MIL slaps husband

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Mother hitting a grown son in front of his wife is just crazy I think! There comes a point where hitting your children is completely unacceptable. Your husband did the right thing by not provoking her even more. Does your mil have a habit of losing her anger often? Hitting can be a sign of mental frustrations in a mother who is slapping an adult son.

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You're more likely to get unbiased and neutral advice from 'random strangers' as you put it..

People on the 'outside' tend to be more objective..

It's usually family who are more biased and have their interests at heart, especially when the situations involve them.. Things often end up messy with conflicts of interest, ideas of 'family loyalty' and ties..

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Yes , really Coughcough, a DIL is not a waitressing service. Oh waitress, sorry, can you make X instead of Z?

Just like it depends what tone the son used, why not question what tone the MIL was using when we ask why the son would even bother getting involved?

He did not disobey her, he just drew boundaries. His wife has 20 other things to do, and maybe changing a recipe last minute for her is inconveniencing her, or maybe he knows that's a more difficult recipe for her and the lasagna was easier given she had other stuff to do plus a baby to take care of.

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OP clearly mentioned that MIL does not even live with them … they live on their own …. So she was just basically visiting them for eid … she was just a guest there …. & this is not how you treat your guests …..

Its funny how people over here “assuming” things on their own that she “ordered”….. she “ demanded” …. Guys may be she just “REQUESTED” her DIL to make roast chicken instead of lasagna but dearest DIL made a fuss out of it …… who knows ??? … we only know one side of the story ….. but again MIL should not have slapped her son ….

The point is what things lead to the situation of slapping?

Its funny when people think cooking is some kind of a abusive act for women?
Lol at people who think DIL is getting abused … how ?
Chapair bechare husband ko pari he … aur mazloom DIL …
HILARIOUS

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Slapping an adult son over such a trivial reason is really immature. I feel our culture puts up with a lot of BS from people because they are "elders".

OP, kudos to your husband though. He did the honorable thing by not making it into a big issue.

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you people…took the bait :rotfl: Good work OP :k:

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Yeah, and kudos to him once again, he did the honorable thing by not fulfilling his mother demand at the eleventh hour!! :hehe:

:disgust: #

His mother should know well, that her “demands” will not be entertained at any cost at the eleventh her in her own son’s house!! so stupid of she!! What she thought, she’d demand of something and her son and DIL are kinda servants who are just waiting for her orders and getting them fulfilled!! Stupid old woman!! Huh!!

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For the sake of argument though, since this is so much fun...

What kinda slap was it? its possible that the MIL just tapped at the back of the head? or may be as a joke?

OP needs clarify whether it was a slap or tap or a karaakaydaar chanDD..

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Good point raised. I wanted to, I just got it out of my head.

I was thinking the same, (& not for the sake of argument and not for fun) seriously, Would the OP come here and define Slap. Even if it was a bit harder, it was his mother who did it BUT.... could it not be a slap on his back? shoulder? head? arm??

Whatever... I know a lot of Evil MILs, but I have seen a lot of EVIL DILs too..... unluckily we have not got a lot of MILs here on the forum who would take the side but, its not always true... MIL are not always playing the negative roles!!

I would count it a really big issue if the slap was given to DIL by MIL, but its a slap from a mother to a son!! Her OWN son!!

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yeah, when it comes to other people's lives and in laws, so generous and humble. paragon of tolerance's grandma's wisdomtooth's fairy's taildusting.

own in laws - even the 4 yr old is a villain. vat is dis?

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Op here

I'll try to answer your questions and clarify issues.
I don't care about making lasagne over roast chicken.
I was TOLD by my MIL to make lasagne for Eid.
The day before Eid she told us to make roast chicken

My husband told her that it was unfair of her to make demands and that she should have given us notice.
I'll admit that my husband raised his voice and was angry.
My husband was driving my MIL and I shopping at the time.

My MIL then shouted How dare my husband speak to her like that.
She said this issue was about her and me and didn't concern him.
She then slapped him pretty hard on the face

My MIL has a history of shouting at us. She puts me down regularly.
She is in charge of her house and will brook no interference.
But she has no problems dictating to others how to live their lives.

We were living with my MIL until about a couple of weeks before Eid.
My husband spoke to her about get excessive and unreasonable demands.
She said if you will not follow my rules then don't live in my house.
We were happy to move out.

We thought our relationship would improve if we no longer lived with her.
We still went to her house for Eid and we haven't talked to her about this.
Finally, after the slap, my MIL told me make lasagne and leave the roast chicken, if it was such a big deal to me.

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Yes, and any reasonable adult should realize this. A son (and daughter) should make every effort to fulfill their parents’ wishes. But a line has to be drawn somewhere. It does not make OP’s husband a bad son for saying no to a last minute request. And it is very immature of his mother to slap him in front of his wife over such a trivial reason.

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Yes & even that is true,

and not to ignore this one!!

So you better stop picking my specific posts, you can just pick on me only if you follow my every thread and every post!! Not just that you want to read!!

P.S. More importantly If you just skimmed reading, the incident belongs to my SIL, that is Jithani and NOT MIL…
and if in case you intend to dig my any posts thats about bashing my own MIL then I would totally agree that there was a time when I had not so good relations with my own MIL but time changes and a lot of things change accordingly too!!!
:disgust:

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Yar if it doesn’t make her husband a bad son for saying no to a last minute request, how does it make a woman a bad mother for slapping her own son??? :smack:

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all i know is two days after posting a bunch of audio posts of you singing all kinds of songs on guppy farmaishes, you posted in religion forum that music is haraam.

so i wouldn’t really take anything you say seriously, pal. :phajja:

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Is it the first time she slapped him in front of you and she does it often too?
So you actually admit that your husband raised his voice over her in front of you!!!

I would say, both are wrong at their ends. His mother for slapping her son in front of her DIL and Your husband, raising his voice and being aggressive over his mother in front of his wife!!

Few things are just need to be settled in private!! Every grown up human has his respect!!!

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LOL. I still say MUSIC IS HARAAM. Now what?? I can’t run from the reality and running away from reality would neither change the REALITY!! So why fake excuses. Yes, singing is my passion… more than even that what you guys may have observed, I LOVE singing to the core. And just because I know it is Haraam, I chose not to choose it as my profession. God knows how easy is it for me to launch my album especially when I myself belong to media somehow and a voiceover artist myself. I had a huge opportunities to sing professionally, just didn’t do it because it is Haraam. Yes I know, I post a lottt of songs in VG forum and I might be doing that in future too… but I know I am not harming any human, I know it won’t effect my relationship with anyone… I do whatever I am capable of doing as a human to stop myself to do something Haraam.

Refusing to have it as a profession is as same as you are so in love with anything that is right in front of you, within your range, no one’s stopping you to have it but you decide not to have it for some reasons.

I just can not control singing back at home and sharing with a community of people but that doesn’t mean that I start denying the facts just to prove myself right.
May Allah direct me to the right path and I think HE is, as at least I am away from taking singing as a profession!!!

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wah wah what shaandaar excuses for yourself, and what 3rd degree line of questioning for the OP. :cool:

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You should sing naats.

As in you should naaat sing.

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whatever you take it as. I am not at all questioning OP. I’m just discussing the fact… yes might be interrogating tone…!! You look far nicer when you are being funny.. stay that way… I like your humor!! Sarcasm doesn’t suit you!!

I have posted a plenty of Naats and a Surah-e-Rehman Qirat in Voice Gallery forum! Did you get a chance to hear that??

Unfortunately I see a less quantity of people “liking” and replying in my Naat and Qirat threads in VG!! They should hear that too!!