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thanks Arshad...
Also....CrescentWarrior...
i have read the same thing as well.
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My concern with inter-marriage would be the kids. Although it has been shown that marrying a cousin in itself does not pose that much more of a risk of genetic maladies, the amount of intermarriage within that family line is very important. The more inter-marriage, the more chance of genetic malady or infertility.
I've had experience working for an infertility specialist and have seen the sad evidence of this firsthand.
So if you plan to marry a cousin, best to look into the family line and consider how much inter-marrying has gone on, perhaps consult a genetic counselor.
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Ditto! Thanks!
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Fair enough that I said disgusting but as someone pointed out, I wouldnt want to marry one of my close cousin. It just wouldnt be the same. And again, I wouldnt want to marry someone who is a distant relative…its only gonna rake up past past family problems which is something I wouldnt want to deal with!
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i can understand that completely..i dont want to marry a cousin either for similar reasons. I'd nvr say it's disgusing though since it's allowed in Islam.
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I won't want to marry a cousin because of the family problems it create later on, not to mention the medical aspects.
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That's a no no for me. Rather marry outside the sticking in noses of other family members.. Maybe it works out for other people.. cuz marriage is about understanding and getting along with the other. But i wouldn't even think about it... shrugs
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I am marrying a cousin...and i dont find anything wrong with that!!!
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:-) everyone's after religion, then medical science, not many people are thinking that there is MORE to it than just religion and science..
someone mentioned .. when couple has problems, adults can sort it out .. or like.. guy takes values from mom . . . someone mentioned benefits, many mentioned problems..
WHY is it that person u wanna marry has to carry a thappa of a cousin or an outsider?
BLAHHHHH!!!! if ur partner2be fits the criteria of who NOT to marry.. go ahead!
ps, look at teenagers/young adults here.. and middle-aged here.. u can see the difference in opinion clearly..
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I think some ppl did give reasons other than religion and science..
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Now these reasons are based on facts and ground realities and that is fair but to call it INCEST is shameful, disrespectful and totally disgusting.
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Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo…
That is out of question 
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It’s allowed in Islam so it cannot be sickening and disgusting. It "looks" sickening to some guppies coz they never bothered to observe PARDAH that Islam has asked for. Lets accept it that Islam asks for Pardah from Na-Mehrams and Cousins are Na-Mehrams. So if you were wrong and never observed Pardah from Na-Mehram cousins and now your relations are more like sis/bro, that does not make it incest . One more western concept gripping our youth
Personally speaking, I don’t find it sickening I just didn’t marry any cousin coz I never had "that" feeling for any of the cousin. Ager WOH WALEEE feelings hoteen, tu i would have marry one. I just wanted to get married out of the family.
I have seen many cases where two cousins have feelings for each other from their youth and I don’t see anything bad in that. So if your cousin has the qualities that you want in your spouse, why not?
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to demur marrying cousins on the basis of a possibility of family feud or potential medical problems is understandable, but to use terms like 'disgusting' and 'incest' for such an association is just not acceptable, especially when inter-cousin marriages are religiously permitted.
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I married outside the family, but people our family knew. Anyways I do not favor marrying a cousin, due to medical and family drama reasons. I know its allowed in Islam, but its not exactly been recommended or I have not seen any material saying oh you SHOULD prefer marrying a cousin.
I would not marry my kids in cousin's either, but it would be their choice if they wanted to.
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Speakin gfrom a non-religious, non-scientific point of view, i hate that in alot of families ONLY cousins are allowed, that noone is allowed to marry outside their own family.. THAT is kinda sick to me
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sara,
the worst are the stories u hear of girls being FORCED to marry a cousin just to keep property in the family..its soooo stupidddd
Actually I know a girl back home, whose family is rich but based on land and political involvement. Now most of the family(khandaan) is uneducated. Somehow she was able to talk her mother into school and went up to double master's. She is almost 30 now and needs/wants to get married BUT her idiotic father....refuses to marry her to a good proposition. He want to marry to his jahil 5th grade educated nephew just to keep all the land in the family. She is an only daughter. My head hurts hwen i think about it...but even if he gave the land to someoneelse else...hell it will be hers despite who she marries. She even went so far as to say to write her off the family inheritance...but still no luck. She refuses to marry her cousin, but if her mom marries her off to someone outside khandaan, that vicious khandaan would maybe literally try to hurt her...its sooo stupidddddddddddddddd
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my parents are cousins....but me personally wouldnt want to marry a cousin.. ( cuz all girls in my extended family are either a lot younger or elder than me )
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I heard some slack jawed yokels marry thier brother/sister!!!
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Well there is nothing wrong or unlawfull in marrying a cusion as it is allowed in our religion...Its just matter of personal choices and reasons...so depends on indiviual to individual.
Personally i married out of family... not coz marrying within family was disgusting or sth like that...it was just a matter of personal chocie and coz i wanted to marry a person with whom i could relate to and inshort its matter of matching frequencies....:)
TC...
Ash...