Re: married women..
omg sometimes GS makes my head go up and down
well ur talking about friends there are husbands who tells their wifes to stop meeting her family,you cant really do anything about it if u get married to that kinda guy.i cleared it frm day one to him my friends are really important to me they are like my family so dont even think about me leaving them.n also my friends always made an effort to call him n be nice to him prabably thats y he doesnt mind them
He wants that I contact to my friends and enjoying so I did it. When he is at home, I am not trying to contact my friend and nobody call me unless there is some thing important to tell. We all friend didn't contact each other in weekends and in week days these are our days. In weekdays me and my friend plan to go to park with kids and enjoying life.
When we went to Pakistan I contact to my friends and he did this as well and enjoying with our friends there.
yeah jias..i think husband/faince will only be cool with her freinds if he comfortable enought o hang out iwd them too..
yeah jias..i think husband/faince will only be cool with her freinds if he comfortable enought o hang out iwd them too..
wth.....do our husbands or fiances make sure that us girls are comfortable enough to hang out with their friends??? what on earth is wrong with having female friends if you're a female yourself. And if your husband/fiance has a problem with that then he's got issues or insecurities that he needs to deal with. Admit it or not friends are important!!! you can NOT limit your life to just you and your husband. you would both go crazy if that happened. It's nice to have friends around you
Re: married women..
I think if my husband was concerned about something he would let me know and we would discuss it like adults. Similarly, if I had a concern, I would bring it up and we would sort it out.
No one is anyone's property for God's sake. It's a matter of mutual respect and understanding. Why get so emotional about it?
Re: married women..
^ totally agree.
and plus, we have better things to focus on than these stupid, useless issues..
P.S. My husband doesn't have a problem with my friends, or as a matter of fact, he doesn't have a problem with anything that i do.
Re: married women..
ahhh wht a great life u hve^^
^ totally agree.
and plus, we have better things to focus on than these stupid, useless issues..
P.S. My husband doesn't have a problem with my friends, or as a matter of fact, he doesn't have a problem with anything that i do.
watch out!!
its not a good sign.
Re: married women..
It's not about obedience. If you base your relationship around what you have to do and what you're ordered to do, rather than what you want to do based on your closeness, then you're off to a bad start.
My husband is my best friend. If he feels neglected, I would want to change that. I can't imagine myself spending hours talking foolish nonsense with friends on the phone. An occasional night out or hanging out at home with my friends is different. But most of the time, we are together.
Re: married women..
balance is neccessary in all things. these are simple issues which are made complexed by ignorant hypes or self fullfilling prophesies. the thing is for both sides to make effort in not neglecting each other. having spent time with friends is not a sin. but excessively being away from family and spouse and not tending to home is not right by any side.
so t must be resolved by being more responsible and it will be nice to involve the wife for the husband and the wife to involve her husband in most gatherings with their own friends.
When one is married, there should be a mutual understanding that the “we” does not mean that there shouldnt be "I’s " In it anymore.Saying that it definately does not mean that both take each other for granted. They have to try to negotiate a balance between the times they have together and apart.
I personally would think about the costs versus the benefits and I do that…is it worth it if my husband doesnt like it..I would want to know why? The ideal situation would be that it shouldnt reach to a point like that.Both people do need hobbies apart too so they donot loose their individuality(by that I donot mean bar hoping etc:cb:
They will happy to contribute towards the relationship and also being in it instead of feeling bound in it:)
if ur husband showed extreme annoyance at u spending time with friends..like talking to them on the phone or going out with them but he never actaully offically disallowed it ..would you stop and obey or not?..
He must be yaron ka yaar like person.
It means he enjoys more with his friends then her wife.
Sub say pehlay to maloom karain ya poochain wo kon si aisi baat ya aap ki adat ya undaz hai jo ussay intehai na pasand hai.
1 of my cousins does same thing. When I asked him he say ghar main attraction naheen hai rehnay kay liaay.
He his khoobsoorti pasand and got opposite wife.
She is also talks like a somewhat jahil person. She make odd combination for his dressing and many stuffs.
He wants everyday tayyar shayyar wife and fit fat. She is just opposite. He told me I don't I just attend his shadi and haven't seen her after their marriage.
Hul for those things:
Apni nazar sani karain aur apna undaaz change karnay ki koshi karain agar koi aisi baat hai jo aap samjhain kay buri lugti ho gi
Apna rawaiya change karain
bohat mohabbat ka izhar karain.
bohat pyar say baat kia karain
Unkay dost aur rishtay daron, parents aur bhai bahan ko ahmiat dain no matter wo jitnay bhi buray ya budatameez hon. ALlah ki raza kay liaay ya apnay faiday kay liaay.
Ghar ko khoosoorat banain.
Khud bun sanwar kar rahain tayyar shaiyar ho kar
Khanay achchay banain
Shohar ka kha manain.
Dil na chahta ho phir bhi uska hukm manain
Khushi say uska istaqbaal karain
Uski harkaton ko ignore kar kay khush ikhlaqi say paish ain.
Mazaydaar khanay banain.
