Morals and \ethics of Pakistanis living abroad

pak2015 · May 19, 2015, 1:00am

Re: Morals and \ethics of Pakistanis living abroad

Meeting Fiance's extended family, I'm a nervous wreck!

Before you read on, I must clarify that I am not pointing my fingers on anyone here, just curious.

When I was listening to the podcast Serial, I was kinda shocked to find out that the protagonist Adnan and his best friend Saad were sleeping around. Saad mentioned this on the podcast, when he could have easily hidden this bit of information.

And then I stumbled upon this forum. I guess most members are from US/Uk/Canada. Sleeping around and drinking doesnt seem like a biggie. Like OK I understand where you guys grew up everyone was doing it, but didnt you know it was totally impermissible? And because you were growing up in such an environment, shouldnt your parents have been more vigilant?

AGAIN, I am not trying to be a goody two shoes here, I am just curious as to how things are over there, and how westernized Pakistanis living abroad have become.

At least I will think a thousand times before marrying someone from UK/USA now. Especially after the claims that most guys there are like that.

Let me tell you..1st generation pakistanis in general here in US tend to be more conservative than people in Pakistan. Yes, you will find guys and girls who are over the top here in US but they do it openly so can stay away from such people. In Pakistan, everything is happening there also including drinking alcohol, girls hooking up with guys, getting naked for guy, high end prostitution, wife swapping and sharing but it’s all hidden from public. No will openly admit it in Pakistan and it’s done behind the scenes so you will never know who is being genuine. I’d rather have people being genuine rather than taking a huge risk and finding out their true self later on.

And let me tell you the guys from Pakistan who come to US for uni are mostly the ones who go out of control–clearly these guys are well off that’s why they can afford college in US. I’m a US born and raised guy and I don’t drink alcohol or smoke, don’t approach or interact with girls without meaning but I too have sinned (by having Pakistani girlfriends with intention to marry them) but I had good intentions, but these guys are ridiculous. Not even exaggerating..these guys are all about fooling around and having fun–they were drinking alcohol, smoking, partying all the time instead of studying, sleeping with white and Asian girls (one guy straight from Karachi even made it into a competition to see how many white girls he can sleep with, while a guy from Lahore was living and had sexual relations with an Asian girl in her hostel for 2 years and then ditched her to go back to Pakistan and get married). Yes it is much easier to do all these things in US because it’s readily available and open but Pakistan is terrible when it comes to morality and actually following islamic principles. Theyll pray 5x a day but trust me they do every immoral thing on the side as well. Priorities in Pakistan if you have money is to just have fun and live life (hang out openly with opposite sex, guys drink alcohol, sleep with girls, attending parties and functions and running after celebrities and who’s who of lahore, etc.).

What I noticed is that Pakistani girls who were raised in Saudi tend to be a bit better than girls raised in Pakistan in terms of morality and maintaining proper and professional distance from opposite sex. Girls from Pakistan are a bit out of control..have you not seen it?