millenials/ marriage/ Long term goals

[aqua70]

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@third_string

You’ll find out kekekeke

Lmao, cruel.

[IsaidwhatIsaid]

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@third_string

You’ll find out kekekeke

Judging from that response, you confirmed what I already knew about “the wall.” I see someone likes to visit reactionary subreddits.

[Reha]

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@srkan2007

I am been thinking about this for sometime.

Few of my female cousins/ friends are in their 30’s and not married. They all have good jobs, are attractive and for various reasons choose not to get married or haven’t found someone they like.
It’s hard to advise because I wasn’t a typical “have to get married/kids family girl” and neither do I think marriage is by any means the chosen path.

I was talking to my mom and she mentioned my aunt (who is in her 50’s and unmarried) is not well and according to her feeling lonely. She blamed it on her not being married. I argued back saying if she wanted, she could have adopted kids (plenty who need good homes) or she could spend time in things like volunteering etc. She also scolded me for not advising my unmarried cousins.

I may have said all the above for argument sake but it’s a hard one where I don’t want to advise my cousins/friends on something I am not completely sold on. BTW I am happily married (I took my time and married someone I really fell in love with but would have been okay if we hadn’t met and was single). I have seen lot of broken marriages/issues and hate the idea of people marrying because it’s the right time or right thing to do. I also believe there are so many other things in life that we could focus and dedicate our lives to. I sometimes feel a bit selfish to have/ raise kids and live in a little bubble without concerning or thinking about the burden we bring to this world and our selfish needs (The list is long; overpopulation, overuse of resources, the declining population of every species except ours and of those that fulfill our needs in any way or form)

Anyway:), my question is what do you guys things of marriage in today’s age especially the millennials (born after 84) and expectations as we move into our 30’s and 40’s. Is it that important? Are relationships going to be that long-lasting? Is it harder than our parents had it?

Also what to do guys think of what’s happening around us and do you in anyway contribute to the betterment?

I would like to hear what you’ll think in general even it’s the opposite.

Marriage is not a necessity anymore for women and that (to me) is a huge part of the “issue” if you want to call it one. A woman does not have to cook and clean and stay stuck to her man at all costs anymore…she can easily move out, get her own place and lead a respectable life.

Women have changed but men have not.

[third_string]

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@Reha

Marriage is not a necessity anymore for women and that (to me) is a huge part of the “issue” if you want to call it one. A woman does not have to cook and clean and stay stuck to her man at all costs anymore…she can easily move out, get her own place and lead a respectable life.

Women have changed but men have not.

That is a huge reason for divorces and kids growing up with all kinds of issues. The whole “i don’t need no man” thing is what causes kids to grow up with daddy issues.

Marriage is not a necessity for men either, if anything it’s a waste of money and you end up losing more in divorce settlements lol.

[third_string]

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I think guys have changed, we are more aware of what prenups are and how to protect whatever we’ve earned.

[third_string]

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Also marriage isn’t a neccesity for a Muslim if
A) you’re not celibate
Or
B) you don’t have sexual desires.

Otherwise it is a neccesity for most Muslims.

[Shareefbacha95]

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O yeah women have changed alot…the became a whole lot more b*tchier

[aqua70]

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@third_string

Also marriage isn’t a neccesity for a Muslim if
A) you’re not celibate
Or
B) you don’t have sexual desires.

Otherwise it is a neccesity for most Muslims.

Exactly what I was going to say, if you are practicing and unless you do not crave companionship then only way for you to experience it, is through marriage so that does make this ritual a necessity for many.

[NaanGuard]

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@IsaidwhatIsaid

Judging from that response, you confirmed what I already knew about “the wall.” I see someone likes to visit reactionary subreddits.

which subreddits?

[Reha]

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@third_string

That is a huge reason for divorces and kids growing up with all kinds of issues. The whole “i don’t need no man” thing is what causes kids to grow up with daddy issues.

Marriage is not a necessity for men either, if anything it’s a waste of money and you end up losing more in divorce settlements lol.

I understand this upsets people but its true. We’ve educated our women, made them independent, trained them to be progressive and then we put them in archaic roles that may or may not suit them anymore. Its a bit unfair. Either we hold them back or we change our men.

Its a society and it functions as a whole…doesn’t really seem productive to just blame it all on women and not take ownership of anything even though you live and breathe and contribute to it.

@third_string

I think guys have changed, we are more aware of what prenups are and how to protect whatever we’ve earned.

And that is your prerogative.

@Shareefbacha95

O yeah women have changed alot…the became a whole lot more b*tchier

Yes. They have.

