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that is why i said, to you/queen etc. getting slapped on the face in front of others is simply considered routine, nothing out of the ordinary. not seen as abuse. a real man should take it with a smile, etc. however that is not true for most people.
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that is why i said, to you/queen etc. getting slapped on the face in front of others is simply considered routine, nothing out of the ordinary. not seen as abuse. a real man should take it with a smile, etc. however that is not true for most people.
From a mother or father. No.
Other person?
Not telling what I would do. Let's just say it would not be a pleasant experience for that person.;)
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Great answer Queen. :)
These enlightened so called " Selectively liberal women" for no reason whatsoever find all the faults in MIL's and call every DIL as "poor", "little" just to make a point.
These women forget that MIL is also a woman but hatred makes them blinded to the reality.
Some of these women project their own sad and bad experiences in to their opinions when post online.
Its ok diwana, they have right to hold their POVs.
and by the same token, those who are condoning the slapping a grown man by his mom, that too in front of his wife - are displaying classic symptoms of desensitization to domestic abuse - possibly from being raised in households where slapping everyone around is a common occurance since childhood.
Lol, take it other way, maybe we are displaying classic symptoms of sensitization to mother's slap (well, which is known as domestic abuse by some people nowadays)- possibly from being raised in households where disrespecting and raising your voice over your either Parent is a Shocking occurrence since childhood!!
So if those, who don't see insulting their mother, raising their voice on her and that too in front of their spouse big enough to be slapped for, shall we conclude that they've been raised in households where shouting at own's mother and insulting her is a common occurrence since their childhood??
Don't judge for that!!
LOL yes of course miss queen and you are the only sane ones on this forum who have it all figured out. Carry on :)
You can't just smile and get someone stabbed.
And this Miss Queen and others NEVER declared to be the only sane ones on this forum. So stop passing the sarcastic comments and discuss, if you have something to discuss.
Why are you obsessed with dirty diapers? A nanny or a daycare provider is perfectly capable of doing that as well. A mother's duty goes beyond changing diapers, wiping noses and staying up at night. It actually involves teaching your kids how to be kind and respectful of others and how to manage your temper....something the mother apparently failed at. Instead of acting like a bully on the playground and taking advantage of her 'status', she could've actually acted like a mother and explained herself to her son. But then I am just a bitter liberal woman and my post is a projection of my sad life so what do I know? :(
Wow. Great justification. I am sure any mother would be glad to hear this sentence when her kid tells her that she has NO right to touch her/slap her and yeah, blah blah!!
And in this case, I don't think the mother entirely failed in her son's upbringing. The only proof to it, is the son's silence after being slapped.
I don't see why a mother should explain herself to her own son?? Could it not be he to explain her why can't her demand be entertained, in a polite manner rather shouting at her and telling her rudely that she can NOT change her demands on the eleventh hour. Could he have not chosen the better tone and way and explain her?????? I would repeat, yes, no sane mother would slap her child if he is explaining his concern politely than insulting her-that too in front of his wife!!
that is why i said, to you/queen etc. getting slapped on the face in front of others is simply considered routine, nothing out of the ordinary. not seen as abuse. a real man should take it with a smile, etc. however that is not true for most people.
and yes, that is y I said, that to you and others, disrespecting mother and insulting her in front of others is simply considered routine, nothing out of ordinary.. not seen as shame, a real man should be doing that! not a big deal!!
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queen, you just posted about your cunning in laws on another thread just moments ago. this is becoming a joke...
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queen, you just posted about your cunning in laws on another thread just moments ago. this is becoming a joke...
Of course I did, but bring me a post where I mentioned that my husband raised his voice over his mother in front of me and Wow.....I was so pleeeeeeased to see that!!
Btw, everytime you are mistaking my MIL with my Jithani, because you can see, when I am talking about In-laws, I am talking about my Jithani most of the times and yes, if you dont know, a jithani comes in in-laws relationships!!!
Besides that, I am not here to prove that the MILs are saints and the DIL are evils or the DILs are saints and MILs are evil, anyone can be wrong...... but that doesn't give one, an excuse to defend his insulting behavior towards his mother...... you have problems with you mother, go, talk to her in private, make her understand, explain her your situation, but at least DONT insult her in front of your wife... its not appreciated.
And before reading other threads and getting them to me, read here my posts where I have already mentioned that the mother's reaction was neither appreciable.... occurred once, can be and should be ignored, dont make it a big deal!! if occurring on routine basis, yes, its time to make her realize her mistake too!!
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Of course I did, but bring me a post where I mentioned that my husband raised his voice over his mother in front of me and Wow.....I was so pleeeeeeased to see that!!
Btw, everytime you are mistaking my MIL with my Jithani, because you can see, when I am talking about In-laws, I am talking about my Jithani most of the times and yes, if you dont know, a jithani comes in in-laws relationships!!!
Besides that, I am not here to prove that the MILs are saints and the DIL are evils or the DILs are saints and MILs are evil, anyone can be wrong...... but that doesn't give one, an excuse to defend his insulting behavior towards his mother...... you have problems with you mother, go, talk to her in private, make her understand, explain her your situation, but at least DONT insult her in front of your wife... its not appreciated.
