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I agree.
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Some reasons I've heard for not wanting to breastfed when they can...
- it gets too much
- can't work and breastfed
- maa ki poori raat ki neend zaroori hai, tou raat ko tou bottle must hai
- formula milk ki aadat honi chahye hai
- MIL to DIL who had twins: ab tum Har wakht iss kaam mey lagi raho gi tou ghar ke kaam kaisey houN ge?
In situations like the above, I do get sad for the child being deprived breast milk.
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I couldn’t have said it better myself! :k: And this is exactly what we ALL (especially men) need to remember when it comes to pregnancy, childbirth & breastfeeding. Its one thing for someone to attempt to understand the reasons behind why a woman may choose to have a c-section OR may not breastfeed, or even share scientific information regarding these topics. But to call these women selfish/ignorant and suggest indirectly that they are any less of a mother or that they care any less for their child is unacceptable.
You think that you will prefer a vaginal delivery when you get pregnant. I am positive that I will schedule a c-section. You have your reasons to preferring to try a vaginal birth and I have my reasons to wanting a c-section. But neither one of us should feel the need to explain our choices to outsiders. Same goes for breastfeeding. There could be MANY reasons a woman is not breastfeeding. Not producing enough milk, latching problems, unbearable pain…whatever…maybe a woman tried for 1 day, 1 week, or 1 month before giving up. NONE of us has the right to inquire about such private details about another woman’s body (if she chooses to share it, that’s a different story). And without knowing those details and fully understanding a woman’s mindset, none of us should pass judgments on her. Our husbands and OB may inquire all they want to…but everyone else really has no business poking for information OR passing judgments about type of mother we are based on our choices on how we birth or whether we’re breastfeeding.
P.S. No need to apologize. You did not offend me. 
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Are you a mother? I just really feel that only moms should be allowed to contemplate this cos they understand more what one goes through.
Anyway… IF a mother does not have ANY issues (means no medical problem, ample supply of milk, no job constraints, baby latches well and has reasonable household duties) and still doesn’t breastfeed, I would wonder at her because there is no doubt it is the best form of nutrition for the baby and is yet another gift a mother gives her child.
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Now,if a mother was not giving meds to a sick child, she would be slaughtered, however not giving the baby equally important breast milk is sort of brushed off as insignificant. Why?
**I don’t believe it is brushed off as insignificant. It is stressed in my circles and generation and supported and encouraged. But thankfully THANKFULLY, in case it cannot happen, THANKFULLY alternatives are available. An alternate is never as good as the real deal but thank God it is there in case real deal isn’t. Similar case with meds to sick child, the mother IS giving SOMETHING alternate to the best meds, so she won’t be slaughtered.
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I don’t know guys, I think it is unfair to say, you’re not a mom, keep your mouth shut! There’s nothing wrong with being curious and asking questions. This is how we learn and gain perspective. The problem here is the assumption that’s going along with the questions.
Shortly after I was born I became extremely sick and had to be taken off mums milk and stayed off it.
Because of these factors I had a very weak immune system and was a very sick child right up until about 7-8 years old.
Hahaha I still tease mum about it. Your eldest son is your shortest son cuz you hogged the milk.
Im not passing judgement on any mother btw. Just based on what Ive seen, heard, taught, and experienced, mothers milk is liquid gold for a baby. Im sure any loving mother would make sure her baby gets this, unless she is unable to.
Mothers, please excuse my ignorance, but do stress related issues justify not feeding your baby?
Also, has anyone heard anyone suggest that mothers milk is bad?
Of course if a mother is not producing because of the stress, that is different entirely.
I hope I have not offended anyone here through to my ignorance. I know mothers feeding is a very personal topic and I mean no offense to anyone.
Also, people here are touchy 
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Waise in whoever’s defense, I really do feel C sections should not be vouched for unless medically advised. I don’t know of any cases where the c section was vouched for simply cos the patient “felt” like it. Mostly they are due to medical reasons, at least those are reasons quoted. I am a mom and a doctor and I am telling the ones who are unaware that while c section may possibly seem less painful during the delivery process, the recovery is hell (speaking through experience) and much much worse than a vaginal birth on the whole. So please, do not vouch for a c section unless there are medical reasons to do so
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Ok. Too much agression and needless hostitlity here. Someone needs to put a sign somewhere or warning that unless someone has given birth a baby, they need not post a word here.
As far as the ‘psychics’ here go, assuming things about me. I am not a mother. (I know i know, everything i said would be considered utter bull**** now). I went to meet a friend who is expecting. I told her what the paediatrician said and she was still adamant that she is not going to breastfeed.
PS: You all should be equally hostile to the ‘non-mothers’ who are sharing the same views as the ‘mothers’ here. Doesn’t really look intelligent if you shoot down people for not being mothers ONLY when they disagree.
Somebody lock this thread. And also put a huge sign on the top that non-mothers are not allowed.
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Popular media and forefront news is entirely responsible for the way topics like this and vaccination are viewed by the general public …
Their motives are to encourage all people to contribute to the system … In turn encouraging individual identities over family ones, the need to buy … Breast feeding hinders a working mother’s work patterns … However, vaccination increases the sales of medicines … If things don’t make sense at first, then they do if you view them through the prism of the Corporation State.
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My sister held on for dear life because of this…she had one c-section and did not want another. I felt so bad for her…she kept pushing for a vaginal delivery but it just wasn’t meant to happen that way. Alhumdulillah she had a beautiful baby girl a few days ago but yes the recovery is slow and painful.
