how a person who has been calling his / her cousin with names like “Bhai” (brother) “Baji” “Behen” (sister) suddenly transforms his / her mind and heart for a love quite different in nature when his /her parents initiate to get him / her engaged with the same person of opposite gender whom previously he / she treated like his / her siblings.
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by reading this i remember a sentence which was often used by one of my classfellow.
Shadi sai pailai saab larkai larkiyaan behan bahi hotai hain
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One of my friend when he used to make some speech would address the crowd like this :
Maray Bhaio aur unki bheno.
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It's not just restricted to cousins and families.
I used to volunteer at a Islamic supplementory school and everyone there would refer to each other as 'brother' or 'sister' ( I know its different as it was obviously out of respect)
I would always say, 'I'm sorry but my name is not sister, its Milly.'
Anyway, one Saturday, Sister Jabeen (not real name) told me she found brother Jamal (not real name) attractive and was wondering how she would go about telling him.
I just found it slightly strange. I dont call anyone but my brother, brother. Even then I dont, hes younger, I refer to him as 'oi'
lol - ye that thought still haunts me - and I HAVE BEEN through that phase!
My Aunt was interested in me. I use to call "him" bhai. As time progressed, they did not want me to call "him" bhai anymore. This phase initiated by "his" sister who stopped calling "him" bhai in front of me - the story pretty twisted.
i just found this funny,but you know in canada islamic foundation everyone calls eacthother brother and sisters:hehe:and again get married to:hmmm:
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oh and I remember, during college days at the Islamic meetings - the top lady and the top guy - who organized all Islamic activities etc. called each other brother/sister. however, after some time when I went to one of the meeting - they were being congratulated on their engagement!
oh and I remember, during college days at the Islamic meetings - the top lady and the top guy - who organized all Islamic activities etc. called each other brother/sister. however, after some time when I went to one of the meeting - they were being congratulated on their engagement!
:D I know of a 'head brother' and 'head sister' marriage too!
However, I guess its just out of respect that some muslims who are unrelated to each refer to each other as brother and sister.
Wow, im being so politically correct today. Will have to make up for it tomorrow by calling someone a paki.
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lol
I have NEVER heard a cousin brother call a cousin sister "behen"
We refer to our fellow Muslims as "brother" and "sister." You might even end up marrying someone who you call "brother" or "sister" although they are not biologically related to you. I've even heard people openly say that they are "looking for a good Muslim sister/brother to marry." LOOOOL.
Of course, with any potential marriage, the partners should have a mutual interest in each other. It is wrong for parents to force or emotionally blackmail their kids into marrying ANYONE let alone a cousin "Baji' or cousin "Bhai".
And some interesting facts: Although cousin marriages are considered taboo in the US, prominent figures such as Charles Darwin, Edgar Allen Poe, Albert Einstein, and President Franklin Roosevelt were married to their cousins.
Cousin marriages are allowed in Islam. If they were that bad, Allah would have prohibited them completely, as He has prohibited other things that are harmful for us.
there are more sleazy lines about this like, din ko behen bhai raat ko chaarpai
how a person who has been calling his / her cousin with names like "Bhai" (brother) "Baji" "Behen" (sister) suddenly transforms his / her mind and heart for a love quite different in nature when his /her parents initiate to get him / her engaged with the same person of opposite gender whom previously he / she treated like his / her siblings.
Take this, i know a person who adopted a boy and a girl from different families. They grew up in the same house as brother and sister. Then they were married to each other and now they have kids.
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On many Muslim matrimonial sites you will say many ads from women saying they are looking for a good Muslim Brother to get married to.
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there is nothing wrong with the word "brother"... it's the actual relationship that counts... so out of respect all are brothers.
It's not just restricted to cousins and families.
I used to volunteer at a Islamic supplementory school and everyone there would refer to each other as 'brother' or 'sister' ( I know its different as it was obviously out of respect)
I would always say, 'I'm sorry but my name is not sister, its Milly.'
Anyway, one Saturday, Sister Jabeen (not real name) told me she found brother Jamal (not real name) attractive and was wondering how she would go about telling him.
I just found it slightly strange. I dont call anyone but my brother, brother. Even then I dont, hes younger, I refer to him as 'oi'
OMG! I think I may have volunteered at the same place! Lol! x
OMG! I think I may have volunteered at the same place! Lol! x
Oh brother....erm I mean bother!
I didn't name the school, nor the area. There are quite a number of Saturday supplementory school's across the U.K.
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Milly, I refuse to call you a sister!
Milly, I refuse to call you a sister!
You don't even want to know of the names i'v thought up for you luv! :D
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**Simple rule,“Why call anyone a sister when you have your own?”
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