MIL slaps husband

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Wasn't she involved? It started with her (dil) and they (mil and hubby) were speaking about her.

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I so disagree with this “don’t get involved” philosophy! How else do you form relationships if you don’t get involved with your in laws?? I got involved in planning for my FIL’s surprised 60th bday. Should I have just gone as a guest and not gotten involved?
You marry someone, you ARE involved in their life. If someone disrespects my husband, I will get hurt. I don’t see the need to be neutral. What’s the point of being husband and wife if you don’t stand up for each other? :confused:

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^Agree and I think it's actually quite selfish to keep quiet and ignore when you see a person being mistreated..

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i think their point of view is to avoid further deterioration of relationships due to the spouse’s involvement.

often times, you have to opt for the ‘lesser’ of the two evils.

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I know and i understand that there are times when u need to BE involved in whats going around. C'mon u guys can not give me examples of involving in planning a party or involving in visiting them when any of them is sick. Seriously??
There is no doubt whether you involve or not, no one can take your right to be a part of them....any time!!
The involvment that I was referring here is a kind of involvment that should be avoided in some cases......
Now which cases? Thats u need to decide. It never excludes you from the situation but keeping quiet or ignoring the situation is required in some issues!!
Yes the girl is indirectly involved in the situation as it was her husband..being slapped....BUT a reason why should she act uninvolved is, the slapped was given by his own mother!!

Now unless, if the "slap" thing doesnt become a normal action to the mother and she keeps repeating it...I dont think it has to be taken really huge. Yes, if she keeps repeating it, keeps insulting and slapping her boy in front of his wife...then yes.... it needs some action.

Contrary, yes, the man should also respect his mother (wese to always but) in front of his wife.
He should understand that his mother will be treated by his wife the same way he treats his mother in front of his wife.

Keeping quiet from guy's side is certainly a good act. There is no reason why anyone should come and brainwash you about awwww your mother slapped you and make u feel insulted especially when you yourself didnt feel being insulted at the first place or chose to ignore the incident, wisely!!

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^ this!! Youve got me.

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i was expecting a lota as in’aam!!! :cb:

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Yar seriously… can u see only husband wife relationship in this incident? Dont you think a mother is there too? Whats the point of being son and mother if you cant take a slap from her???

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Lol saray lotay pankhay aur watercooler ja chukay inaam me…:cb:

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hmmm…does that mean i’ve to settle “for lesser of the two”? :cb: hahaha

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Its not a PERSON mistreated by an ORDINARY woman. It was a son being slapped by his mother....his OWN mother.

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And at the first place, i dont get the reason why this voice raising issue took place. I can bet if he had refused it in a more humble or polite tone...there is no insane mother who could slap her son for that.

Like c'mon... i'd say... mama sorry but aj i cant cook this or that...and my tone is polite.... now think of a slap after this?? Can u??
No.
Ofcourse... the guys tone was insulting enough to get such a rude n harsh response by his mother.

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Whether or not she's a mother, NO person has the right to raise a hand to another person imo

I believe relationships should be about mutual respect, not one person wielding power over another just because of their 'status' in the family or society as a whole..

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So uv never been slapped by ur mom? And u don't plan to slap ur children. I thought I wouldn't slap my child until she started screaming NO at random things. A tap here and there works wonders. (btw no face slapping but firm pats on the back to convey who's boss, hope it works, fingers crossed)

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There is a huge difference between a firm pat on the back and a slap in the face. I can understand disciplining a child with a light but firm tap on a their back. But nobody deserves to be slapped in the face. And if I am not mistaken, I believe I remember there being a Hadith about not striking a person on the face.

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True! This! That's what I am talking about. Relationships SHOULD be about mutual respect. A mother respecting her Son and a Son respecting her mother. And to be more precise, NO, nothing mentions that a son is only obliged to respect his mother if she is respecting him.... !!

And yes, a mother has EVERY right to raise hand on her own child. Why, when it can be her duty to feed her kid when he can hardly talk, walk, eat, when it can be her duty to wash his butts when he even leaks it in his Diapers, when it can be her duty to make her learn the language and other important things, when it can be her duty to keep him in good clothes, provide him shelter and save him from evil's eyes, when it can be her duty to take care of him when he is sick, when it can be her duty to clean his vomits and take him to the Doctor, why can't it be her right to touch him or slap him when she thinks he did a mistake?

Not to be forgotten the time when he was just a seed in her womb and she suffered with every physical change for 9 months holding her safe inside her, praying for him to be safe and healthy???????????????

If you justify the above duties and responsibilities of a mother towards her kid as LOVE, then CAN'T a son bear one slap from this lady out of Love?? Aakhir Maa ne hi to mara hay, and when actually he has done it, what's wrong with the people around here? Jb Bete ko bura nahin laga, who are we to make the OP feel that what she is feeling is actually right and feed her with some negativity??

You can talk over a Hadith that you hardly remember when also some of them are being doubt of their authenticity. How about the Holy Quran, that has never been changed, does not change and will never be changed and ask you to respect your parents & obey them at ANY case UNLESS they don't ask you to do something out of your deen??

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Raising voice on mother is a lot worse than mother slapping her child.....

.......regardless of her child's age.

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^Agree.

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You need to relax a little. Did I say anywhere that a child should disrespect or disobey his or her parents? No, I did not. So please don't make assumptions about my beliefs. I 100% agree with everyone that has said that a person should never raise their voice with their parents. In fact, my parents taught me that I should never raise my voice with anyone. But they also taught me that slapping a person in the face is humiliating and degrading. I'll be honest with you, I was not an easy child to raise. I would whine, I would cry, and I gave my mom a hard time when I was a kid. And despite all that, she never once slapped me in my face because of how degrading it is. I'm sorry I didn't condemn the son's actions early enough for you, but the fact of the matter is that both the son and the mother were wrong in this situation.