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I agree no comparison should be made but I think they deserve the same level of respect..
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There is no comparison which can be made between mother and wife.
Yes there are men who are jerks and do not respect their wives but still a wife has different level of respect than mother.
In essence: No comparison can be made between the two relations.
I don't know why men get so defensive about their mothers but have no problem being offensive about a girl's mother.
No one wants to be the mama here...that would a very...um...weird relationship. Women have no desire to replace their husband's mothers.
They simply like being given importance and that does not mean you have to treat both the same.
You can respect your mother WITHOUT disrespecting your wife. Or is that very difficult?
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What is a guy supposed to then when his mom or other family is rude to his wife or orders her around ?
I have a million dollar question. What was the tone of hubby when he told his mother that the chicken can't be roasted? Was he polite or rude?
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I have a million dollar question. What was the tone of hubby when he told his mother that the chicken can't be roasted? Was he polite or rude?
LOL. Get the answer in the previous posts!!!
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depends how he said it.
but slapping a married man. son or not. is beyond me.
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I just want to know if you took lasagna or roast chicken......
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^ i dont think they had any food the following day … neither lasagna nor roast chicken 
…just assuming …
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I have a million dollar question. What was the tone of hubby when he told his mother that the chicken can't be roasted? Was he polite or rude?
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I'll admit that my husband raised his voice and was angry.
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She mentioned that her husband raised his voice & was angry .... now the question here pops up in my mind is why he raised his voice? I mean no sane person ( 18+, married with kid), because of some lame reason ( roast chicken ) of what to cook & what not to cook when his mother clearly mentioned that this is something between her & her DIL, would do such a thing .... I think dearest DIL filled his (husband) ears with something something something hence he behaved this way ...
OP putting your ego aside & showing some flexibility every now & then will not cause you any harm .....
why you put your husband in such a situation to begin with .... cant you talk to your MIL???? cant you speak for yourself ??? cant you take a stand for yourself ( if thats what its all about ) ? when she ( MIL) clearly mentioned that its something between you & her ......
wachare noo chapair puwaa dity muft chhh ....
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^It's not too hard to believe he raised his voice because he was annoyed his wife was told to make something different the night before Eid.. Not sure why the DIL needs to 'fill his ears with something' for him to behave that way..
Right or wrong I can imagine my own brother and plenty of others I know being irritated by something like that..
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If he blew his top, it's obviously because this issue has come up repeatedly in the past, he's already spoken to his mom about it multiple times, and even moved out of the home.
It's not like this should have caught the old lady by surprise.
Saas bhi kabhi ek chalaak DIL thi, so let's not give all MIL's so much credit. Some really are conniving, and if y'all think DIL's are so bad, do you honestly think those bad habits go away once she becomes an old lady?
No. They don't.
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The argument between my MIL and husband isn't about food.
There have been lots of arguments between them.
This was just the latest one. My MIL has caused us lots of problems.
This is why we don't live with her any more.
Her other DILs feel the same but they still live with her.
I told my husband not to argue with her but he still does.
I'm glad we have our own place.
I started this thread to discuss the fact she slapped my husband.
That was the first time she had done so.
And we had lasagne for Eid.
Not at this age at least
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The husband shouldn't have talked to his mom in front of the wife. If a guy is "mature" enough to marry, he should be mature enough to understand how sensitive these relationships can be. Secondly, I do think it was unjust of the mother in law to have such demands but the way her son handled the situation didn't help either and consequently the mother's reaction was also severe. HOWEVER, she's the mother if she slapped her son yes that's not mature at all but you of all the people need to get over it especially since your husband didn't react much to it. Its between the two of them! Let it be. Honestly, no offense to you especially since don't know how you are but I find such women very irritating who after marrying a guy feel that now they have become his mom. GET OVER IT GIRLS! Most probably even before you were born, they have had a relationship so don't try to up that.
My MIL told me to make lasagne for Eid but then changed it to roast chicken at the last minute. It was the evening before Eid and me and my husband and our baby had our shopping to do. My husband then told his mother that she couldn't change her demands at the last minute.
My MIL doesn't live with us. She lives with her husband, other sons and their wives. Me and my husband and baby live nearby on our own.
My MIL then slapped my husband and told him not to interfere, that he has no business talking to her that way about matters that only concern her and me. She said that a DIL has a duty to obey her MIL and that I should make whatever she wants even though we live separately.
I was extremely shocked that she slapped my husband, especially in front of me. My husband didn't complain about being slapped, whereas I thought he should have something about it.
Was my husband right to ignore it or should he have said or done something? Please can you give me your opinions. Thanks.
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^Some of us believe that whatever the relationship is it's wrong to raise your hand to another person or mistreat them..
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If going purely by the OP to be an accurate account then my feelings are that the slap to her son was actually a symbolic SLAP to her DIL ... MIL is teaching DIL that she can't use her husband as a tool to get her way ...
I think the clever one is not necessarily the husband ... Indeed it's the MIL.
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^WOW…that’s an interesting way to look at it. LOL… it sure changes things. Before Op felt angry for her husband and now if she were to seriously consider the above possibility, yikes…it would intensify the rage…the sleepless nights that will now be spent on reliving, dwelling, fuming, and possibly scheming. Just when bechari OP was putting it all behind her, moving on from the incident, looking toward a better tomorrow… Good going, Psyah.
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@ psyah ^ab sochne ko to kuch bhi socha ja sakta hy....... ...
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Baat hai ke … Hum mard bacharey middle mein pas jatey hein … MIL directly instruct DIL (rightly or wrongly) then in order to get back at MIL … DIL uses husband to complain … Not by telling him directly to complain, but by complaining to him about MIL … Us dumb men will just go repeating that complaint to our mothers and then the mothers know sure well who is speaking in her son’s voice … To his mother he deserved a slap for forwarding his wife’s complaint instead of calming his wife down and saying ‘doesn’t matter’ … But instead he took it on his wife’s behalf to his own mum … So the extra hard slap was for DIL … That is how I read it.
Next time when OP complains about her MIL to her husband she should tell her husband to keep his mouth shut and not go voicing her complaints to his mum like a wife lackey …
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I dont get the whole idea of why DIL should come between when a mother and a son speaking to each other unless she is involved in the entire issue!!