Me And My Husband

[Bhabi]

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@Princess Fiona

I would be lucky if my hubby If i do marry decides to live in pak...

Chanda doooooor ke dhoool suhaney hote hai . mai bhi aisa hi soochti thi ke mazey ki life hai .magara tab hume pahta hota tha ka hum ne wapis chale jaanaa hai .. soocho yeh mind mai rakhh ke ke tum ne yehi rehna hai itne saal ya maybe forever

[Bhabi]

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@InformedConsent

^ do you have any kids? where are they? How long have you been in marriage?

well jald hi hum mom dad ban jaye ghe Inshallaa , ginti ke 3 saal hue hai shadi ko nikah ke 7 saal

naa mujhe koi samajh sakte hai na mai kisi ki samajh sakti ho

[Bhabi]

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@indelible

He is the only son, and he has this obligation of serving her mother at this old age. and as far as her interference in your daily activities is concerned, did you talk to your hubby about it ?
what if your hubby moves back to UK , who will take care of his mother ?
As per your saying,I believe, your hubby is all good with you but the main problem is your sasoo-maa. Make her watch **Saas bhi kabhi bahoo thi **OR ghar ghar ki kahaani

Yaaar meri saaso amma ko adaat hai woh kahbi badaal nahi sakti , aisi thi aisi hi rahe ghe, ye su r rite iam happy with my husband , duniya ke sub se aache husband hai woh . mai yeh nahi kehti ke woh apni maa ko chor dey never he loves his mom buss mai chhati ho ke mai europe mai rahoo aur pak mai aati jati rahi woh bhi aate jate rahe, magaar meri saass yeh sub nahi hone de ghi

mai kia karo koi samajh nahi awaaatt

[InformedConsent]

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^ is he your relative? cousin? (such a long time in Nikah)

[Mr_Fraudia]

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bhabhi

couple of questions. did your husband run the business before your father in alws death also or did he have his own career? If he had his own career he can potentilaly wrap up that business.

I can understand that he wants to be there for his mother and all, especially since he is an only son. whe you said he is from London I did not realize that he moved to London but his family is in Pakistan. This complicates things quite a bit. I was confused about hy would someone who is from London want to go back to Pak after his father's death othr than to spend some time with relatives or dunno visit places that his father grew up in, kind of a pilgrimage of sorts..

I mean there are really one 4 options in my view

1) you guys live in Pakistan, work out some solution where you have your freedom, whether it is you having your own space etc. I know ppl who have done this where houses have indpendent living arrangements on first and second floor, and teh parents get one floor and their son or daughter take the top portion..you are not in each other's face all the time and have control on your space

2) you guys convince the lady to move to the UK with you, this will resolve your issue of Pakistan, but the issue of dealing with her will still be there, just because she is on your turf will not make the issue go away.

3) She lives with her daughter, unlikely, not knowing the daughter's situation and I guess desi cultural crap comes in the way too.

4) you leave your husband, and go live your life..which does not seem to be a logical option for you guys since there are no couple issues.

[InformedConsent]

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^Was he on marriage visa which leads to settlement...in UK?

[Bhabi]

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@InformedConsent

^ is he your relative? cousin? (such a long time in Nikah)

My father in law was my father´s best freind, and I know my husband from our childhood. used to be a nice family, pher kuch problems ho gayi between my susraal and my parents, and my mothr in law become very

kuch soojta nahi kia karoo

[Bhabi]

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@Fraudz

bhabhi

couple of questions. did your husband run the business before your father in alws death also or did he have his own career? If he had his own career he can potentilaly wrap up that business.

No my husband did not run the buisness he was in uk, they have partnership in uk. but that moment he was trying to get a job by profession he is an engineer. but he never woked

I can understand that he wants to be there for his mother and all, especially since he is an only son. whe you said he is from London I did not realize that he moved to London but his family is in Pakistan. This complicates things quite a bit. I was confused about hy would someone who is from London want to go back to Pak after his father’s death othr than to spend some time with relatives or dunno visit places that his father grew up in, kind of a pilgrimage of sorts..

