Roman, why the bitterness? What did I ever do to you personally? You don't even know me. You sound as though you are him. Are you??
I am not arguing with you regarding anything. It would be useless. Your words are very hurtful as you truly don't know anything about me, not at all. If from my posts you deduce the information that you've said, well then I am sorry to say you have jumped the gun way too quickly. I am sorry that you were ever hurt in the past, because it seems as though you were, from your heated posts. If you were, I am truly sorry that you had to go through that. I really am. You shouldn't have had to.
I only pray that God shows us all the right path :)
Mohtarma, it's nothing personal against you either. But please, spare us the you-don't-know-me-or-sounds-like-you-were-hurt routine. If you choose to open up a thread on a public forum discussing your personal experiences then be ready to hear all kind of criticism. Or were you looking to hear only sucking up comments only?
Please understand, I don't mean to put personal experiences on the board or anything as I do still have feelings for this person and so that is why it was so important for me to get feedback from you guppies. As someone once advised, strangers for virtue of being strangers will be harsh but will give the low down...they'll be honest. If this is what it took for me to figure some things out re: myself or about others (ex. posting the relevant info. to obtain the advice etc I seek) well then so be it. My matter with this gentleman is very private indeed and I am keeping it this way. What I did here is to give you a glimpse/ a scenario for some healthy advice from a young-Pakistani perspective. That is all. At this point, I am done and I would like to close this thread. Thank you. :)
Let's learn to all keep our options wide open and not put all our eggs in one basket: conclusion drawn. If things work out great, if not, it's no one's loss. Hey, this is what I've learned. :)
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Sorry no pics in this particular post but I wanted to share a strange experience I recently had with a guy I got to know through this chat. I got to know him for a period of 6 weeks unbtil a week ago when we (mainly he) broke it off. He was a nice guy but I felt that he was leading me on and I needed answers. After trying to avoid me for a few days, I was able to hold his attention and well, things didn't go so well. I am very gung-ho marriage-minded while he wanted to take his time. My reaction: if you know that I am gung-ho marriage-minded, why start anything with me to begin with knowing full well that you're different! Now I am left with unspoken emotions and trying to get this guy out of my mind. The whole thing has left an unpleasant taste in my mouth. I
I am quite an eligible bachelorette and I just feel that I don't get appreciated relative to my self-worth. I have so much to offer some decent man someday yet some people don't realize that. When and if they do, it is too late. I will never understand the male species. They are truly from Mars!!!
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Tariq, you know something, it's been a few days since I've posted on this thread which I started originally. In these few days I have been introspective and honestly I have learned a lot about myself. I value myself a great deal, that will not change no matter what. Therefore, I only want the best for me and you know what, the best mate for me is out there somewhere and I hope he hurries up and finds me fairly soon. I was told by a friend recently that, Mona, you need to keep quality people in your life...those that contribute value in your life. That friend has a point. I am too good for some people that are out there hovering in space who are confused and/or just frustrated since they themselves don't even know what they want. I don't mean to sound arrogant by saying that, it's just how I see things from my perspective. Maybe in retrospect this experience was what I needed to show me that I shouldn't end up with a person has whacked emotions and doesn't know quality if it hit him in the face. The power of prayer and Koran helps a great deal as well. I am so at peace with myself and my surroundings since this weekend after reading the Koran and praying that I'm like on Cloud 9 these days. I feel on top of the world, my confidence is back like 500% and I am Ms. It all over again! A newer Mona, better than ever! :)
For God Sake woman...get a life....pheley to khud apnay rishtay dhoondnay...woh bhi chat pai....6 haftay kha ishq lagga kai abb roona kaisah.....dramay meri jaan sab dramay...tell me something how on earth can u get so close to someone in 6 weeks...and I AM TALKING CHAT...u r just a sympathy seeker for ur silly mistakes ..that's all
Whatever, He devil! Sympathy seeker my foot. And for your kind information, I HAVE a life and a great one too. Writing about the situation here is therapeutic for me. It's democratic to post and I am taking advantage of this. Other than that, you're from Mars too so don't bother enlightening me on your version of things. Rude and unnecessary suggestions I do not appreciate.
28 years old, you're not, mentally atleast. What is this whole deal about "I am this, I am that, I need this and that." Try getting down from your horsey worsey. Marraige is not like shopping for ready made designer clothes, you have to mold, yourself and your partner and then make a 'perfect match' if there ever is such a thing.
What you seriously need is not a 'young-pakistani' but an 'old-nani' perspective. Go and talk to someone in your family and she'll tell you what your frame of mind should be. Reciting "I AM ALL DAT AND I NEED ALL DAT" 200 times before you eat, sleep, weep etc etc etc, wont' do the trick.
I am just responding to you, Mr. Wadi. You are just plain rude and do not deserve a response. Go examine your head first, and then tell me what's right or wrong, ok. People forget their own flaws and suddenly become oracles and goody-2-shoes themselves. Jeez!!!!
You know what the problem is??? The problem with me posting this topic on a Paki site is that Paki men expect to meet meek Paki women and since they are conditioned from an early age, they get attracted to meek Paki women. Therefore, me being daring to ask for advice/get opinions on this subject is unique to you "guppies." And to me, being born and raised here with a different kind of attitude than most of you (mostly you men) seem to have, this startles me that even this yougner generation seems to continue along the lines of their forefathers in mentality. You'd rather prefer me to be like "Gosh I am sooooo guilty of this, pleeeeese forgive me" etc. What a strange attitude to take!!! Instead of saying, "Mona, you had guts to post somethng like this," you harshly, unfairly, and very cruelly insult me. That is the extreme of your attitude ( you know who you guys are...you've posted here). It's a sad state of affairs to see Pakis behave in this way. Most Pakis will never change, and they'll continue to be 2-faced, judging others by their standards yet throwing caution to the wind when it comes to themselves. So so so so hypocritical and quite disgusting. Makes you want to vomit.
I probably won’t jump to the conclusion and trash the whole generation, because some ppl are more blunt in answering than what we’re used to. One thing which you learn in life is that each person has his own personality, and communities like this discussion board, have all sorts of people. Once u get used to online communities, you learn to figure out that ppl don’t always respond (or even interpret the question) in the same way we wish them to. So, u just learn to read the responses with a great deal of salt, and don’t get hung up on them. Its waste of time to get flamed. Ok, enuf of the soap-box!
Re: your original question, I guess, in the initial part of this thread you got some good responses. Some of them were the sort of stuff you expected to read. Some others mixed compassion with hard advice (Fraudia) and some others didn’t waste too much time trying to be politically correct and just went straight to the point in their own way (Roman). As a friendly advice, almost all the opinions expressed here, to some extent have merit. Its upto you, how much u decide to gleam from them.
If you notice carefully, almost all members suggested one thing. Its good to be self-confident and sure of your goals and ambitions. But please try to go easy on how you project yourself (not on this BB, as that is probably irrelevant, but to your real-life prospective partners).
Everything else which needed to be said, has already been said, so I won’t waste your time. Good luck. :k:
jsut adding briefly to Faisals response. Make sure you would be willing to accept a guy who says and potrays themselves exactly the way you have yourself over here. Otherwise perhaps you need to reconsider the way you are potraying your confidence. I am sure you are All dat but perhaps its not coming off to other people the way you think it is. Just a difference in the way we say and read things.
dear moona, the only problem with us "Paki Men" is that you're an idiot.
Don't cheap out.. go see a shrink.. don't waste bandwidth by endlessly discussing yourself... we'd rather discuss urinals.. only they don't stink that much.
