Re: MARRIED FROM BACKHOME, NOT HAPPY!!!
parents can be so stupid and you made a mistake. get out of it fast. hope you havent consummated.
Although your word might be true for some parents, it still sounds pretty harsh.
Mine was an arranged marriage.
For ALL the GOOD days I thank my parents for getting me hooked to a complete stranger 
For ALL the BAD days I BLAME them too, for hooking me up with a complete stranger 
What I have realized after all this time is… my parents actually kept my LIFE going.
**I am forever thankful and grateful to them.
**
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LOL thats so cute mA^
As far as your happiness, your happiness should be her happiness so make her happy
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I'm not trying to scare you but her attitude may get worse. I've seen girls from Pak who come here and start acting as if they are from the Royal family.
There is a huge cultural gap between pakistanis raised abroad and those raised in Pakistan.
Pakistanis abroad have been raised with manners... We know its not appropriate to insult anyone because we are sensitive of their feelings.
When I visit Pakistan, I am constantly shocked at how rude and crude Pakistanis are. They insult you to your face, calling you fat, ugly and constantly compare themselves to you. Its inherent in their nature and most importantly they think its OK.
I honestly think she'll eventually change once she comes to live with you in the UK, but you have to give it time. Once she moves to the UK explain to her the cultural norms and what is and is not acceptable to do and say..
I agree with this statement. They have to comment on the way someone looks like. The comparison will always be there.
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I have decided to move out of this marriage. I tried speakin to her about our issues, she created a scene and then told her father/mother. They rung my uncle and my parents and this resulted in a big drama. i have decided to break it up and told everyone including her n her parents. There is no point going down this road when it is going to make us both unhappy in the long term. I have told my parents its not going to work out. I have thought long and hard and this is the best thing for both of us. Bye peeps.
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^ I hope it all works out for the best for you. When you do eventually decide to get married, please look for someone who will be a partner in life for you. Not just "a wife."
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so saad. shadi na hoi gudday guriya ka khail ho gaya
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^ exactly
i know oh so many girls who are nikkahfied to guys like these and then get sent a divorce paper...
why did u not think of all this before?
sorry, but this is just wrong
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AND ladies and gentlemen this is the diff between men and women.
this guy acted on what he wanted to do whereas the girls who open treads abt their abusive husbands/in laws usually never act.
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Wow. What goes around comes around, buddy
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hEY, i can see wr ur cming from, bt dont worry, remember tht our pairs our decided in the heavens above, and wtevr happens always happens for the best even tho we dont see it at the time...from what ur telling me all i can see is a girl who is trying to impress u of course shes goin to be really different the 2 countries are worlds apart, but time heals everything and nothing ever stays the same...and it is also possible that she has picked up on the 'negative energy' that ur radiating and acting according to that...
And obviously a part of u deep down cares..otherwise u wudnt be here, all i can say is work on it, whats done is done, try ur best, give it 100% and if it fails afterwards then at least u can say u tried...and most of my friends are the way u describe ur wife and theyve been born and bred here..lol..its a girl thing, ur just takin it to heart..lighten up man!! I married a freshie at 18! and 5 years later here i am still with him lol, its hard of course it is, we have both been brought up completely differently, and its human nature to regret sometimes...jst be grateful..uve gt everything going for you, youve got most of ur life together, doing well for urself..jst try and make this work too!!! omg i talk too much!
Lol
tAKE cARE..XX
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One month ago I visited pakistan where I got married. Intention was to go there, enjoy and look for girls. Anyway when i was there I basically said yes to this girl my parents liked. In hindsight, i was rushed n i thought fuk it, ud never meet anyone perfect and went along with it. However, i take responsibility for it n it was my decision so das nt the issue. I didn't live with her after marriage and came back two days of getting married. However, now back in the uk, I am just constantly thinking i made a mistake and i could have done better. Not being bigheaded but I have done well for myself, got houses of my own, nyc car, graduated from a good uni, gt a gud job and im reasonably good looking. when our family went to this place after wedding, I felt so awkward when walking with her. I felt oh man what m i doing with this girl bcz they dont even walk proper in pakistan.....Also, dont like her mannerisms, she thinks she is all that and says childish things like she is clever when she is not really,,,and even if she was, why would u blow ur own trumpet,,,may be this is her way of tryin to impress.. Also, she can be very rude sometimes for example saying things like I got nice dark hair but yours arn't, r dey? i was like ryttttttt n ur point is? i got reasonable good hair but i spike them up and she is always saying how it looks stupid etc. she wasn't even joking n she always says things like that. I can diss her so much but i feel it would be rude but she doesn't see such comments as rudeness. I dont even feel like speaking to her on the phone cz the conversation just annoys me more. I know i made the decision of getting married and it is not her fault. I m jus concerned, worried, panicking n all the rest of it lol. Do people change when they come to uk? their mannerisms?
