Re: Mr. & Ms Right
*Itni bari thread mein aik bhi kaam ki baat nahin ...
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Well said Queer! 
Have you found your Mr. Right yet?
Nope NOT true and I will explain why. There is difference between what is recommended and what is true and false.
According to the fatwa above (if it is a fatwa) then the MAN should always be looking for a woman whose father earns or makes or has less than him. Thats the only way this will becomes true, since in most cases a woman is living with her parents and mostly the father of the girl is the bread winner.
**Having said that, you have to be able to see that the above ranting says that a woman's standard of living has to be the same or above what she had before marriage. This means that the man will definately always bring in a wife from a comparatively "poorer" family. Which goes totally against Islam.
Remember, PBUH married Hazrat Khadija who was much richer than him.**
No, it means husband's and wife's family could ideally come from similar backgrounds so less difficulty in adjustment for her. Not difficult to achieve, is it.
Regarding the last point, Khadija willingly married Prophet Mohammed PBUH and lived a simpler life with a lower living standard in terms of material things but does not make it compulsory for all women to have to, does it? Prophet Mohammed PBUH used to do housework yet strangely a lot of the same men who love to quote Qur'an and Sunnah conveniently forget this. It's all about 'I am the man so what I say goes, that is the end of it.'
Lastly, men and women are **equal but different, **he has rights over her but she also has plenty of rights over him as well.
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*Itni bari thread mein aik bhi kaam ki baat nahin ... *
Baroon kee bathein bachoon ko samajh naheen ateen.
Lastly, men and women are **equal but different, **he has rights over her but she also has plenty of rights over him as well.
...and dont forget the next statement. " but the man is a notch above"
right ?
Ur fayaxumptions are comical ! 
Agreed even if it is coming from a Queer !
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you straight people and your funny games...
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*002.228 Quran
**YUSUFALI* Divorced women shall wait concerning themselves for three monthly periods. Nor is it lawful for them to hide what Allah Hath created in their wombs, if they have faith in Allah and the Last Day. And their husbands have the better right to take them back in that period, if they wish for reconciliation. And women shall have rights similar to the rights against them, according to what is equitable; but men have a degree (of advantage) over them. And Allah is Exalted in Power, Wise.
let me say this too....
A successful marriage is result of constant hardwork, consideration, sincerity, understanding each other and patience of **BOTH **husband and wife. Something that you cannot do yourself, plz DO NOT expect from your other half that he/she ll do it for you.
In Islam about Husband Wife relation there is much emphasize on two words, those are MERCY and TOLERANCE. Be merciful to each other. If husband sees his wife (who is a stay at home wife) is doing her job properly, the duties on her part are carried out in the way he wants them to be, then plz do not critisize her for being a wife at home who doesnt do anything but stay at home and do usual domestic chores. And he on the otherside, compared to her, is doing a tougher job ie. bread winner. If hubby needs rest after his office hrs, n wife provides her that time, then he should be equally considerate about his wife 's rest hrs too. After all she is a human too.
If he doesnt want the nagging then he should not be a nagging husband too who all the times reminds her that she is a useless woman and does nothing. I am saying coz these words are very commonly heard from man's mouth. And I am ofcourse not talking about those women who actually sits at home n do nothing.
Thats from western statistics mainly.
Infidelity issues and cases are more in West.
*How did you come up with the one in bold? There are a lot of reasons that can cause divorce. I feel infidelity and totally opposite natures of the two ppl can cause more divorces then mere money matters. * My PERSONAL view, I feel MONEY should not be brought in ever in this relation. If you make MONEY as a measure for this relation, and a gurantee of long lasting LOVING relation, then remember MONEY is just a piece of paper and it never stays for long. So all those men and women who wants to marry rich ladies or rich men only for the sake of MONEY and high standard of life, should prepare theirselves for a divorce before hand.
I would have thought infidelity would be the main cause too
PS: pants dont look good on me anyway 
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lol .. do we actually practice what sum of us are preaching here?
Gupshup forum can be such a waste of time.
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Sheynie...the best way to tell if someone is a good person or not is to see how he deals with people!
Look at his interactions with everyone...even the waiter at the restaurant. See what people in his past have to say about him...that is always an eye opener. See how he treats his parents and does he let them run his life or does he make his own decisions while keeping a great relationship with them? Good character is hard to come by so the ones who possess it are always going to stand out. Your gut will guide you in the right direction in the end.
And again, any man who always has ALL the right answers is one to be careful of.
Mr Right might not remember the outfit you wore when you first met or your favorite color, but he will hold your hair back when you're throwing up...he will take care of you when you are sick...he will say you're beautiful even when you feel the opposite.
lol .. do we actually practice what sum of us are preaching here?
Gupshup forum can be such a waste of time.
Negativity is also a waste of time.
Mr Right might not remember the outfit you wore when you first met or your favorite color, but he will hold your hair back when you're throwing up...he will take care of you when you are sick...he will say you're beautiful even when you feel the opposite.
I didn't know you were that smart!
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^ Psquared is SUPER SMART! :)
Sheynie...the best way to tell if someone is a good person or not is to see how he deals with people!
Look at his interactions with everyone...even the waiter at the restaurant. See what people in his past have to say about him...that is always an eye opener. See how he treats his parents and does he let them run his life or does he make his own decisions while keeping a great relationship with them? Good character is hard to come by so the ones who possess it are always going to stand out. Your gut will guide you in the right direction in the end.
And again, any man who always has ALL the right answers is one to be careful of.
Mr Right might not remember the outfit you wore when you first met or your favorite color, but he will hold your hair back when you're throwing up...he will take care of you when you are sick...he will say you're beautiful even when you feel the opposite.
nicely written post. the last bit is especially true but unfortunately you can only find that out with time :)
Sheynie...the best way to tell if someone is a good person or not is to see how he deals with people!
Look at his interactions with everyone...even the waiter at the restaurant. See what people in his past have to say about him...that is always an eye opener. See how he treats his parents and does he let them run his life or does he make his own decisions while keeping a great relationship with them? Good character is hard to come by so the ones who possess it are always going to stand out. Your gut will guide you in the right direction in the end.
And again, any man who always has ALL the right answers is one to be careful of.
Mr Right might not remember the outfit you wore when you first met or your favorite color, but he will hold your hair back when you're throwing up...he will take care of you when you are sick...he will say you're beautiful even when you feel the opposite.
Ur Right PSquared but if one thinks about asking ppl about him , then if its his friends ,don't they say birds of a feather flock together......
So should I judge him by the company he keeps and the common characteristics of said company since in the US sometimes one hangs with colleagues or friends but not necessarily indulges in their practices...........
And then there are always those who have everyone fooled , like they say U never really know a person till you lived with them , but then its invariably too late !!!!!!
And what if a person's personality is attractive and U seem to click with them , and are on the same wavelength but he isn't what U imagined a life partner to be or fulfills that idea in your mind of how you perceived ur partner to be , then what ?
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Subhanallah, you all are therapists. Majority of posters speak out of Islamic wisdom and I have not seen any anti-muslim feminist ideas floating around in the past couple of days.
Good work!