Ok.basically I’m a Bangladeshi and i’m going out wid a Pakistani guy. We’re pretty serious and all and hopefully we wish to get married in the future.Well my guy doesnt really have a problem with my nationalty…i look like a typical Paki girl and also speak Urdu fluently…ppl never r able to guess that I must be from Bagladesh…but just wanted to ask others…do u think it’s gonna be a problem when he actually approaches his parents and tell them abt me??? do u think they’re gonna have a problem with dis?? cus i plan to change my nationality after gettin married anyways…and my family’s lifestlye is totally like pakis…we’re not into fish and all…ans also in the future is this gonna b a problem for my kids??I know mein bohot door ka soch rahi hoon…magar phir bhi…just wonderin… want other’s opinion…
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cus i plan to change my nationality after gettin married anyways...............and my family's lifestlye is totally like pakis........we're not into fish and all...............ans also in the future is this gonna b a problem for my kids??
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Why may I ask would you wanto change your nationality??
Whats wrong with and being known as a Bengali??
You should be proud of your roots and in future teach your kids that too.
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Exactly what I was thinking...why would you want to change your nationality(You cant change what you were born as). Be proud of who you are. Now since our culture & bengali culture isn't too much different, that shouldn't be a problem, but only your guy can tell you how open/narrow minded they are. Some people don't care as long as the person has the good qualities which they are seeking. Whereas there are others that even nitpick stupid things like caste/zaath in the same culture/punjabi/urdu speaking, so it all depends. You should be able to get an idea of this from your boyfriend...no?
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my cuzin got married to a bengali girl and his family has fully accepted her and she has a situation like urs too. her family is very pakistani style too.
differences did collide after because of the difference backgrounds and also because they are different individuals, but they are patient and working it out
i dont think it wud be a problem bcuz u both love each other and are willing to work out ur differences.
but then again every marriage has that so not a bigg difulty :halo:Ull be fine InshAllah
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You should be proud of who you are and your heritage. Don't let narrow-minded folks make you feel ashamed.
My cousin's wife is absolutely wonderful, and she is also from Bangladesh. Everyone adores her.
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Up to one point my parents were very right-winged about us (sister and I) only marrying into Kashmiri families. But my parents minds changed as sister came of age and in fact did marry them out side of the Kashmiri zaat. However, they are just a small step away from being adamant about my marrying outside of our ethnic background. The point to note here is that so long as parents on either side have no qualms about marrying outside of ethnic or national backgrounds then who cares what others think. Thats not to say that those types of parents are liberal but rather they are just liberal on background point but could be anal on another.
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you should never change who you are and your identity.. what will your kids learn? iA when you guys have your own family, teach your kids to be proud of their pakistani and bengali roots. heres how it is in my family:
- my mom was born in dhaka (before the partition) and lived there for 15 years. she is not bengali but she speaks the language fluently and is so proud of it. none of my khalas remember it and they soo wish they could.
- my fiance’s family’s last name is bengali and they are actually pakistani memons.. so i can understand what you’re thinking because a few people assumed him to be bengali and kinda looked down upon it along with throwing out the whole fish comment. now obviously they shut up when we told them that they are pakistanis with just a different last name but i dont understand why his nationality should matter? even if he was bengali, what matters more is that we are happy and together, right?
- my dad is indian and partially arab so i consider myself to be paki-indian-arab. my extended family likes to give me trouble since i am not a 100% pure pakistani like them but i am content with being who i am, why should i care?
in pakistan, bengalis are looked down upon because they have servants who belong to that region. but what’s interesting is that a bengali friend of mine was telling me how her grandparents have pakistani naukars in bangladesh, and over there they look down upon us. regardless of all that, noone is superior than the other whether you are indian, pakistani or bengali- relax and just be yourself when you meet his family. let them see the kind of person you are.. not how much you try to be a pakistani. it will definitely work out for you iA, all the best.
p.s- why is it looked down upon to eat fish? 
i love fish and eat it all the time.
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The way you talk makes me see pakistanis as very racist people, closed around themselves 
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You two are required to be muslim to be married --
no where does it mention nationality..
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why do some people here call people from Bangladesh Bengali? Aren't they referred to an Bangladeshi and Bengali is the name of the language right? I might be wrong....
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^It's also an ethnic group and region. But Bengal is also in India, I believe.
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Lol what an inferiority complex...sometimes ppl deserve the racicm they get cos only thorugh their inferiority complexes do they help others feel superior...
Good luck whatever you do...People like you annoy the hell out of me...you reckon your better than the average bangladeshi cos you have a pakistani culture...
I know too many idiots like this...
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to each their own
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You two are required to be muslim to be married --
no where does it mention nationality..
Guys are not estrictily required to marry another muslim it can be christion or jew.
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^^ But I think you have to have them convert.
You can't live with a spouse of another religion?
Shall we open a thread on the topic?
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A male can marry a christian or jewish woman becuase they are ehle kitaab...a Muslim woman may not marry anyone other than a Muslim...
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I think in christianity it is said that if a christian marries a person of another religion that person needs to convert to christianity so if a christian marries a muslim(islam has the same kind of conversion rules), i wonder which religion wins out in the whole conversion game?
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How does someone just change their nationality? Is that even possible?
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^^ But I think you have to have them convert. You can't live with a spouse of another religion?
Shall we open a thread on the topic?
lol jab Musalman shadiaan kar kay affair chalatay phirtay hain tau phir is sab ko kaun dekhta hay :@:
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Deasigirl786...
Its called being ashamed of your roots and basically saying your something else when ever anyone asks where you are from...you make an effort to do nothing from your own culture and you work hard to adopt the culture you look upto...and you also speak the language of the culture you look upto and never speak your own...
Heres the thing for this girl...she'll always be Bengali but her complex means she will treated as the inferior girl she clearly sees herself as...