I mean there are really one 4 options in my view

1. you guys live in Pakistan, work out some solution where you have your freedom, whether it is you having your own space etc. I know ppl who have done this where houses have indpendent living arrangements on first and second floor, and teh parents get one floor and their son or daughter take the top portion..you are not in each other’s face all the time and have control on your space Hhahaha it can never happen at our place

2. you guys convince the lady to move to the UK with you, this will resolve your issue of Pakistan, but the issue of dealing with her will still be there, just because she is on your turf will not make the issue go away.
   what abt the buisnesss he is running in pak , and she weill not leave pak, she knows very well that is is hard for me to live in pak and thats why she will be there and wants me to be there

3. She lives with her daughter, unlikely, not knowing the daughter’s situation and I guess desi cultural crap comes in the way too.

4. you leave your husband, and go live your life..which does not seem to be a logical option for you guys since there are no couple issues.

NO Never i cant leave him. never kaisi baaat karte hai aap , mai yehi chhati ho ke sub kuch theek tarah se ho,

[Bhabi]

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@InformedConsent

^Was he on marriage visa which leads to settlement...in UK?

nahi he has british passport

[InformedConsent]

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^As you are pregnant so you should be with your husband.
have you talked to your husband what he says about the whole situation???

[Bhabi]

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@InformedConsent

^As you are pregnant so you should be with your husband. have you talked to your husband what he says about the whole situation???

Nahi, un se abhi maine koi khass baat nahi ki ,, abhi mai sub ke mashware le rahi ho , waise maine soocha hai ke 6 months pak mai 6 montha europe mai ( iam not from uk )

[InformedConsent]

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^I think You if you are really in good relationship with your husband you should talk to him about your concerns and you should stay with him wherever he is. Is it possible to live in a house where you can have your independent portion in Pakistan?? as Mr. Fraudia mentioned.

[indelible]

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Bhabi ji.
Try to persuade your husband that may be not now, but in like a year or so, why not they move back to eurpoe along with his mother. Dont rush things and since your husband loves you so much, dont do something or say something to your mother in law, that might hurt him. slowly, try to convince him that it will better for your kids in future to grow up in europe. And give him some time so if he does not want to wrap up his business, atleast he should find someone to take it over.

[nstar777]

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@Bhabi

.. my husband lives in pak, he is from london but went to pak when his father passed way , and he is gonna stay there ... dont know how many years... some time it is very hard for me to stay in pakistan,, life in pak is too boring for me .. what do u guys think i should do. stay with him in pak or should i come back here ... it is not like that iam leaving him. no way ....means ke kahbi yaha kahbi waha ... what shouls I do ???

Bhabi: You should go there and stay with him. Dont abandon him at his time of need.

[Bhabi]

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@Desi MC

Who said there aretons of stuff which is not available in Pakistan ?
Im sorry to disappoint you, but you’re WRONG.
Everythings available there…EVERYTHING…
Life in Pakistan is great…

Life in pak is great for U BOYS but not for us gals .

Mai akele kahi nahi jati pak mai, shopping karne ko dil nahi karta mera, ghar mai kuch karne ko nahi sara din baith ke raat ka intazaar karte raho husbnad ka karte rahoo

[Bhabi]

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@nstar777

Bhabi: You should go there and stay with him. Dont abandon him at his time of need.

Mai pak se wapis aayi ho few months ago , iam going to be mom soon. so wapis bhi jaao ghi Inshallaa magaar not forever

[nstar777]

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@Bhabi

Life in pak is great for U BOYS but not for us gals .

Mai akele kahi nahi jati pak mai, shopping karne ko dil nahi karta mera, ghar mai kuch karne ko nahi sara din baith ke raat ka intazaar karte raho husbnad ka karte rahoo

Pakistan ki khoobsoorat raat makes up for the boring day Bhabi. With your husband ofcourse

[nstar777]

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@Bhabi

Mai pak se wapis aayi ho few months ago , iam going to be mom soon. so wapis bhi jaao ghi Inshallaa magaar not forever

You know what suits u and what is good for u. May Allah grant u the wisdom to make the right decision!!!!!!!

[InformedConsent]

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Hi bhahi come on........think about the kid........dont think about tension related issues of your life at this time.....every thing will be fine inshaallah..

[InformedConsent]

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Cheer up ........after having baby you wouldnt find any free time to get bore in Pakistan...then you people can decide afterwards...