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I personally don't see anything wrong with it. A quick glance around any large family gathering should tell you if it's a good idea or not. How is your family scoring on their IQ tests, and is more than one relative missing any key body parts since birth :)
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the worst are the stories u hear of girls being FORCED to marry a cousin just to keep property in the family..its soooo stupidddd
Actually I know a girl back home, whose family is rich but based on land and political involvement. Now most of the family(khandaan) is uneducated. Somehow she was able to talk her mother into school and went up to double master's. She is almost 30 now and needs/wants to get married BUT her idiotic father....refuses to marry her to a good proposition. He want to marry to his jahil 5th grade educated nephew just to keep all the land in the family. She is an only daughter. My head hurts hwen i think about it...but even if he gave the land to someoneelse else...hell it will be hers despite who she marries. She even went so far as to say to write her off the family inheritance...but still no luck. She refuses to marry her cousin, but if her mom marries her off to someone outside khandaan, that vicious khandaan would maybe literally try to hurt her...its sooo stupidddddddddddddddd
That's pretty disturbing. There's no way she can try and get protection from the authorities where she's living? She's an educated adult, she's not some matric-pass larki with absolutely no power or strength, there's no reason she should succumb to her jahil khandaan.
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It's allowed in our religion so it is not disguisting or incest, Islam wouldn't allow sick things, a cousin is not like a sibling or other direct family member.
The negative health implications are way over exaggerated, I'm sure there's a risk if it carries on for generation after generation like it does with Pakis but with Arabs and other Muslim cultures it's not the only acceptable form of marriage, it's a one off thing when cousins genuinely want to marry each other so plenty of foreign blood is also introduced into the gene pool, unlike Pakis; "ok son you have taaya, phupho or maamu's daughter to choose from, which one is it? you're lucky I'm giving you the choice, when I was your age your daadaa didn't give me that choice, I was just told who to marry."
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i don’t prefer marrying my cousins but who knows kul kia ho ?
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The negative health implications are way over exaggerated, I'm sure there's a risk if it carries on for generation after generation like it does with Pakis but with Arabs and other Muslim cultures it's not the only acceptable form of marriage, it's a one off thing when cousins genuinely want to marry each other so plenty of foreign blood is also introduced into the gene pool, unlike Pakis; "ok son you have taaya, phupho or maamu's daughter to choose from, which one is it? you're lucky I'm giving you the choice, when I was your age your daadaa didn't give me that choice, I was just told who to marry."
I agree. It needs to be more acceptable within families to NOT marry a cousin, but to accomplish this, the way that many Pakistani's handle inheritence really needs to be brought in line with Islamic teachings.
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The people who are really greedy and concerned about inheritence they dont marry their daughters at all. You must have heard girls being married to Quran in Sind and parts of panjab. What a sad state of affairs!!!!!
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^Figuratively or Literally?
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Somehow I have a feeling You already know what it means. It is used as an excuse to keep them and their property within the family ( to be used and enjoyed by the male members) and to stop them from getting married.
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Love is blind, family might pressure and religion allows it. You are right who knows!!!
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marrying with cousen is ok. I will prefer this when i will get marry.
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I read a book about this recently. I am curious to know how widespread it is in the Sindh.
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I read about this, but thought it must be fairly isolated. How widespread is it? IT is sad that in this day and age people are actually able to get away with these practices.
By the way, someone told me that when a girl in Pakistan recieves her dowry, she forgoes the right of inheritence later. Don't the religious leaders have anything to say about this practice?
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By the way, someone told me that when a girl in Pakistan recieves her dowry, she forgoes the right of inheritence later. Don't the religious leaders have anything to say about this practice?
You are right it is not a very common practice but it does happen. You have to realize that the people who do practice this are Jahil, greedy and big land owners. I doubt it if it is practiced among the elites of business community who happen to be rich with big property issues and stakes. This Laanatee practice is contained to the rural areas where rich and greedy people can manipulate and exploit the situation to their advantage.
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People should really think before they speak....
Sahar02 - echoes my sentiments exactly :)
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A question for you, P Stranger....you said you prefer to marry a cousin "WHEN you marry"....
so what are you doing opening threads about viagra-like supplements?????
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It is allowed in among muslims to marry with their cousin. But we christians don't. If muslims are allowed and their holy book give them permission to do, i don't find any flaw in it.
regards
samantha haroon
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It’s completely against Islam but yeah they perform a nuptial ceremony. I’ve seen it on TV; the girl was dressed in white with a Koran in front of her and the priest asks her “do you accept God’s book?” I think then she said, “I do”.
After the nuptial the girl is considered as being married to God’s Word hence God, so she is required to live the rest of her life in celibacy and worship, there are no such formal ceremonies in our regions but some very ignorant people practice this and it is referred to as “taking up the prayer mat” when a girl doesn’t marry.
As you’ve probably guessed this is a borrowed from the Christian concept of Monkhood/Nunhood by these people to keep the property in the tribe so that those from another tribe do not inherit it (their daughter and her children).
This completely goes against the teachings of Islam because Allah clearly says in the Koran that the Christians invented monasticism and that Allah did not prescribe it for them, the Prophet (sal allaahu alayhe wassallam) married and he said whoever has a distaste for his tradition is not one of us, legal sex with ones spouse and Islam go hand in hand, it is considered charity, a means of earning reward, an act of worship, Subhan Allah, how gracious is our Lord? He rewards His slaves for satisfying them own selves!!
Another way it goes against Islam is that women have the right to inherit, depriving them of their God given rights whether it be a husband or their property is a sin, they don’t get as much as men because Islam puts more responsibilities on a man such as providing for his parents, wife and children which it does not place on the woman, in fact even if she does have her own wealth through inheritance or earning she is not required to spend a penny of it because her husband is still responsible for providing her.
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theres no love 
. religion allows it .
dadi lays alot of stress and theres pressure , pressure and pressure 
all it takes is to say a NO . 
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** As you’ve probably guessed this is a borrowed from the Christian concept of Monkhood/Nunhood by these people to keep the property in the tribe so that those from another tribe do not inherit it (their daughter and her children).
**In Christianity, nun/monk-hood had nothing to do with property whatsoever. Just to be clear.