Are you okay with your mothers being co-wives?
Are you okay with having step-siblings?
Are you okay with your daughters being co-wives?
Any men or women here who are against polygamy? If you are Muslim, how do you reconcile this attitude of yours with your faith?
I have met only two so far who have voiced their opinion. One of them is a young man who actually finds the concept ‘disgusting.’ I was very surprised with that.
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Men who want multiple wives should also be willing to let the wives have multiple husbands.
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Men who want multiple wives should also be willing to let the wives have multiple husbands.
If I'm not mistaken, Islam allows men to have mutliple (4) wives at once, whereas women are not allowed to have multiple husbands.
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Sharaabee, thanks for the response.
Do you follow Islam?
Out of curiosity, are you a guy?
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The way I see it, its like when your fasting almost all food looks good to you and you want anything and everythign
but once you open your roza u only want very little.
:)
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The way I see it, its like when your fasting almost all food looks good to you and you want anything and everythign
but once you open your roza u only want very little.
:)
aww, what a beautiful analogy. im gonna be waiting for someone to say something to me so i can use this one! :) but on the other hand, very well said.
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Any men or women here who are against polygamy? If you are Muslim, how do you reconcile this attitude of yours with your faith?
The quote below on another thread is the perfect way to describe how I feel about polygamy:
Originally Posted by Princess1983
He may have the right to 4 wives, but I also have the right to have a happy balanced marriage where there is two people raher than 3, 4,5,6 in the equation.
I'm not "against" polygamy...it's just not for me. If a man wants to have a 2nd wife and if his 1st wife is ok with that....then that's great for them. But I'm not ok with MY husband having another wife.
Yes Islam does allow men to have upto 4 wives. But as far as I know, nothing in Islam says that I have to accept it and can not divorce my husband if he takes on a 2nd wife. It's his Islamic right to get a 2nd wife and it's my Islamic right to ask for divorce if I'm not happy in the marriage.
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The way I see it, its like when your fasting almost all food looks good to you and you want anything and everythign
but once you open your roza u only want very little.
:)
To many men, being married is like fasting. Anything and everything except your wife looks good.
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No doubt polygamy is allowed in Islam, but there is big difference between allowed and encouraged (believe it was not encouraged) the reason it was allowed 4 because that time it was common for man to have may b 6 7 wives
By taking into consideration social norms that time, Islam curbed this to 4, and also put additional conditions, like equal treatment also asked everyone to divorce if they have more then 4.
Now come to todays world, polygamy though allowed in Islam but not really practical to have more then 1 wife (there are few peoples does have more wives but they are in minority), Arab society was polygamous society but we are not.
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^agreed with Tipu.
Yes, it is allowed but not encouraged...for the very reason of unfair treatment. Now I understand that 'unfair treatment' is quite ambiguous. But, if i remember correctly, in some hadees of the Rasool (SAW), he says thats its allowed, but discourages it bc he says you have to treat them exactly equally and fairly, and then says that he knows that its impossible for any man to uphold the equality and fairness.
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as long as something is okay to do from islamic point of view, I have no problem in accepting it.
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Yes i whole heartly accept it. Women, i think all of you should stop questioning the wisdom of Allah SWT. And yes, of course Sheikh Yasin speaks my mind here.
And this one: jealousy is part of women nature:
Should Men consult his wife?
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I am not dare to appose anything which is allowed by Islam, but there is difference between "allowed" and "compiled or farz", we must do what are farz, but when come to something allowed, it left on our own choice which we must use according to practical reasons.
Polygamy is allowed in Islam and remain so till the judgement day, there no doubt about it, if someone would challenge it he would loose his IMAN, but since it is not FARZ, and Allah left us to decided our own, thus if we comment on someones polygamous way on base of practical reasons (i.e social and impact on the family) it is a fair call.
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'polygamy is allowed in islam for men'
What are the reasons y polygamy is required??!all these replies are neglecting that
Islam says it, yes. Are the circumstances different now, yes!
There were circumstances which required this, which no longer are there..
i read a lot of replies saying their ok with it, or as long as the wife accepts it... i dont agree that polygamy is only about a man having multiple wives, its about the reasons for it...
im against polygamy! beacause it does not apply in this time....
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The issue is not of farz or not. It is allowed. It is part of our faith. It is not something to ridicule or view in the lens of an American or a European. The problem with threads like this is they lack basic grounding in Islamic jurisprudence. The manner in which a second wife can be married in a halal manner is impossible for a man to implement. He must be an angel to fulfill all the requirements.
Funky nails do you have a background in Islamic Jurisprudence? Do you have a basic understanding regarding the rules and procedures a man must overcome to marry a second wife?
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Polygamy
In Bangladesh, India, Kashmir and Pakistan and many South Asian Countries it is considrered very bad but it Middle East ad Africa it is norm.
It depends from culture to culture too, The above-mentioned countries majority of people came from Hidu background and we still practice culture more compare to religion.
As long as a man can fulfill his duties according to Quran and Sunnah then he has right to marry more than one wife and this right has been given to him by Quran. But men should also remember that there are many responsibilities with the right.
We need to be very careful, for example, if a women can't have a baby, guy marries another women but how would a man feel if he wasn't able to have children and his wife emanded the divorce, how would he feel?
Rights do come with duties too.
BTW I am a guy
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The issue is not of farz or not. It is allowed. It is part of our faith. It is not something to ridicule or view in the lens of an American or a European. The problem with threads like this is they lack basic grounding in Islamic jurisprudence. The manner in which a second wife can be married in a halal manner is impossible for a man to implement. He must be an angel to fulfill all the requirements.
Funky nails do you have a background in Islamic Jurisprudence? Do you have a basic understanding regarding the rules and procedures a man must overcome to marry a second wife?
This is an interesting response. You accept the concept of polygamy but recognize the impracticality of its application in real world circumstances since human nature makes the equal treatment a near impossibility.
I agree, what Allah has allowed, we mere mortals have no right to challenge the existence of the practice, but I still think the emotional impact is worth considering.
Say a man devotes himself equally in financial and emotional respects to his many wives and he fulfils his obligation - this still doesn't take into account the emotional turmoil and angst a woman experiences because she shares her husband with other women. My point is, where do her feelings come into play?
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This is an interesting response. You accept the concept of polygamy but recognize the impracticality of its application in real world circumstances since human nature makes the equal treatment a near impossibility.
I agree, what Allah has allowed, we mere mortals have no right to challenge the existence of the practice, but I still think the emotional impact is worth considering.
Say a man devotes himself equally in financial and emotional respects to his many wives and he fulfils his obligation - this still doesn't take into account the emotional turmoil and angst a woman experiences because she shares her husband with other women. My point is, where do her feelings come into play?
For this very reason, women have right to divorce. They can tell man they will not work on this pay. (dont take it in literal meaning)
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as long as something is okay to do from islamic point of view, I have no problem in accepting it.
what about 50 year old marrying 10 year old??
