MIL slaps husband

[cherryontop]

Whoa what a weird thread.

True! This! That's what I am talking about. Relationships SHOULD be about mutual respect. A mother respecting her Son and a Son respecting her mother. And to be more precise, NO, nothing mentions that a son is only obliged to respect his mother if she is respecting him.... !!

And yes, a mother has EVERY right to raise hand on her own child. Why, when it can be her duty to feed her kid when he can hardly talk, walk, eat, when it can be her duty to wash his butts when he even leaks it in his Diapers, when it can be her duty to make her learn the language and other important things, when it can be her duty to keep him in good clothes, provide him shelter and save him from evil's eyes, when it can be her duty to take care of him when he is sick, when it can be her duty to clean his vomits and take him to the Doctor, why can't it be her right to touch him or slap him when she thinks he did a mistake?

Not to be forgotten the time when he was just a seed in her womb and she suffered with every physical change for 9 months holding her safe inside her, praying for him to be safe and healthy???????????????

If you justify the above duties and responsibilities of a mother towards her kid as LOVE, then CAN'T a son bear one slap from this lady out of Love?? Aakhir Maa ne hi to mara hay, and when actually he has done it, what's wrong with the people around here? Jb Bete ko bura nahin laga, who are we to make the OP feel that what she is feeling is actually right and feed her with some negativity??

You can talk over a Hadith that you hardly remember when also some of them are being doubt of their authenticity. How about the Holy Quran, that has never been changed, does not change and will never be changed and ask you to respect your parents & obey them at ANY case UNLESS they don't ask you to do something out of your deen??

Oh man given your posts, I hope you never become a MIL to a poor little girl.

[Reha]

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There's a balance that needs to be kept when kids grow up and become adults. These are not diapers you're tapping anymore people...they're adults with kids of their own.

The son should never have raised his voice...absolutely.

But the mom...who seems competent shouldn't have laid a slap across her son's face like that.

With power comes responsibility. Just because you have the right to do something doesn't mean you're allowed to be careless.

[queen_24]

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@muggle

You need to relax a little. Did I say anywhere that a child should disrespect or disobey his or her parents? No, I did not. So please don’t make assumptions about my beliefs. I 100% agree with everyone that has said that a person should never raise their voice with their parents. In fact, my parents taught me that I should never raise my voice with anyone. But they also taught me that slapping a person in the face is humiliating and degrading. I’ll be honest with you, I was not an easy child to raise. I would whine, I would cry, and I gave my mom a hard time when I was a kid. And despite all that, she never once slapped me in my face because of how degrading it is. I’m sorry I didn’t condemn the son’s actions early enough for you, but the fact of the matter is that both the son and the mother were wrong in this situation.

Its not assumptions muggle, going against a mother’s behavior and not talking a single thing about the guy’s reaction is what made me think that way. I would have no questions if I could read you mentioned both the parties being wrong and being right at the same time. Wrong because both of them should have controlled their anger and both are right because their reaction was according to the situation.

In fact, me myself do NOT appreciate such an act but entirely taking a mother’s slap as an insult and telling her that its not her right, seemed quite odd to me!!

So yes, as you cleared that both the son and the mother were wrong in this situation then probably we two are on the same page and it leaves nothing to be arguing about.

@cherryontop

Whoa what a weird thread.

Oh man given your posts, I hope you never become a MIL to a poor little girl.

Not at all. I will become a MIL to a RICH grownup girl
yes, grown up and mature enough

[diwana]

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@queen_24

…
Not at all. I will become a MIL to a RICH grownup girl
yes, grown up and mature enough

Great answer Queen.

These enlightened so called " Selectively liberal women" for no reason whatsoever find all the faults in MIL’s and call every DIL as “poor”, “little” just to make a point.

These women forget that MIL is also a woman but hatred makes them blinded to the reality.

Some of these women project their own sad and bad experiences in to their opinions when post online.

[queer]

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Raising voice on mother is a lot worse than mother slapping her child.....

.......regardless of her child's age.

yeah no. unless you live on planet mamasboi.

Some of these women project their own sad and bad experiences in to their opinions when post online.

and by the same token, those who are condoning the slapping a grown man by his mom, that too in front of his wife - are displaying classic symptoms of desensitization to domestic abuse - possibly from being raised in households where slapping everyone around is a common occurance since childhood.

[diwana]

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yeah no. unless you live on planet mamasboi.

and by the same token, those who are condoning the slapping a grown man by his mom, that too in front of his wife - are displaying classic symptoms of desensitization to domestic abuse - possibly from being raised in households where slapping everyone around is a common occurance since childhood.

The issue is about mother who wiped your behind and nose when you needed her. And she changed your dirty diaper when you needed to be away from a nasty case of diaper rash. Unless you still have one as an adult.

[queer]

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taking care of a baby is not a license to abuse the same baby later in life. unless they are on planet mamasboi, of course.

[diwana]

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Every man and woman has to have respect for his/her mother.

She is the one along with the father, these adults roam around the world and act arrogant, pompous and those who have balls or any individuality.

