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Many times when we give advice, we don't realize we are trying to break families apart. There is no harm for her to try this, if she really wants to save this. Obviously her current complaining did not solve matters now did they? Why do we think it's against our egos to change our method of approach?
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Tell him wow your mom is amazing, she is so sweet. You need to realize if you want to be part of his love, you have to cherish his family ten folds more than he does.
As a guy I'd say something is seriously wrong if you have to go through all that just to win some affection.
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he has told me countless times that even if his mom is wrong, he would take her side.
In addition to the way he and his family treats you, even after him saying the above to you "countless" times.......you actually think he will change? Are you seriously that naive? Do you really want this man to be the father of your children? Do you really want his mother to be your childrens grandmother? Its one thing that you want to be naive when it comes to your own life....at least think about how your future children will be affected.
I'm amazed that your parents are supportive of you getting a divorce at this point....and I'm even more amazed that you haven't jumped at that opportunity already and got out of this mess.
Verbal abuse is how it always starts. I work in a field where I deal with abused women all the time. Go to your local battered women's shelter and talk to the abused women themselves. I bet you'll find TONS in common with this. This is always the beginning. Man emotionally/verbally abuses girlfriend or wife. Wife naively thinks that somehow it's her fault and if she changes her own behavior or just "talks" to him....he will change. Sooner or later the abuse escalates. Once kids get in the picture, then wife is really trapped.
You're young. If your parents are telling that that they will support you if you want a divorce right now, PLEASE listen to them. Don't be one of the countless women who WASTE their youth chasing after a dream that will not happen. Don't waste your youth waiting/hoping that this man will change. There are plenty of men out there (Pakistani and non-Pakistani) who will show you and your family the love/respect you deserve.
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I lost track of the kahani in part 2.
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^ wait for the eshtory to be published in Akhbar-e-Kahaan
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err acha. Whenever it comes can you please make me a summary? thanks
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It seems weird to me sometimes how posters here try to make fun of or look down upon when some one posts their concern or issues here. Please try to be a little considerate here and just for once try to be in some one else's shoes and then think how will you feel if some one does that to you. Not every one has the intellectual abilities which most of the fortunate members of this forum have and some times people are really here to get help. Please give them a benefit of doubt instead of passing smart ass remarks
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Sometimes mothers will agree to love marriages so they can show their sons how much they love them. Then they will create so many problems and issues, the sons are forced to agree with their mothers that they were better off marrying where mommy chose. Its sinister but it happens all the time. The whole process usually takes less than a year and thats not a long wait when you look at the bigger picture.
Dont let some jahil woman play with your life. Either take control or get out.
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im really sorry for u... this is not what s.o. excepts for his newly marries live.
so, havent read very single post, but this is, what i think:
i cant give u an advice, coz i can really feel, that ur love is still there... u have to speak again with ur parents. perhaps they should speak to his mother, to clear the situation and what THEIR plans are...
u should not talk to ur husband alone... aise bohot ghalat baaten banti hain!
hope everthing goes well 4 u!
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^ wait for the eshtory to be published in Akhbar-e-Kahaan
it's sad that you are making fun of someone who is going through so much. none of us are avitable of any situation, who knows who it will be next, so please refrain your self from this kind of things. because u never know where u will end up.
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Sometimes mothers will agree to love marriages so they can show their sons how much they love them. Then they will create so many problems and issues, the sons are forced to agree with their mothers that they were better off marrying where mommy chose. Its sinister but it happens all the time. The whole process usually takes less than a year and thats not a long wait when you look at the bigger picture.
Dont let some jahil woman play with your life. Either take control or get out.
^agreed.
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This isn't your 'typical' Pakistani man...
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This isn't your 'typical' Pakistani man...
Yes it is.......
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I really don't know what to suggest, but there is something beyond messed up about a MIL who sits her DIL down on the 4th day of marriage and talks about money. The fact that she has already mentioned her mamoo ki beti is equally scary. I'm afraid your husband might just end up doing whatever your MIL says even if it costs you too much emotionally. I won't be surprised if he is "made" to leave you by his family.
I'll take your post at face value and hope the best for you <3
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it's sad that you are making fun of someone who is going through so much. none of us are avitable of any situation, who knows who it will be next, so please refrain your self from this kind of things. because u never know where u will end up.
A mature person wouldn't come on a forum to get advice either.
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Sometimes mothers will agree to love marriages so they can show their sons how much they love them. Then they will create so many problems and issues, the sons are forced to agree with their mothers that they were better off marrying where mommy chose. Its sinister but it happens all the time. The whole process usually takes less than a year and thats not a long wait when you look at the bigger picture.
Dont let some jahil woman play with your life. Either take control or get out.
ding ding ding!!!! we have a winner. :D
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A mature person wouldn't come on a forum to get advice either.
Kinda immature to assume she isn't seeking advice beyond the virtual world as well, isn't it.
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Leave him.
As someone said you can't change the spots on a leopard.
If his core views are retarded and if he cannot balance relationships he isn't worth it.
He does not respect you. If someone does not respect you then he can't possibly love you.
And if he doesn't love you then please don't waste your time and life with him. Good luck!