Re: Men who are not against polygamy [merged]
Girls are trying to be clever here. So Nutwer isnt cutting any slack either.
People who are argueing on the basis about men properly furfilling thier other obligations like 5 times namaz , roza, haaj zakat, before marriage to 4 wifes, has little weight.
Because Islam does not place preconditions of furfilling certain faraz before doing other acts.
Infact Marriage- Whether a muslims prays nor not is ENCOURAGED. Marriage is a major part of Islam. Marriage is known as half of faith.
Marriage is encourage dto all muslims, irregardless of relgious level, as it helps to 'lower your gaze' and a man away from illegal sex.
Equivalently, the broad purpose of multiple marriages also includes the facility of avoiding additional illegal sexual relations if some men cannot/will not live without it, whatver the reason. I hope we do not need to go through innate sexual urges again, and the but possibly true reality of men possessing a polygamous nature.
Any man is allowed to marry once, twice, thrice, quadruple, without any preconditions apart from being muslim and having the intent to deal justly with the wives. For whatver reason the man marries, providing that hes tries his best or tries to keep all wives happy, he earns sccording sawaab of the extra marriage and furfilling its responsibilities- not forgetting the sawaab of the halah extra s.relations..
Regarding namaz and other faraz acts, that is a separate aspect that should be furfilled irregardless of the no.of marriages, and he will be questioned appropriatly. I do not see what the point is of taunting men they do not pray 5 times or fast or do other act then they should not marry more..unless a man is claiming he is doing it purely for 'sawaab' this argument is baseless. If a man is doing it sincerely to help another insecure women, then it is praisworthy, and a major sawaab for the man. In the case which, it is logical to assume such a good man would also discuss his intention with his present wife before acting.
To also reienforce, by the graciousness of Diwanas's post with the FULL relevant verse for the 4 wives quoated. It is not a must for the man to perfect his just dealings with his wives, which would imply if he would not achieve perfection he would be condemned. The essence is, and as clarified by the succeeding verse, he must try to treat them equally thus keep them all happy, and that if a wife is incontent she has the right to demand equal to the other/s.
Back to the point: Some men marry additonally for sincere reasons, such as to help someone in difficulty, or an uncapable first wife. On the other hand, many men marry for additional s.xual needs.
Ofcourse some men would abuse the law, like any others are, and do not care or make a good attempt to treat the wifes fairly and keep them all happy. Such men would be accountleble.
However no women, can by law or rights, inoculate her or any man he can not marry again.
Ofcourse there are the potential disadvantges, complexities and modern day inpracticalities of multiple marriages,
however these are human perpectives and not religiously binding.
Logically and not judicially speaking, a man who does ponder on extra marriages should consult and consider the impact on his present wife. Realistically, it does and and always tooken its toll on most women , including the wives of the prophet and his closest. (However, it must be remembered that although the prophet (pbuh) did not refrain from enjoying halal sexual relations, the Prophets (pbuh) reasons for polygamy were for securing needful womens.)
Therefore It is logical for a caring husband to do this.
Also, in the final sermon, the prophet (pbuh) advised us to be kind to our wives, and he also states in another hadith, 'the best of you are those that are best with thier wives'
Respectivly, the interesting hadith quoted by TLK is translated by numerous narrators and by Bukhari, so should be assumed accurate.
In relation to this I can also confidently recall a hadith from Bukhari, where the once prophet (pbuh) wanted to fondle his wife (h.aisha.) and well requested her to lift her top.
I understand the importance of minding rudeness...^ Its factual and accuratly stated.
Although, personally, the like of narrations on this thread, are influencing and confusing to an extent to people, where at one they are taught to guard, avoid, and refrain themselves.
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