[diwana]

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taking care of a baby is not a license to abuse the same baby later in life. unless they are on planet mamasboi, of course.

One has to define abuse.

Being slapped for a man by his mother is hardly an abuse. He should take the slap from his won mother likse a man. No big deal.

Why be a cry baby as an adult????

Such a wussy man doesn't deserve to be called a man anyways.

[Let_Uz_Chat]

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Islam teaches us about the 'rutba' of parents and how we can't even say 'uff' infront of them as even that is disrespect. Whilst i am a very bad son to my own mother, i still leave you guys with this thought.

[queer]

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One has to define abuse.

Being slapped for a man by his mother is hardly an abuse. He should take the slap from his won mother likse a man. No big deal.

Why be a cry baby as an adult????

Such a wussy man doesn't deserve to be called a man anyways.

like i said before, these are classic outs for those desensitized to domestic abuse. "take it like a man!" "cry baby!"

[cherryontop]

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Great answer Queen. :)

These enlightened so called " Selectively liberal women" for no reason whatsoever find all the faults in MIL's and call every DIL as "poor", "little" just to make a point.

These women forget that MIL is also a woman but hatred makes them blinded to the reality.

Some of these women project their own sad and bad experiences in to their opinions when post online.

LOL yes of course miss queen and you are the only sane ones on this forum who have it all figured out. Carry on :)

[diwana]

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I am talking about the mother who carried the son in her body for nine months, then she went through the pain of birth or whatever, then she took care of the son when he needed her for every little things he need her for lying helpless in a cradle, hungry, dirty....

Yes, bad mothers are reality who run away from their children right after birth.

Still no one can ever pay for her carrying him for nine months, not drinking alcohol or smoking through pregnancy. No one.

And when the child becomes an adult, marries to another woman, thinks he has his own life being an adult?

Yeah right.

**A mother does not need any extra reasons to be respected. She already has done what was needed.

Children, no matter what they can do can never repay her and demand so called 'respect' even if she does not want to.**

[cherryontop]

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The issue is about mother who wiped your behind and nose when you needed her. And she changed your dirty diaper when you needed to be away from a nasty case of diaper rash. Unless you still have one as an adult.

Why are you obsessed with dirty diapers? A nanny or a daycare provider is perfectly capable of doing that as well. A mother's duty goes beyond changing diapers, wiping noses and staying up at night. It actually involves teaching your kids how to be kind and respectful of others and how to manage your temper....something the mother apparently failed at. Instead of acting like a bully on the playground and taking advantage of her 'status', she could've actually acted like a mother and explained herself to her son. But then I am just a bitter liberal woman and my post is a projection of my sad life so what do I know? :(

[diwana]

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LOL yes of course miss queen and you are the only sane ones on this forum who have it all figured out. Carry on :)

And your reason(s) to disagree is what? :D

[queer]

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@diwana

I am talking about the mother who carried the son in her body for nine months, then she went through the pain of birth or whatever, then she took care of the son when he needed her for every little things he need her for lying helpless in a cradle, hungry, dirty…

Yes, bad mothers are reality who run away from their children right after birth.

Still no one can ever pay for her carrying him for nine months, not drinking alcohol or smoking through pregnancy. No one.

And when the child becomes an adult, marries to another woman, thinks he has his own life being an adult?

Yeah right.

**A mother does not need any extra reasons to be respected. She already has done what was needed.

Children, no matter what they can do can never repay her and demand so called ‘respect’ even if she does not want to.**

what are you man? mithun chakraborty doing a mataji scene?

[diwana]

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Why are you obsessed with dirty diapers? A nanny or a daycare provider is perfectly capable of doing that as well. A mother's duty goes beyond changing diapers, wiping noses and staying up at night. It actually involves teaching your kids how to be kind and respectful of others and how to manage your temper....something the mother apparently failed at. Instead of acting like a bully on the playground and taking advantage of her 'status', she could've actually acted like a mother and explained herself to her son. But then I am just a bitter liberal woman and my post is a projection of my sad life so what do I know? :(

Find me a nanny who carried the child in her womb like a mother does. Then we will talk.

[diwana]

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@queer

what are you man? mithun chakraborty doing a mataji scene?

You could not find anything better to say. So obvious.

[queer]

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i already addressed your mithun drama twice before - giving birth etc. is no excuse for abusing the child at a later point. to which you said beating in front of your wife is not abuse, mard ban, cry baby etc. as if beatings are just normal. and when this was pointed out, you went back to mithun drama.

cyclical arguer much?

[diwana]

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@queer

i already addressed your mithun drama twice before - giving birth etc. is no excuse for abusing the child at a later point. to which you said beating in front of your wife is not abuse, mard ban, cry baby etc. as if beatings are just normal. and when this was pointed out, you went back to mithun drama.

cyclical arguer much?

And you have not defined abuse here.

A thappar to a grown up man from his mother hardly is an abuse.

She did not come with a hockey stick breaking his legs or shot him with a shot gun.

Don’t make a drama of no issue here.

We are not discussing child abuse here. Read above posts before saying something.