OMG she is so desperately trying to gain your attention :D lolx okie i am too young to give sucha statement but thats actually what happens..girls talk childish stuff and all dat with their boyfrnds and in your case umm fiance i gues? so they talk like that and they think that makes them look really angelic and baby face.....but it doesnt ofcourse :P :D lolx and umm i am saying such a thing because all my guy pals with gfs ....... they tell me about it ALL THE TIME dude......gals like drama :D lolx even i might do some of it trying to act cool in front of some randomn guy had i didnot have other guys as close mates :D lol
best of luck with her
trust me desi kuris arent as bad you know :) just want ALOT from the ONE PERSON!!!
hEY, i can see wr ur cming from, bt dont worry, remember tht our pairs our decided in the heavens above, and wtevr happens always happens for the best even tho we dont see it at the time...from what ur telling me all i can see is a girl who is trying to impress u of course shes goin to be really different the 2 countries are worlds apart, but time heals everything and nothing ever stays the same...and it is also possible that she has picked up on the 'negative energy' that ur radiating and acting according to that... And obviously a part of u deep down cares..otherwise u wudnt be here, all i can say is work on it, whats done is done, try ur best, give it 100% and if it fails afterwards then at least u can say u tried...and most of my friends are the way u describe ur wife and theyve been born and bred here..lol..its a girl thing, ur just takin it to heart..lighten up man!! I married a freshie at 18! and 5 years later here i am still with him lol, its hard of course it is, we have both been brought up completely differently, and its human nature to regret sometimes...jst be grateful..uve gt everything going for you, youve got most of ur life together, doing well for urself..jst try and make this work too!!! omg i talk too much! Lol tAKE cARE..XX
u got married at 18 years?????OMG LOLX how?? :S confused n amaxd luk on her face
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umm actually ignore my posts
woops m too late in the discussion topic :P
btw
its wrong when you say desis are vrey rude......
umm its just that all kind people are everywhere.........sometimes the paki one might sound rude just cause they are actually trying to mix up with you guys.....here no body take such things on heart normally lolx dheet log and so they are pretty open to each other.....but then again depends and varies from person to person
during an internship i met lots of pakistanis who have been brought up at somewhere abroad and come here for vacations once in a blue moon....i met those people and the thing is they are like way to friendly and act really cute which is good....but here if you are talking nice to some guy they think something is ON!! maybe thats why paki people get rude aik dam se........
One month ago I visited pakistan where I got married. Intention was to go there, enjoy and look for girls. Anyway when i was there I basically said yes to this girl my parents liked. In hindsight, i was rushed n i thought fuk it, ud never meet anyone perfect and went along with it. However, i take responsibility for it n it was my decision so das nt the issue. I didn't live with her after marriage and came back two days of getting married. However, now back in the uk, I am just constantly thinking i made a mistake and i could have done better. Not being bigheaded but I have done well for myself, got houses of my own, nyc car, graduated from a good uni, gt a gud job and im reasonably good looking. when our family went to this place after wedding, I felt so awkward when walking with her. I felt oh man what m i doing with this girl bcz they dont even walk proper in pakistan.....Also, dont like her mannerisms, she thinks she is all that and says childish things like she is clever when she is not really,,,and even if she was, why would u blow ur own trumpet,,,may be this is her way of tryin to impress.. Also, she can be very rude sometimes for example saying things like I got nice dark hair but yours arn't, r dey? i was like ryttttttt n ur point is? i got reasonable good hair but i spike them up and she is always saying how it looks stupid etc. she wasn't even joking n she always says things like that. I can diss her so much but i feel it would be rude but she doesn't see such comments as rudeness. I dont even feel like speaking to her on the phone cz the conversation just annoys me more. I know i made the decision of getting married and it is not her fault. I m jus concerned, worried, panicking n all the rest of it lol. Do people change when they come to uk? their mannerisms?
I say that since you are already married now, give it a go and see how it works out before you ruin some innocent persons life.
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you are an Idiot for going through with something like this to begin with. What Badnaami for the girl. The Divorce papers sent home before shes even had a chance. People won't even consider "marital dispute" as a possible reason.
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You've ruined the girl's life and tarnished her family's reputation.
Shame on you.
you are an Idiot for going through with something like this to begin with. What Badnaami for the girl. The Divorce papers sent home before shes even had a chance. People won't even consider "marital dispute" as a possible reason.
such a shameful act man. u have decided to married u have decided to give her a divorce is it a joke .have u ever know the noms and value of a cultural girl.u cant event think what blames may people may create on her with out knowing that its all just the boy 's mistake .She is girl people living abroad thinks abouts the matter so easy .....at first when i read ur post from the start i thought ur nice person .the people who helps u some time destroy's ur life "s .do u know from the word DIVORCE (TALAK) IS SUCH A BAD WORC THAT WHEN A MAN IS GiVING IT TO WOMAN THE EARTH AND THE SKY SHAKES TERRIFIES.well the people saying here that the people from backhome or the girls when come to uk they get greed this can be with them if they would have been from pak.such abad time .i have got in such a temper coz i have seen two cases in which the boys have done the same things andd what had happened with the girls coz for boys its nothing and for a girl see pays a lot.
regards