MARRIED FROM BACKHOME, NOT HAPPY!!!

[Mabrook]

Re: MARRIED FROM BACKHOME, NOT HAPPY!!!

nahi shk ab girls k saath bhi kuch bura nahi hota. Allah ne usay aik ghalat partner se bacha lia hai. He'll giv her a better partner IA. as for him life will not let him go unpunished as well. jo dosray k saath ba wajah bura kerta hai Allah ki pakar main kabhi na kabhi zaroor ata hai.

[Mirch]

wish i knew it would be so difficult n i wud av never got married from backhome. There are way too many differences even though she is educated. I shudnt say it but it makes me cringe even talkin to her..... i know it sounds realy mean but i wish it wasnt d case. Sometimes i cnt sleep when i think about it n sometimes i get realy angry about it. part of me blames my parents. Also when i hear stories about girls from backhome being sly, two faced and manipulative, it puts me off even more. I dont think talkin to her about all this is going to help? dont want her to feel that the person she is married to is harbouring all these thoughts? it would nly hurt her feelings. Nonetheless, I will talk abt few major issues as and when appropriate but there are so many things i would have to keep quiet about. My main concern is can mannerisms be changed? do girls from backhome av the potential to adjust? do they realy understand if you talk to them? plz share your observations? experiences? it wud relli help!

If you are so loaded you can hire a governess to teach her the kind of manners you want her to portray. Girls in Pakistan are taught to be submissive to husbands ,she will follow your cues ones she is with you do not worry about all that
The condition you are going through is called having cold feet the difference is that people normally get cold feet feet before wedding you are having it after the wedding because it was all done so hurriedly. You and she will get over it.

[geek]

I have decided to move out of this marriage. I tried speakin to her about our issues, she created a scene and then told her father/mother. They rung my uncle and my parents and this resulted in a big drama. i have decided to break it up and told everyone including her n her parents. There is no point going down this road when it is going to make us both unhappy in the long term. I have told my parents its not going to work out. I have thought long and hard and this is the best thing for both of us. Bye peeps.

Either way, the least you could do was talk to her face to face before taking such a big step. Next time you decide to inflict yourself on some unsuspecting girl, make sure they get to read this thread.

[Gina]

Why can't u try to make it work? Giving-up and divorce is an easy option..but have u ever realized that the girl has left her family to come live with u? Why can't u give her time and try to understand her place..

Divorce is unpleasant and messy.. don't act upon impulse because of a few petty issues.

[Aqls]

Re: MARRIED FROM BACKHOME, NOT HAPPY!!!

Shame on you shaz1

[Soundvision]

Re: MARRIED FROM BACKHOME, NOT HAPPY!!!

Better to sort it out early then later..... what I am saying GIVE IT A TRY

tell her what you don't like about her ... and if she can change those habits then thats fine...But before telling her to CHANGE you must consider if it is reasonable or not ... it should be rational....**bcoz **sometime we have some bad habits too and those are not adjustable with others ,and we blame others, IN THIS CASE you need to change urself not her..so plz be careful.
Second .... Try it for few months IF IT DOES NOT WORK then tell her" this relationship would never work so better to end up early ... bcoz its one life to live .... dont let it mess up by others.

Wish You Good Luck

[Soundvision]

I have decided to move out of this marriage. I tried speakin to her about our issues, she created a scene and then told her father/mother. They rung my uncle and my parents and this resulted in a big drama. i have decided to break it up and told everyone including her n her parents. There is no point going down this road when it is going to make us both unhappy in the long term. I have told my parents its not going to work out. I have thought long and hard and this is the best thing for both of us. Bye peeps.

got it.
sorry for inconvenience.and my late rply above.

[kaun]

Re: MARRIED FROM BACKHOME, NOT HAPPY!!!

another reason why i say ARRANGED MARRIAGE is not the best idea !!!

[farrah]

@Iggle

So true! Lol!

@mama_ki_dua

I’m not trying to scare you but her attitude may get worse. I’ve seen girls from Pak who come here and start acting as if they are from the Royal family.

@mama_ki_dua

I agree with this statement. They have to comment on the way someone looks like. The comparison will always be there.

i am so tired of reading this and people agreeing with it!!! what kind of people are you connected with forgodsakes? or are you ugly and fat? i cant even imagine calling someone like that … and then reading posts about relatives in pakistan treating you guys bad when u go there … what on earth!!! i so dont get this
i’ve also had relatives coming to us from abroad, we never did such things with them … or heard of anyone saying such stuff …
i am so completely shocked to see these differences between pakistanis and overseas-pakistanis …

@shaz1

I have decided to move out of this marriage. I tried speakin to her about our issues, she created a scene and then told her father/mother. They rung my uncle and my parents and this resulted in a big drama. i have decided to break it up and told everyone including her n her parents. There is no point going down this road when it is going to make us both unhappy in the long term. I have told my parents its not going to work out. I have thought long and hard and this is the best thing for both of us. Bye peeps.

awesome!

@cinnamon_waffle

You’ve ruined the girl’s life and tarnished her family’s reputation.

Shame on you.

AGREE!!!

[princess87]

@amorox

u got married at 18 years?????OMG LOLX how?? :S confused n amaxd luk on her face

Lol, yeah i did! It just felt right at the time...(it still does) dont regret it for a second..xxx