And before reading other threads and getting them to me, read here my posts where I have already mentioned that the mother's reaction was neither appreciable.... occurred once, can be and should be ignored, dont make it a big deal!! if occurring on routine basis, yes, its time to make her realize her mistake too!!
Good.
There is no need to make a big deal about the event and ditch the mother in this scenario.
Her son should have dealt with this in better way and there was no need to for him to raise his voice and be disrespectful.
Somehow I kinda like this woman......the mother. A no nonsense woman! :D
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:D
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The MIL obviously has anger management issues. If she appears perpetually angry, that’s also reflective of poor self esteem. It goes without saying that there cannot be any justification for slapping or hitting anyone, irrespective of the relationship with or age of the recipient of your ire.
Kudos to the son for behaving maturely and not escalating the matter further after being slapped. Also the Original Poster deserves credit for not adding fuel to the fire and not inciting her husband against the MIL.
OP, unfortunately, it seems you lost in the MIL lottery, and are consequently struck with a MIL who perhaps sees you as a rival vis-à-vis the attention and affection of the common man in both your lives and does not necessarily see you as a welcomed member of her family.
Now what? Obviously you guys need space too and will have to draw some red lines. At the same time, I do believe it’s not healthy if there is no relationship between your husband and his parents. Therefore, for some matters compromising might be a better option. For example, I don’t think the MIL intended any malaise when she suggested making roast chicken instead of lasagna for Eid; IMHO, it could have been handled much more diplomatically instead of the son becoming angry and raising his voice. An unreasonable request on her part would have been, for instance, an insistence that you guys cancel all other engagements on Eid and spend the entire day with the in-laws, in which case politely declining the ‘invitation’ would have been perhaps inevitable. All in all, a little more discretion needs to be execrised while dealing with the MIL, difficult though she undoubtedly is.
Hope things get better for you guys. Good luck!
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Some posts here are more disturbing than the incident between mom and son. Actually that incident wasn't disturbing at all.
Comments where the MIL is put down as a bully, an abuser, an insanely unreasonable control freak. And the saddest part is where people are sympathizing with poor little DILs, whereas the story was about a mother and a son. Maybe there should be a disclaimer from now on before any topic: no DIls were harmed during the proces.
No sense of reality.
I agree that slapping anyone is wrong (if there is no valid reason). But anyone could have done it, and many factors (among the tone used by the son) could have caused the slap. Mother and son might even have forgotten about it and moved on.
Things happen, people make mistakes, they regret it, they apologize and forgive (or not) and everyone moves on. But not on GS. Because on GS we know it all. We do not forgive. We do not forget. We are Life1.
Re: MIL slaps husband
Some posts here are more disturbing than the incident between mom and son. Actually that incident wasn't disturbing at all.
Comments where the MIL is put down as a bully, an abuser, an insanely unreasonable control freak. And the saddest part is where people are sympathizing with poor little DILs, whereas the story was about a mother and a son. Maybe there should be a disclaimer from now on before any topic: no DIls were harmed during the proces. No sense of reality.
I agree that slapping anyone is wrong (if there is no valid reason). But anyone could have done it, and many factors (among the tone used by the son) could have caused the slap. Mother and son might even have forgotten about it and moved on.
Things happen, people make mistakes, they regret it, they apologize and forgive (or not) and everyone moves on. But not on GS. Because on GS we know it all. We do not forgive. We do not forget. We are Life1.
Yar tu ne dil khush ker ditta :D
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There are mother in laws who likes throwing bartan in the garden and other cheap tactics to create drama and discord between bahu and beta even when son is the most obedient and silent type.
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lol, now that ones the Evil Version 
I would say stick to making the lasagne and then buy ready marinaded chicken and just stick it in the oven - no effort in sticking chicken in the oven. it's actually much more simple than lasagne. Or perhaps you could still go ahead and make the lasagne the next day. No biggy!
As for the slap, this is wrong. Whether in front of you or not. MIL is a pyscho!
9 pages and no resolution found. by the now the mil has probably issued more than a dozen slaps.
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Bhaeee ye open forum hay…discussions k liye… lol.. aapke masaaiel aur unka hal ki site nhi hy 
Maslon k hal yahan nhi..kaheen aur jaa ker dhoonden…yahan sirf maslon ka kachumar niklta hy
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Hitting anyone is wrong. No matter who you are and what the other person said. Period.
In my family, we don't hit people. Mothers don't hit their sons. Even if the sons are rude. There are other ways to deal with a batameez son than to hit him on the face infront of his wife. I don't get why some of you are justifying it. But what I've learnt in my life, hitting is not okay. Not at all.
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Since this thread is going nowhere Let's come up with scenarios where Hadeel will just have to admit that hitting was required in a specific cas. Let the games begin!
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No let's not drag Hadeel in your little life1 games. :=p
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Since this thread is going nowhere Let's come up with scenarios where Hadeel will just have to admit that hitting was required in a specific cas. Let the games begin!
:D