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If I had any hot cousin, I would have married her already…
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Because of this mentality & thinking only, our family never agrees to go for anyone else other than cousins only 
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yeah. i think daughters and sons must be given FULL control over who they marry. it must NOT be forced upon children. parents should explain calmly the pros N cons of a rishta then they must leave the child alone and let him/her to decide.
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Cousin marriages are awesome, u dont have to introduce your wife to everyone who shows up to congratulate you.
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The two most retarded posts in this entire thread.
Allah's made divorce halal too, but he's made it clear that that is the most disliked of all the things He's made halal for us.
Just because it's allowed, doesn't mean you should DEFINITELY do it. It's allowed because in certain circumstances, family pulls through for you. If you have a retarded child, it's better to marry that child into the family because bahar kay kisi banday nay aa kar rishta nahin poochna. However, there is no guarantee that this rishta would be better than marrying outside the family.
Allah's also said that "We have ...] made you into nations and tribes that you may know one another." Just goes to show you, it's preferred by God Almighty Himself to go forth and marry into other families, not in your own family specifically.
Is there hadith saying the same thing about cousin marriage? If not, then its wrong to assume that somehow its as 'disliked' as divorce, as far as I'm concerned there's no such evidence for that.
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I personally don't like the idea of cousin marriages. I am clearly not a fan of it, would never ever choose it for myself.
Having said that, it is a totally halal practice as far as Islam is concerned and one mustn't so taboofy it and make it look oh so haram.
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so its ok to marry first cousins?
isnt that incest..?
wouldnt that mess up your kid..?
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and here comes another westernized question .. :) .. can't people decide whether they wana be a muslim or they wana be a confused muslim (influenced by western media and lost in those confusing questions).
I believe in Sura Al-Imran, Allah has clearly mentioned who are mahram and who are NOT. And cousins aren't considered as mahram. So from islamic point of view, its perfectly fine.
P.S:
I am sorry if i am referring to wrong sura. I believe its sura Al Imran but I CAN BE WRONG.
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uh no
I was thinking more of genetics but w/e
and was just wondering if first cousins were ok?
or do they have to be a distant cousin??
this was an interesting read
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Obviously totally halal to marry your cousin but too many first cousin marriages going down generations tend to be strongly discouraged by scholars nowadays.. Meat is halal but doesn't mean we should go overboard and eat it at every meal and end up obese, does it? There are a lot of halal things that can cause harm in the long run when done in excess and cousin marriage is one of them.
There was some religious info posted on it a while back on the forum for anyone who wants to look it up..
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I don’t have anything against people who do it but I wouldn’t. Ever.
You’re obviously very wrong. Google up links and on EVERY link you’ll find the following..:
‘‘They are lawful in Islam but DISCOURAGED’’.
If I remember Prophet (PBUH) also was reported saying to men to look for wives outside the tribe. There is another hadith here too:
http://sunniforum.net/showthread.php?t=6680
The legality of cousin marriages in Islam is not in dispute. What’s simple is that they’re allowed but not encouraged. Not particular a hard fact to grasp I would think.
As for hadith, in Islam it is DISCOURAGED and people are asked to marry outside the family. So please don’t bring that point up :smack: As Murgi has said Islam has made plenty other things like divorce etc halal too, doesn’t mean we should practice them vigorously.
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Quran says (not exact quotes but summary)
"take whatever God has made halal for you and leave whatever God has made haram for you".
To consider anything that is made halal by God (i.e cousin marriage) is not good. Its a personal choice. If someone wana marry their cousin thats good, if not, thats good too. Prophet Muhammad (SAW) has encouraged marrying in different tribes though.
Personally, I did not have any cousin on same mental wavelength to marry with.
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Quran says (not exact quotes but summary)
"take whatever God has made halal for you and leave whatever God has made haram for you".
To consider anything that is made halal by God (i.e cousin marriage) is not good. Its a personal choice. If someone wana marry their cousin thats good, if not, thats good too.** Prophet Muhammad (SAW) has encouraged marrying in different tribes though. **
Personally, I did not have any cousin on same mental wavelength to marry with..
Indeed, again the legality of cousin marriage is not in dispute, how much its encouraged is. The bold bit is what I am on about
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hahha u r r8 jeh bbt bhi sochne ki hain
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Yes Prophet Muhammad said to marry outside tribe yet his most beloved daughter, Hazrat Fatima RA was married to his cousin. So we have this example as well. I don't think you can really make hard and fast rules. One must appreciate the flexibility Islam offers in this regard, and it goes both ways.
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Personally, I did not have any cousin on same mental wavelength to marry with.
So you are saying that bhabhi was at same mental wavelength as you?
and how is she taking it?
as an insult I am sure.
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I agree. But when you see Muslims going all eww eww over this idea, they must realize that this is a totally halal practice by all means for cousins who naturally fall for each other or where couple and and the families are completely happy with it. Yes it can happen and it does happen, I personally know such case.
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So you are saying that bhabhi was at same mental wavelength as you?
and how is she taking it?
as an insult I am sure.
She is not stalking me on GS these days to I guess that post of mine will bury under other threads soon :D
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I agree. But when you see Muslims going all eww eww over this idea, **they must realize that this is a totally halal practice **by all means for cousins who naturally fall for each other or where couple and and the families are completely happy with it. Yes it can happen and it does happen, I personally know such case.
Again you're giving the idea that the legality of cousin marriages is disuputed.
It is not. And noone is saying that its haram.
It is discouraged, simple.
As for ''ew'' I get those people. I have cousins who are like my sisters, who I've grown up with; if someone were to come to me and say ''marry her'' I won't go and be smiles, my reaction will be that I will say eew too. But as I said people who do marry in family good for them! They found love all the best to them, I personally wouldn't do it.