[IsaidwhatIsaid]

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@NaanGuard

which subreddits?

r/theredpill for starters

[Lostone1]

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I can totally relate to this statement you made: “…hate the idea of people marrying because it’s the right time or right thing to do”. I feel like everyone has their own perspective on what they want to achieve in life but there are universal goals that majority of people want and marriage is one of them. The dynamic and definition of marriage has changed due to an array of reasons but I think being a millennial I wish I delayed marriage, focused more on my career and married someone I was compatible with but you adapt and learn to love one another. I too know a lot of individuals who are not married because of their personal choices or divorcees but it seems it is becoming a norm. Just do what you think is right for your life, dont live for others and achieve the most you can out of this life. I recently came back from Hajj and I learnt a lot and took away a lot of knowledge but one thing always stuck to me: the Muslim ummah back then (post prophet Muhammed PBUH) and in the past century has grown exponentially and despite our bad image in the media we continue to thrive and contribute greatly in this society. Be a contributor, whether that be being the best mom or daughter or in your specific professional field but contribute to something.

[third_string]

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@Reha

I understand this upsets people but its true. We’ve educated our women, made them independent, trained them to be progressive and then we put them in archaic roles that may or may not suit them anymore. Its a bit unfair. Either we hold them back or we change our men.

Its a society and it functions as a whole…doesn’t really seem productive to just blame it all on women and not take ownership of anything even though you live and breathe and contribute to it.

And that is your prerogative.

Yes. They have.

You can change roles and educate women and change the way men think in every single way however you’re never going to change the biological nature of men and women. As long as women are the ones poopin out babies and the ones that can produce milk in their jugs, the natural gender norms will always remain a constant. I know being “gender fluid” is the new fad these days but y’all can’t subvert human nature.

And lol @ “Yes. They have.” This isn’t something to be proud about lol.

[LP]

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@third_string

As long as women are the ones poopin out babies and the ones that can produce milk in their jugs, the natural gender norms will always remain a constant. I know being “gender fluid” is the new fad these days but y’all can’t subvert human nature.

Ouch!
Show some respect! We make future generations

[third_string]

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@LP

Ouch!
Show some respect! We make future generations

Exactly and hopefully it stays that way lol. The Man-haters want to change that and everything that we’ve known to be natural.

[LP]

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@third_string

You can change roles and educate women and change the way men think in every single way however you’re never going to change the biological nature of men and women. As long as women are the ones poopin out babies and the ones that can produce milk in their jugs, the natural gender norms will always remain a constant. I know being “gender fluid” is the new fad these days but y’all can’t subvert human nature.

And lol @ “Yes. They have.” This isn’t something to be proud about lol.

Btw, I think in a few years, babies will be born in machines (if they don’t do that already). I’ve read of eggs being frozen and stored for later use and I’ve read of sperm donations. Eventually, people will baby shop. Choose the egg donor and sperm donor with the the physical features, intelligence, medical history you want and voila! You have your perfect baby after 9 months. Since you’re not carrying the baby yourself, there won’t be any breastfeeding either.
There you go… Changed women.

[LP]

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@third_string

Exactly and hopefully it stays that way lol. The Man-haters want to change that and everything that we’ve known to be natural.

Moderation in everything is the key. The problem arises when we go to extremes. Culture is usually a huge part of the problem too. By that, I don’t mean desi culture in particular. Every culture in the world has its own set of problems.

Humans need change… We will keep changing. Blacks were oppressed first, then women. I think men are on their way to being oppressed now.

[third_string]

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@LP

Btw, I think in a few years, babies will be born in machines (if they don’t do that already). I’ve read of eggs being frozen and stored for later use and I’ve read of sperm donations. Eventually, people will baby shop. Choose the egg donor and sperm donor with the the physical features, intelligence, medical history you want and voila! You have your perfect baby after 9 months. Since you’re not carrying the baby yourself, there won’t be any breastfeeding either.
There you go… Changed women.

I prefer women poopin out babies.

[LP]

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@third_string

I prefer women poopin out babies.

stop using that word please. It sounds derogatory for such a noble thing.
I just feel that’s what will happen in a few years. It’ll become the norm a couple hundred years after that.

[NaanGuard]

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@LP

Btw, I think in a few years, babies will be born in machines (if they don’t do that already). I’ve read of eggs being frozen and stored for later use and I’ve read of sperm donations. Eventually, people will baby shop. Choose the egg donor and sperm donor with the the physical features, intelligence, medical history you want and voila! You have your perfect baby after 9 months. Since you’re not carrying the baby yourself, there won’t be any breastfeeding either.
There you go… Changed women.

They can actually do that now with Cas9 CRISPR…Wait until china starts it..than the U.S will follow suit if they haven’t done it already.