Unless you’re ready to pay the bills of working women while they stay home and breastfeed…its not wise to start finger pointing at them. If you pay their bills, you get to judge…if you don’t…you don’t.
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Many many years ago, and these days in many families back home in desiland, pregnant and nursing women had no other duties than to look after themselves and their children. When a woman would get pregnant, she would be treated like a china doll who would break upon the slightest of stress. She’d have masseurs come home and all her food cravings would be catered to. Then she’d have her baby with a ton of people around her doing other chores.
Today, that is hardly the case. We drive to and from work when we are in labor, or if we don’t work, we have tons of household chores to take care of. Times have changed. Women experience a higher level of emotional and physical stress. It is NOT a piece of cake to breastfeed a child. I don’t think any mother chooses to not even try to. Everyone is aware of it’s benefits but there’s many factors that can enable effective breastfeeding.
I’m not sure why women’s careers become the biggest talked about challenge towards breastfeeding. One must keep in mind that women who work are contributing to their household income, not for “ayaashi” or their personal pocket money so they can buy designer clothing and get pedicures every week. It’s important to keep the bigger picture in perspective when making judgement.
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Mubarak on the birth of your niece 
I agree with you … the system has forced us to be in debt or fear of debt - inflated taxes and disproportionate costs for necessity items. You would have thought that the corporations are making enough money to pay for all of the medicines and care costs - but the fact is such organisations make profits and people working for them have to work harder to make ends meet.
This is not a complaint at working women - it is a complaint at the system.
Ramadan Kareem to you and family.
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Absolutely NO ONE is saying that breastfeeding is NOT ideal…the main point is that, don’t judge someone as being a bad or selfish mother for not breastfeeding, or having a c-section or whatever.
I’m always surprised at how people are blinded by their own arrogance.
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So first you ladies over do yourself & then come here complaining & whining about that that women in desiland do this & that. Why don’t you ladies stay at home & do what a woman should do & let your husbands do what their duties are? …… first you ladies need the feel to do this n that n then complain woman in desiland are treated as princess , their needs are catered etc…. why don’t you get your needs catered too & get people around you to take care of you after child birth ohhh but then again you ladies don’t like mil’s sil’s around youuu ….. there is just no win win situation with you ladies …. You have to complain about everything….. ohh n look now you ladies drive to & from work in labour…. Excuse me who told you to overburden yourself? …. First you want to have your careers, then want to become mazloom that we do this n that, we work, we work during pregnancy, we do household chores etc etc ….. stop with this complaining n do what you are assigned for …. Things will be a lot easier….
First you ladies over do youself n then look down upon those ladies back home who are not over doing themselves like you chicks do
I think most of the ladies don’t breastfeed coz they work n dont have time for that & also they don’t want to ruin their figures ……
& woman who say we don’t work for ayaashi & contribute to household income then that is not true….. with what you earn goes directly to the pockets of all the domestic help you take …..your maids, gardeners, sweepers, babysitters etc ….. so whats the point of you earning & giving that money away for a work you can do by ignoring everyone in your home?..your kids…husband … family etc … half of my female colleagues who earn are buying branded stuff every other day because yeaahhhhh its their money after all man cant even touch it …. This is what islam says……. while other half
Stop comparing yourselves with those whom you call “china dolls” …. Because they are not …what are you trying to prove by this comparison? …..… it seems like half of you chicks work & have careers just to prove to guys & those china dolls that looooookkkk we are multi talented … we are multi tasking ….. we can doo thisss n that …. Whats your point exactly? …. What you chicks are trying to prove? ……. They are fulfilling their womanly dities assigned to them & not overburdening themselves by doing both male & female work …… why don’t you become a china doll too … no one stopped you?
It seems like evything is fine in desiland … its just walaityland getting out of control & individualism is on the rise & the divorce rate too……
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Sorry but this is such paindu soch…lol
You really think women in the west are just trying to prove something to people? Why? People in Pakistan don’t go to school or get jobs? Is that where this is going?
People work to fulfill their needs…to provide for their families. If you find women selfish for doing this…then you have some progress to make. 
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^Aunty jee ko booraa lagaa 
lady you dint read my post properly i guess because most of the ladies dont earn to provide for their families ohh yeah because its husbands responisiblity at the end of the day … n what women earns is theirs … they are selfish somewhat …
its funny when you dont have anything logical to say yiu just come with these cheesy & stupid lines like “painduu soch” etc etc …
cany you come up with something logical …
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**Stop **educating the girls in Pakistan before you start pointing fingers at anyone else. Apne giraybaan mein jhanko aur apne ghar ki larkiyon ko pehle ghar pe bithao. Girls in the West are not the only ones that work…lol. What world do you live in?
Call me whatever you want…paindu soch is paindu soch…there’s no other word for it so get used to it. People who believe ALL working woman are selfish have never been married and never had a family to feed.
Your lack of ignorance is astounding and laughable at the same time.
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You know what’s funny? People want an educated woman as a wife and mother…but the issue comes up when a woman wants to actually **utilize **that education…LOL.
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Well if the husband doesn’t make much money or is really lazy then it makes sense for the wife to work
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Harappan…it makes sense if she lives in a remote village where she has grown up with the idea that she needs everyone and their mama’s approval to do what she wants.
You cannot educate a human being and then expect them to voluntarily limit themselves and act as if their diploma is just for show. That is cruel.
These decisions are made based on a couple’s understanding and between them only.
One more thing…in a society where women and men work side by side…mutual respect for each other’s roles and ideas is important. No one is bound to follow anything…not even a woman.