Ziada say ziada time dain
Batain karain un topics pay jo ussay bohat ya ziada pasand hain
Aftay main aik baar khana kahanay bahar jain
Ghoomnay phirnay ka saath intezaam karain
Agar in sub kartay huway 3 say 6 maheenay ho jaain aur uska rawaiyya na badlay to darj e zail tareeqa ikhtiaar karain.
Jub wo aay to totally ignore karain.
Her waqt jo aap unkay muhabbat ki agar aap talabgar rehti hai to wo talabgari khutm kar dain (most important thing)
Ziada lift na karain.
Kabhi kabhar khana bhi na dain us kay anay kay time pay so jain.
Agar budtamizi yani mar kutai ya galum galoch karta ho to kisi kisi din paka kay bhi na rakhain.
Agar phir bhi baaz na aay to:
Jub wo aay to aisay bun jain jaisay aap ko koi farq hi naheen para
Apnay kaam main bilkul masroof rahain.
Balkay tayyar kar kay rakha karain jaisay hi aay show karai aap kub say lagi howi hain is kaam main
kisi dost say kahain aik larkay ki naam ki kai id bana lain.
Us kay samnay us say chating karain khoob khus hon khoob hansain
(wo agar aap ko pasand naheen karta to jeolous bhi hoga zaroor aap say. Ussay aap ki khush bardasht naheen hogi)
Show him that you are taking iterest in some other guys
Not only 1 guy but many guys. Keep saving your chats and also keep prove some where that its your best friend and a girl.
That will work for sure. Larkay ya hubby yay kabhi bardasht naheen kar saktay kay wife kisi main interest lay.
Zahir karain jaisay aap kisi ki mohabbat main giraftar ho gaeen hain
Agar wo aap say shikayat karay to same shikayat aap karain aur ussi ko qusoorwar thairain her baat main.
Tell him if you don't give me lift then I'll get attention from some other guy.
Jub koi kaam kahay to behri bun jain.
Jub zabardasti kaam karnay kahay to bolain I'm not your zar khareed ghulam
If you won't do whatever is my right then I won't listen to you.
Khud ko un kamon main munhamik karain jo ussay intehai na pasand hain.
Uskay samnay apni bahan ya dost say khoob khushi khusi aur huns hans kar batain karain aur ussay totally ignore karain.
AGar yay sub harbay na kaam hon to
Sirf aik hi hul hai ya to chup saadh lain aur Allah kay rahm o karam pay apni naiyyaa ko chor dain aur sabr o shukar say kaam lain.
Roza namaaz aur tilawat main khud ko busy kar lain.
Show him that you don't need his love, caring aur attention at all.
Ya
Phir us ko chor dain agar bachchay na hon to.
Allah pay bharosa kar kay doosra dhoondh lain
Kick him out that stupd don't worth living with you.
Good luck for those type of ladies.
I think it's important for husband and wife to enjoy some time out separately with their friends. Two people living together in a vacuum gets really dull, let your wife or husband enjoy 2 or 3 hours with friends and it will definitely heighten his/her appreciation for you.
shining star..ur post was verry interesting to read..u r a very interesting girl..but unfortunately it doesnt have anyhting to do with what i asked..:)
jalebi..i so agree with u!
wapis ajaoo naaa
shining star..ur post was verry interesting to read..u r a very interesting girl..but unfortunately it doesnt have anyhting to do with what i asked..:)
jalebi..i so agree with u!
Achaaaa. Main to samjhi main yoonhi likh deti hoon. Thank you.
Shayad main samjhi naheen phir aap ka sawal.
Urdu main sawal samjhain. LOL.
Achaaaa. Main to samjhi main yoonhi likh deti hoon. Thank you.
Shayad main samjhi naheen phir aap ka sawal.
Urdu main sawal samjhain. LOL.
acha ok here goes..main yeh poochre thi ke agair aap ke shohar ko yeh baat bilkohl pasand neh thi ke app apne sahelions keh saat time spend kare jaise ke onke saat phone par baat karna ya onse milna laiken osne officially yeh baat nehi kaha keh 'tum apni friends se nehi milsakti aur ose bilkohl cut off ho jao'..so agir apke husband ko aap ka apne freinds ke saat relationsihp rakna pasand nehi heh laiken osne kabhi apko mana nehi kia..tho phir kia aap apne freinds ko apni zindagi se nikaldengi?..aap apne mian ki baat manjaingi? YA phir aap apne husband ko ignore kardehngi aur apni sahelions se dosti khaim rakengi bilkohl pehle ki tarha?...
AB to aap samaj gai naaaaa...?...i hope so..:)
I think if my husband was concerned about something he would let me know and we would discuss it like adults. Similarly, if I had a concern, I would bring it up and we would sort it out.
No one is anyone's property for God's sake. It's a matter of mutual respect and understanding. Why get so emotional about it?
Well said, it is a two way traffic. The problem rises when one spouse starts thinking that "only he" has the right of positive criticism on his spouse's activities and "only his spouse" should give a positive response to his criticizm.