The right to "wearing the pants" comes from being the Principle breadwinner .
U cannot expect a man to earn and provide and then not to even have the upper hand in the decision making. That is just wrong !!!!!
but some women dont see it that way.
Nope NOT true and I will explain why.
There is difference between what is recommended and what is true and false.
According to the fatwa above (if it is a fatwa) then the MAN should always be looking for a woman whose father earns or makes or has less than him. Thats the only way this will becomes true, since in most cases a woman is living with her parents and mostly the father of the girl is the bread winner.
Having said that, you have to be able to see that the above ranting says that a woman’s standard of living has to be the same or above what she had before marriage. This means that the man will definately always bring in a wife from a comparatively “poorer” family. Which goes totally against Islam.
Remember, PBUH married Hazrat Khadija who was much richer than him.
Re: Mr. & Ms Right
"
Originally Posted by Deeba1234 http://www.paklinks.com/gs/images/buttons/viewpost.gif
Actually, the bit in bold is not true:"
AE read what deeba even said.
Notice the “NOT” in there?
Re: Mr. & Ms Right
^ I agree Mr. to this part. The life style can be very different at hubby's home. The gal needs to adjust herself accordingly. Remember she has the right to choose her hubby. If she wants the same standard or wants to maintain her Father's status at her hubby's home too then she should marry the person who can provide her all that.
Also financial ups and downs are part of everyone's life. Today the guy who is rich, may not be rich soon after you marry him..
but some women dont see it that way.
Then some women need to get their priorities straight !
Re: Mr. & Ms Right
Men usually have upper hand in decision making. I have always seen them this way.
The other type AE is talking about, they are rare or okay they are minority.
Re: Mr. & Ms Right
Okay so we conclude that even though I dont have a job right now...and all the others posting here are women (who btw have jobs...lol)
Result = I am the boss with the pants!
Okay so we conclude that even though I dont have a job right now...and all the others posting here are women (who btw have jobs...lol)
Result = I am the boss with the pants!
Ur mind works in mysterious ways ........
Okay so we conclude that even though I dont have a job right now...and all the others posting here are women (who btw have jobs...lol)
Result = I am the boss with the pants!
We are talking about Husband Wife relation... not guppans and guppoos (whatever they r called) relation. so you are not the boss yet.
Ur mind works in mysterious ways ........
Life is a mystery with the future uncertain.
So coming around full circle, Mr. and Ms. Right are never predictable especially if provisions is the means for the measurement.
"
Facts: Money as a reason for divorce:
Money and Divorce Fact: Money may be the main reason for divorce.
Statistics do show that the majority of marriages that end in divorce cite “money problems” as the number one reason for divorce. Obviously, arguing over finances can cause irreparable damage in a relationship.
"
that smiley is retarded…
Thats one possible solution.
A guy who is making decent wages can come home, cook and clean all by himself. Like my famous quote:
" I dont need my TV watched so badly that I need to bring a wife into my life."
She has to bring something much more into a marriage. AS in support, company, intellectual stimulation, partnership in most matters, and of course lets not forget great meals!
what a thoroughly fayaxxxxtarded response
Life is a mystery with the future uncertain.
So coming around full circle, Mr. and Ms. Right are never predictable especially if provisions is the means for the measurement.
" Facts: Money as a reason for divorce: Money and Divorce Fact: Money may be the main reason for divorce. Statistics do show that the majority of marriages that end in divorce cite “money problems” as the number one reason for divorce. Obviously, arguing over finances can cause irreparable damage in a relationship. "
How did you come up with the one in bold? There are a lot of reasons that can cause divorce. I feel infidelity and totally opposite natures of the two ppl can cause more divorces then mere money matters.
My PERSONAL view, I feel MONEY should not be brought in ever in this relation. If you make MONEY as a measure for this relation, and a gurantee of long lasting LOVING relation, then remember MONEY is just a piece of paper and it never stays for long. So all those men and women who wants to marry rich ladies or rich men only for the sake of MONEY and high standard of life, should prepare theirselves for a divorce before hand.
Re: Mr. & Ms Right
im sure there are all kinds of men and women out there, if you look hard enough you'll find ones that suit your temperament and attitude towards life - finances, cooking, pants, et al.
with each additional factor you add to your priority list, you roughly halve your list of potential mates. so decide wisely what matters most. you dont get to be picky about a lot of things unless you are a 10 yourself (like me). or you are setting yourself up for disappointments and misery.
How did you come up with the one in bold? There are a lot of reasons that can cause divorce. I feel infidelity and totally opposite natures of the two ppl can cause more divorces then mere money matters.
My PERSONAL view, I feel MONEY should not be brought in ever in this relation. If you make MONEY as a measure for this relation, and a gurantee of long lasting LOVING relation, then remember MONEY is just a piece of paper and it never stays for long. So all those men and women who wants to marry rich ladies or rich men only for the sake of MONEY and high standard of life, should prepare theirselves for a divorce before hand.
Thats from western statistics mainly.