There is just no winning. If men marry ugly women its because they want to feel better about themselves. If we marry good looking women its to brag. Seriously you lot are as warped as the Borg Queen.
I've never heard that said about men who marry less attractive women. And tell the truth and shame the devil - you KNOW such men exist out there (note I've acknowledged the existence of the female equivalent to such men - so no gender bias intended).
...is part of their motivation the desire to "boast/brag" about the beautiful woman they've married? And doesn't that mean that these men want other men to look at their wife and to lust after/desire her?
Men and women want their partners to be beautiful, sexy, attractive and there is a sense of pride associated with it. You have someone that other people want and desire is kind of an ego boost that HUMANS generally like.
Seriously no one go out and look for an "unattractive" mate.
nobody pointed out that at times the sole reason for marrying an ultra beauty is because that man is the only son and her mother wants to find the ultimate chaand si bahu for his laakhon mei ek baita :p
Other than that, yes shallow as it may seem...everybody wants to hear good compliments about their spouse (at least initially) and be told that what a great couple they make or how lucky he/she is to have such a good looking spouse. But then as time passes, the seerat unravels and beauty ultimately takes a backseat and the same compliments don't matter anymore.
And I guess that to me is the real question. These men who want trophy wives and want others to be jealous of them for having snagged a beautiful woman, what do we say about their ghairat? Have they not objectified their wife?
Don't get me wrong, if a man selects a woman because she is khoobsurat and khoobseerat, then he's looking beyond the superficial, but for a man whose sole measure of a woman's worth is how she looks on his arm - what do you say about such men?
...is part of their motivation the desire to "boast/brag" about the beautiful woman they've married? And doesn't that mean that these men want other men to look at their wife and to lust after/desire her?
There is just no winning. If men marry ugly women its because they want to feel better about themselves. If we marry good looking women its to brag. Seriously you lot are as warped as the Borg Queen.
this.
I have had male friends say that they would never marry within the family unless if the cousin is really hot.
So yeah, it’s all about showing people that you’ve got the hot wife.
...is part of their motivation the desire to "boast/brag" about the beautiful woman they've married? And doesn't that mean that these men want other men to look at their wife and to lust after/desire her?
if other men 'desire her' because of the beauty, give our man some credit for actually marrying her to fulfill his desires.
A woman who marries solely on the "earning potential" and bragging rights for having a rich husband is no different than the man who marries a beautiful woman to show her off.
Marriage for the sole point of a trophy spouse aside, I reckon it's less superficial/arbitrary to marry/judge someone for earning potential than it is to marry/judge someone for looks. Earning potential is a variable which can be shaped with education, willpower, mental prowess, whereas we don't have control over the genetics that inform our beauty.