I am meeting all of my Fiance’s extended family today, including all khala’s, khaloo’s, cousins, etc. Like 30 people in total. I am such a nervous wreck! I’m usually fine with such things, I’m not even a shy person and I love public speaking so this is SO UNUSUAL for me! I don’t know how to handle these feelings. There are so many butterflies in my stomach and I feel light headed.
I’m mainly nervous of what they will all think of me and having so many people looking at me and judging me at once, and actually caring about their opinion. When I usually meet new people I don’t have to worry about what they think of me because they’re not as important as in-laws. I’m feeling so shy and scared and I’m afraid I’ll pass out in their living room! What do I do?
Well I won't be serving any of the chai because we are invited over to their place. His relatives are doing a dawat for my family because they haven't met me or my parents yet.
That's really good advice, I picked out my outfit and accessories and it helped calm me down a little bit, I wear hijab so I don't have to worry about hair. Shiny clothes and churiyan were a nice distraction =)
But... the feeling is still there, I keep having to take deep breaths to try to calm myself down. My sis-in-law told me that her khala's and khaloo's like to joke around a lot and I'm afraid I won't know what to say or that they'll think I'm dumb.
Smiling a lot is my main plan, but I don't know if I'm supposed to talk to the cousins who are my age or not... If I just smile and don't talk, I don't want them to think I'm stuck up, but if I do talk, I don't want them to get too friendly to the point where they're asking too many questions.
Re: Meeting Fiance's extended family, I'm a nervous wreck!
Dont worry hon.Inshallah everything will go fine. Just be urself, be natural. No need to overdue it , that would just look fake-:p. And as many have said b4 me make sure you dont talk to much. Listen more than you talk. But again dont just sit there as a shy mouse. Have a balance btw talking and listening. Good Luck.
Re: Meeting Fiance's extended family, I'm a nervous wreck!
from school and weather i guess ur from north america as these are the two major topics to talk to strangers about ... umm i don't kno if ur into sports but fi ur fiance has guy cousin's u can talk to them a bit about sports ... second thing is holiday seasons ask them if they have any plans or xmas parties with frnds or work ... and new years resolutions ... everyone especially grls love to talk about that kinda stuff ... and judging by the way grls are dressed i think u can pretty much guess if they're into shoes mack up or clothing and then if u start that topic they won't shut up and love u off
i'm going to be going through the same thing in a few days. best thing to do is just to call up some wonderful friends who give you some confidence and encourage you. that helps!
but yeah meeting people and then knowing that they're judging you is so nerve wracking especially if you're not the most confident person ever. but definitely talk to your friends. they'll make you feel better.
Re: Meeting Fiance's extended family, I'm a nervous wreck!
Think Of it This Way, You'd Have To Meet Them One Day. Better Sooner Than Later. Inshallah You'll Get Their Approval And Bee Fine. Your Fiance Will Be There For a Helping Hand. Good Luck :D x
Do a bit of research on few family members with help from your fiance....eg the hobby of one auntie or what one cousin is studying etc. And perhaps even try to remember some of their names. It will be easier to talk of a topic when you have pre-thought about it. Also will impress them. This will in turn boost your confidence...and then it will be easier to go with the flow.
Good Luck...or wait...I guess I am too late?? Hope it went well.
