If a man is satisfied sexually in a relationship between wife and husband he wont need no porn movies or another woman to sleep with just for fun, hey infact i think in a realationship they should be some changes inside like for example the woman should take care of herself at home not only when she goes out cause the husband looks at u at home not when u go out, also the husband he should take care of him self for his wife 2.
-why u think islam teach us to avoid looking at women and woman to avoid looking at men because God knows that the devil will do his job if no one respects this rule.
-The shaitan (devil) said that the woman is an arrow for a man which i never miss. i think that only depends on the man and the woman.
my point the other way round .. people who are easily cheated by are dumb.
yes even if one fails to keep a balance . the other can venture . same could happen to the woman . she could also get frustrated.. then would you call her astray
Mankind has a lot of natural urges and desires, And these are all desires that morality and intelligence attempt to control or dismiss to a certain degree. In some ways, it is that very control that separates us from animals.
As for the men who say that this inability to be monogamous is the basis of the Islamic ruling allowing multiple wives, you're not making sense. Islam also forbids our natural urges. Fornication, adultery, drinking alcohol, taking drugs, for some even homosexuality. Even violoence and murder could be considered natural urges. We're not supposed to submit to those either.
And we've been given a sense of morality and intelligence to control ourselves. Use it.
If men want, they can easily marry another woman.. I guess thats better than divorcing your wife.. why gals make so much shout about sisters(other wives of her husband) when they can co-exist in the same household? My chachu's best pal in Sialkot married 4 wives and I see all wives happy all the time- they even look after each other kids including breast feeding them if the mother gets sick..
rest assured RV, my observation has been in Pakistan that the girls who make noise about not marrying a guy who could marry or has married another girl end up being 2nd, 3rd, 4th wife. My childhood acquitance who studied from the Murray College(Sialkot) came to the US for studies and I learnt just a month ago that she got married to an Egyptian guy who is already married twice (one to an Egyptian in Egypt and another a gori in the US), is 18 years older than her and has two kids(both studying in Egypt). But she must have taken decision willingly. Girls on this forum might end up like my college mate- but its okay!
Us men are perverts, simple, not in a bad way, it's just that we luv women, it's the force behind making babies, i'm totally against polygamy..don't get me wrong, but i'm a guy & understand the sex on the brain syndrome, the only thing stopping some guys from cheating is the fact that they would never intentionally risk hurting their woman and also he doesn't want another woman, it's like he physically wants it but not mentally, it takes a very strong minded man to stay faithful and there's alot of weak minded men out there.
Take the situation of a married man, he's still always thinking about sex, but mostly with his wife, he's not always thinking of cheating on his wife, it's just something in his mind, like a fantasy which in most cases is never carried out, it's got nothing to do with his feelings towards his woman, or that his woman isn't enough for him,or she ain't giving him what he wants, it's just a man thing. With the right woman these feeling can be easily surpressed, for me thats an very clever woman (good looks would be a much appriciated extra), kind and caring, not selfish at all, some1 who can match or beat me in an discussion, in which case i'd learn something, i can't handle a woman who ends an argument with 'thats the way it is' or something along those lines, without explaining her thinking. See, alot of men see women as 'not as intelligent' as them, so they generalise what women are, they become a 'thing' to have a physical relationship with, and then they want another 'thing', men who cheat on their wives have only a physical connection with their partners, to them theyr'e only risking the loss of a physical relationship with their partner by cheating, a man who's mentally connected to his partner has a lot more to lose and therefore combat the urge very easily as he knows he'll probably never find a woman like her again, all this is a subconcious thing, we don't actively think like this, it's the way it is. men ain't as simple as ppl say.
Most men like to keep women 'mentally restricted' through keeping them from educating themselves, because they like to think of a woman as less equal to them but not sure if it's true, this is because they know their own mental capabilities and fear the women's potential to out think them and then they'd lose the control. I think educated partners make better couples rather than if 1 was educated and the other was not, u can't make the mental connection unless both are uneducated and think alike. thats my opinion......
EXCUSE ME ! ALLAH didnt make this rule to throw your first wife ..HE says do pure justice between the four…dumbo’s like you islam ka naam kharaab kartai hain:mad:
Miss Dumbo,
Please read the whole thread and then come to concluions. First of all, it was not my idea to keep four wifes at ago. Someone in this thread said that it is impossible to maintain four wifes in today’s time due to some expense or some other crap. This Use and throw was just an solution to not maintaining four wifes at a time. In this way, you could enjoy many women without worrying abt your expenses going up. Dusri baat, Islaam ka naam kharab karney kee koi zarurat hee nahee hai. AAj kal subko pata hai kya chal raha hai !!
