no wonder…its typically western girls to look down on marriages like these:rolleyes: … go and look oudside families for boys who u think will make ‘‘good’’ husbands …hey atleast u won,t regret that u couldn,t have countless boyfriends before marriage. …u girls r disghusting :yukh:…how dare some western trash to call something sick which is allowed in islam?..sick r girls who dun find satisfaction in having just 1 ‘‘boyfriend’’ before marriage and r constantly looking for their prince charming dusn,t matter if they have to date hundreds of times :hinna: …lol thas is pretty sick dun u think..? …
hussain87 .. are you accusing ppl for no reason. Western girls are NOT all alike. I know many pakistani girls who do not have any boyfriends before marriage and they do respect their elders and religion. To decide against marrying your own cousin has nothing to do with western girls. You need to wake up and get in the real world. Ppl have the right to decide for themselves. Stop calling everyone in west evil!
hmmm, it wasnt "western girls" but rather a paki guy who professed his desire to marry his cousin in THIS thread while opening another thread asking about how to find powerful sexual-performance enhancing drugs (since the over-the-counter herbal alternatives didnt seem to be working for him).
i didn,t called marriage between cousins sick or disghusting did i?? marriage like these r halal .. not that im big fan of marrying inside the family but we have no rite to make it seems like its haraam .. ..lol these girls r the last 1 to tell whats sick …their ain,t any1 more sicker then ppl who forget their religioun/country and think they r parhai likahai / enlightend and ppl back home r backward and not maadran enuff for sophiticated angels like these:rolleyes: …
its another thing for them to call it haraam.. i am not agreeing with them either. But to call someone "disgusting" just coz they live abroad and have grown up in west, doesn't make any sense either. Who gave you the right to call them "disgusting"? Show some respect if you want to get some respect!
To call it incest is just because of the influence of western culture. What I know about is that they consider their cousins equivalent to siblings which is different from Islam ofcourse. It really was very disrespectful and disgusting
hey guys what’s wrong with that, Generations after generations have married in cousins but not so often you hear this kind of thing,
These are all statistical based analogies, yes in case of diseases like thallasemia etc one needs to see otherwise no problem (generally these diseases are known to exist in family if they exist)
Read this articles in discover magazine about cousin marriage scientific view point
Meri Ami ke word...well not exactly her words but what she heard the older generations say"Apne gharooin se compared chaoiin mein dalain ge....."...even when they r mad at you.....Ok Ok A lot of my words are mixed in......staying home has fried up my brain....my IQ is decreasing by the moment...soon i'll be using the smoke signals for communication with others.....
my parents were first cousin to each other and they had no problem marrying their cousins…but i prefer marrying outside the family..because i don’t see my male cousins as my potential husbands-to-be..they are all very successful in their respective fields and very highly educated but marrying them isn’t an option for me..i jus’ dont feel comfortable with that notion:nook: ..but offcourse, people do that, like my own mom and dad, and they do have very successful marriages MASHALLAH…and no, it’s not incest according to Islam.
Excellent post Mamaof3. Marrying your cousin is common practice in the North of Pakistan. I am married to my cousin, she grew up in Pak and me in the US so we never really knew each other. Shukar-Alhumdulilah, we have a great relationship and a 2year old.
On the other hand … I have some 3male cousins relatives of my dad’s sister who got married. 1 of them to my sister and the other two got married to phuppo #2’s daughters. Brother #1 adopted a daughter from another cousin because they were thought be infertile. Then they finally had a daughter and she has a multitude of health problems, the biggest now being she is under height and her heart is too big for her body. At 10yrs old she needs a heart transplant.
Brother #2 - my brother in law. out of 3boys and 1 girl. boy #2 can’t balance, can’t speak clearly although he can use certain words, expesses emotions but can’t walk; only crawl on all fours. Of course my sister was scared to death after him to have any children but she left it in the hands of Allah SWT and Shukar Alhumdulilah - they are progressing.
Brother#3 - was the first to have kids his 13yr old has to be feed through a tube, can’t walk, can’t speak and needs a lot of assistance. They had two girls after him and Shukar Al humdulilah they are fine.
I’m sure many would question why to take the risk of having more kids after one has gone wrong but they are deeply religious people and believe the Allah SWT will give him only what they can handle.
My point is as Mamaof3 stated too much interbreeding leads to bad things. I would go as far as to say that at least 80% of my family has married cousins further out than first cousins and as far as I know, Shukar alhumdulilah they are all fine. For example, eventhough my wife and I are first cousins, her mom and my dad have no direct relationship.
The advantages to first cousin marriage is that you know what to expect out of your partner, family issues can be resolved internally. But all in all I lean more towards being against first cousin marriages based on what I’ve mentioned above.
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marriage like these r halal .. not that im big fan of marrying inside the family but we have no rite to make it seems like its haraam .. ..lol these girls r the last 1 to tell whats sick …their ain,t any1 more sicker then ppl who forget their religioun/country and think they r parhai likahai / enlightend and ppl back home r backward and not maadran enuff for sophiticated angels like these:rolleyes: …