more randomness from the mother IN LAW.,

[Cupcake]

more randomness from the mother IN LAW.,

Instead of moaning on here about the same old issues why don't you try fixing the gap between your mother in law! Communicate with her. Take her out. Talk to her. If that doesn't work thn don't worry about her. Just concentrate on your husband and kids instead of complaining about your husbands mum.

[kakee]

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or just hurry up and get a job in UK so you can support your family and move out

[yourfriend]

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yaar tumhaari saas bari ajeen khatoon hai.... dont you all live under the same roof? does she not see her own daughter 4 times a week (as per your other thread)?? why she is communicating with her own kids via sms ??

[Sara516]

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am i the only one that thinks it’s pretty freakin awesome for an old MIL from Pakistan (Peshawar I think?) to be able to sms like a teenager?

[yourfriend]

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^ yaar woh parhi likhi khatoon hon gii... zubaani gheebat bhala kiyon karain? :-P

[Puchi_Kuchi]

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Seriously it seems lile there Is no pleasing the woman.. Be practical
And move out on good terms... Your too naive to handle her, seems like you gotta be a typical paki bahu to handle challoo women like her ..

[Decent_6Chora]

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@Sara516

am i the only one that thinks it’s pretty freakin awesome for an old MIL from Pakistan (Peshawar I think?) to be able to sms like a teenager?

anything to tease bahoo

[Afro-Sheen]

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Although I agree with what you are saying, unfortunately you can't win witj some people. Some people (in my experience) take it as bathmeezi if u ask them directly....even if u ask nicely and respectfully.....grr

[sweetypari]

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Each n every line is true..i know if u ll bbearing all tht silently even thn she wont b refrained from such activities of teasing u but for instance if she hacks your password and get to read all this though u r 100 percent right and its natural but what if she gets to read all this what will you do ? I think the situation would b worst...

[sweetypari]

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Since insaaf to yahan hota nai hain apni betiyan susral k lakh dukh royen wo mazloom masoom hoti hain or agr bahu ko koi shikayat ho koi shikwa kr de to ek dam se wo badtameez or buri ban jati hai...

[Niksik]

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@STONECOLD

Do you really have to react every single time?

They are not going to change. That much is clear. So maybe you should yourself to not caring what they say.

You are in a real predicament and without some drastic action your not doing anyone any favours least yourself.

People talk, people make faces. Just take it in your stride…seriously life is too short to stress what your MIL said or which way her eyelids drooped over a comment you made.

Let go of the hate and anger…

If she didn’t, we wouldn’t have Life 1 .

Go on nadz ! Happy anniversary.

[Princess1983]

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Nadz I feel for you honey I really really do. Some MIL's never had parenting skills let alone socialising and being 'human' skills or showing compassion. It makes my blood boil when elders wished to be treated one way yet treat their DIL's/SIL's another way.
Sometimes elders get jealous of the time they once had which has slipped away in their bitterness. Maybe that's what's up with your MIL?
Or maybe she simply doesn't want to register the fact her son has his own dunya to deal with.
Parents are always your parents, regardless. What's sad is when some still want to be the centre of their adult child's world-let them live their lives-gggggggeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeezzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.
Your best option is to try and carry on in your daily life without letting her silly behaviour get to you.
If it continues to get to you can you not live apart from her? Surely their is nothing Islamically forcing you to live with your in-laws apart from culture?
All of the above are my own opinions, if someone doesn't like them I'm afraid I don't give a damn-just saying.

[hanibal]

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well guess what.

today she sent hubbs a text message, a long one, all drama, how me and him are always naraaz with her, we dont talk to her, didnt anyone tell him she had a massive attack of some sort the other day how ill she is et cetc ......( she didnthave any attack it was her stomach, she takes some tablets steriods, and they give her bad heartburn, but she calls it an attack fine, but it made it all so ever dramamtic to him), and she took 2 aspirins that dat and was fine 5mins later. anyhowshe made a big fuss how ill she still is and we are careless.shes always using my name in messages sent to him. if she has a issue with me, talk to me...

anyway all i said to husband was, whenever i sent u a long guilt-inducing sms you told me i was just doingdrama` and how he doesnt like bollywood style drama in his life.

so i asked him the sms his mum just sent wasnt drama??

Is your MIL is still the bread winner of the house and did your husband find any job or he is living on the money his parents earn?

[nadz123]

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@Puchi_Kuchi

Seriously it seems lile there Is no pleasing the woman.. Be practical And move out on good terms... Your too naive to handle her, seems like you gotta be a typical paki bahu to handle challoo women like her ..

ok and how would a typcial paki bahu handle this?

[nadz123]

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@Muzna

she sends sms messages to all and sundry while you are right there in the house......what does that tell you? the fact that you two don't communicate is not her fault alone. we never get to read about your efforts to bridge the obvious gap that you and your MIL share. all we read about are her transgressions and nastiness. don't you agree that you are equally at fault if not more?

you seem to have the whole "two-faced" routine down pat. why is there even a need for you to behave like a a hypocrite? this is your home....you should be able to be yourself and not put on a show. I would advise that you start working on taking walls down and establishing genuine relationships with the inlaws so that you can be yourself......

im 2-faced?

[nadz123]

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@Sweetmoi

The question is, who is telling you about these text messages. Okay, I do get the hubby once, but those sent to her daughter?

I READ THEM MYSELF. went through her phone. well, my daughter had it in her hands and was running around the house with it and yes i was nosey and i KNEW something was up, so i had a look. and i was right.

[Muzna]

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@nadz123

I READ THEM MYSELF. went through her phone. well, my daughter had it in her hands and was running around the house with it and yes i was nosey and i KNEW something was up, so i had a look. and i was right.

one wrong deed precipitates the next.....

@nadz123

im 2-faced?

what do you think?

[Silver_Falcon_Of_Kashmir]

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@nadz123

I READ THEM MYSELF. went through her phone. well, my daughter had it in her hands and was running around the house with it and yes i was nosey and i KNEW something was up, so i had a look. and i was right.

How would you feel if someone (say your MIL, SIL) did the same thing to you? Sorry, but there's no justification for this kind of behaviour. If you are miserable now because of what you learnt by your snooping, then you kind of brought it upon yourself. Had you minded your own business, you wouldn't have been fretting over what falaan said etc. Sorry if I sound harsh...

[nadz123]

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yes but her sending her daughter messages isnt something im fretting about. the main issue is her texting her son. who showed me the text.

[Sweetmoi]

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@nadz123

I READ THEM MYSELF. went through her phone. well, my daughter had it in her hands and was running around the house with it and yes i was nosey and i KNEW something was up, so i had a look. and i was right.

No wonder. Wrong doings always lead to stress and discomfort.