MIL didnt bother wishing us even on our wedding anniversary,
made a face when my khala broguth gifts from my mother( from the uk)
Complained about why khaha had bought a cake- no one gna eat it/why why why etc
complained she was ill - of course.take away the limelight. as usual.
did her daughters and son inlaws iftari on same day
and now moaning how ill she is and no one cares, wqhy no one had asked her how she is.
oh great. so im meant to ask not only sarr-pe-betaa her daughter, but now also her. she wants me to always ask HER AND DAUGHTER …however she nevers once asked me . ever. even during my pregnancy days, i was sick,. did she ask? no she turned away. and if i did complain about any illness she always says `OH but im more ill and proceed to tell me how im imgaining things and how ill she is..
its getting very petty and annoying. i cant bear to be in samr room as her.
so GS shpuld i ignore again, is it not a big deal? truth pls. and no, i actually dont care she didnt bother about my anniversary. but deliberatly NOT mentioning is annoying.
At this age she is not the one to be changing, so yeah please ignore stuff cotton in your ears if you have to. And have a huge smile on your face at all times to indicate nothing bothers you. She's probably testing your boundaries coz you get annoyed easily.
but whyyyyy for fxxxxx sake `test me. and she doesnt KNOW i get annoyed that easily, its just me telling GS or hubby when im really madly pissed off. i dnt care if she doesnt change, but what i meant to ask was, is this just a nother notch on the mountain of crap she does/says or am i being voer sensititve.
and i wanted to ask- there was a time when husband took my side when she said something horrible. i was upset. and he told his dad to talk to mum shes always being this way with nadz.anyway next day guess what happnes- shes ILL, she texts HER SON, and gives him a 3 page text with her drama and how much shes perfect and never has said a hurtful word against anyone BUT IF NADZ STILL THINKS SO then i am sorry..
ok WHY DIDNT SHE TEXT ME THIS.
so much flaming drama she is, texting her son so he feels bad as well. and shes always ILL whenever she wants attention back to her.
which is why, whenever shes ILL i dnt ebelive a word.but how can i possibly tell her son, my husband that your mother is 99percent of the time ACTING an illness just for attention.
Ignore her!! Try to keep yourself busy and happy.... Housechores, playing with your kids, some exercise or walking outside, reading a book, 5 waqt namaaz, read Koran, learn stitching girls clothes (so much fun!! I made few dresses for my baby daughter), go to a beautyparlour to pamper yourself..etc etc
They are not going to change. That much is clear. So maybe you should yourself to not caring what they say.
You are in a real predicament and without some drastic action your not doing anyone any favours least yourself.
People talk, people make faces. Just take it in your stride....seriously life is too short to stress what your MIL said or which way her eyelids drooped over a comment you made.
No one from my Inlaws ever wished me on my anniversary. Who cares? Should I scold them why they didn't wished me?? No I don't bother anymore about little things... Why should you give people so much importance that they can ruin your mood and day...
At this age she is not the one to be changing, so yeah please ignore stuff cotton in your ears if you have to. And have a huge smile on your face at all times to indicate nothing bothers you. She's probably testing your boundaries coz you get annoyed easily.
This. If you want add some shock value, you can also walk out on her, mid-rant, and then come back with one of those smiles still on your face.
Try not to think so much about what she's doing.. I know it's easier said than done when you're bored or haven't got much to focus on.. Do you not have anyone there you can go out and enjoy yourself with?
You don't want to end up bitter and resentful and treating others around u the same..
Why do you feel its your God given responsibility to go tell and convience everyone that "she's not ill, she's not ill, I know it, I know it and you must believe me". Let it go! Stop putting yourself through this jealousy and tourture.
Stop calling her drama and infuriating yourself, look at your behaviour and psychological state now and only God knows what a piece of adventure you will be once you reach your MIL's age. You technically have no moral ground to stand on. Tell youself this fact every minute and I'm sure it'll all make sense to you and calm you down a bit.
None of us here know you personally, we have no idea what kind of person you come across, whether you are indeed a naturally pleaseant or courteous individual or not coz it looks like your MIL has to work hard to get any good manners out of you.
And who cares if she didn't wish you?? It's supposed to be a day you celebrate with your husband anyway. As long as your husband remembered and wished you, you should be happy.
My MIL didn't even once ask me if I was feeling ok when I was pregnant and after I had given birth. I even cried in front of her so many times (depression) and she didn't even once hug me or tell me everything will be ok. Is she a bad person? NO. Not everyone know how to express themselves, I won't hold it against her ever.
You should be happy that you have loving parents who send you stuff all the way from the UK. Some people don't even have that.
and i wanted to ask- there was a time when husband took my side when she said something horrible. i was upset. and he told his dad to talk to mum shes always being this way with nadz.anyway next day guess what happnes- shes ILL, she texts HER SON, and gives him a 3 page text with her drama and how much shes perfect and never has said a hurtful word against anyone BUT IF NADZ STILL THINKS SO then i am sorry..
ok WHY DIDNT SHE TEXT ME THIS.
wait a sec......
hubby takes your side....asks father to address the matter with mother
mother replies to hubby and YOU are upset that she didn't reply to YOU???
so you couldn't be bothered to address the matter with her directly yet you expect her to apologize to you?
twisted logic much?
you can only get out of a relationship as much as you put into it.....and sometimes not even that much if the other person is not on the same page as you (meaning if they are not committed to making it work as much as you are).
on a happier note: Happy Anniversary.
What did hubby get for you?
