where parents initially insisted for elder and then ended with marrying younger sister.
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In an arranged setting, usually parents do not present other sisters to the guests and only the girl whose rishta they want to do first.
How come you always get to see the younger sister and like the younger one as compared to elder one? Have you got some obsession with the younger ones?
Your threads are always confusing and strange. You are a new member. Are you making fun of all of us here on GS who are genuinely trying to help others?
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Good question. In those instances, the looks weren't all that different (afterall they are sisters!) but I just felt the younger ones had a more polished educational background and seemed to have a more outgoing/bubbly personality. On the other hand, the older ones seemed lethargic and stern even.
Just to let you in on a little secret of arranged introductions. The "other" sister gets to be carefree because there is no pressure or expectations on her to "perform" for the prospective rishta. The girl who's being "viewed" already feels self-conscious and on display. Being stern may actually be her being reserved. As for being more polished, don't know what to say about that except, it might be a matter of perception.
But all of that is beside the point. The issue is why can't you marry the younger one, when you went to see the older sister. Technically, there's no reason you can't other than it's a bit insensitive to tell a family that you found one of their daughters to be "lacking."
If you can take some time and re-approach the family a bit later by suggesting that you're more compatible with the younger sister, why not pursue it. As for getting married before the older sister, it's a social taboo that has no basis except for society then perceiving the older sister as lacking in some way and not being marriageable - are you willing to take on the world and say she's a great person, except you liked the younger sister better?
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As Sehrysh said, those younger ones appear carefree and bubbly because they have nothing to be conscious of, as they see you as the prospect brother-in-law while you sit there checking them out and making comparisons between sisters.
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:k:
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and what to do if you like both 