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Okay I hear all of you. You all said pretty much the same thing. But aren't you scared of the physical relationship? That's something I fear the most. I don't think I feel a "need' to get married right now though I'm 23. I think you should get married when you feel the need to do so. Why is there an age limit for girls specially. What if I'm not comfortable with getting physical with him or anyone else in general? That can be a good reason to not get married for a while at least?
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Shadi is a pleasant contract - sunney mey aya hey, keye iss sey zindagi ka burden but jata hey. it demands commitment, honesty, equality & trust from both parties - namely husband and wife.
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Uhm physical relationship is 1 thing ppl who wanna get married look forward to, and dont u say they're perverted or immature for looking forward to it and wanting that as part of a relationship. Some ppls "physcial" needs are stronger than others, and if they are financailly, why not marry? They dotn want to sin and live their life as a frustrated virgin, i think its understandable. Unlike goray, most desis and Muslims cannot find fulfilment (emotional AND physical) in western-type relationships (random one night stands, "fcuk buddies", live-in couples among other things).
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^ Kya? Quote kar ke thats it?
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kuch kehnai ko ab baqi bacha hi nahi 
lol
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But why why why???? Physical relationship with someone you don't know well? That's very uncomfortable! How can people look forward to it?
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bachay itna mat socha karo.. 
Most of the people have arranged marriages in Pakistan, (including me 
) Of course, I didnt look forward to it, and was scared like anything.
Uff I dont remmeber the detail of the aiyat but there’s an ayat about it, that its one of Allah’s nishaniyan that after the first night how man and woman are drawn closer to eachother. Its HE who fills both hearts with love of eachother.
Of course a lot of marriages break but yeh sab Allah ke haath main hota hai.
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jitna bach saktay ho bach jao…aik bar pakray gaey to bus phir gaey…
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Marriage is very important in Islam, so for all you that dont want to get married, reconsider it.
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You can wait until you get to know each other to get physical. Don’t worry, it’s just a matter of time.
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You kiddin me??
Maybe it's supposed to make ou a happier person. I mean human system.. body, mind, heart, etc. is designed to have a partner. One may have everything in the world. I mean every little material thing but still not be happy emotionally. Maybe marriage provides a deep sense of satisfaction from within. But still the problems which come with it, one may prefer to live a single life.
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Hey goray will do it wiht any stranger, at least we do it wtih someone we’re legally/Islamically bound to.. And besides, u dont have to do it on teh first night (just pray you dont get some paindu pig of a guy ) u can always wait til ure morecomfortable wit the guy..
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Destinee, Success in marriage is much more than finding the right person; it is a matter of being the right person. I can understand you not being comfortable in a physical relationship with someone you don't know that much. Women have a different way to express love. Their view of a relationship is far different than of a men. For you intimacy means talking; for men, a relationship means doing things together. You value relationships more, especially relationships with parents or your potential husband.
The point is love just doesn't sit there like rock, it is re-made over and over again. Love takes time, effort, patience and lots of presence; mind, body and soul. It's a beautiful thing, won't come at once, won't happen suddenly. When you are old and gray, you'll realize what it actually means.
How do you preserve love and marriage? Having the communication skills so you can respectfully negotiate, resolve disagreements fairly, and avoid the bitterness that drives spouses apart. In short, maturity. Marriage is not for sex, money or any of the other superficial things. Its about friendship, like a dance; you are close but find a way not to step onto your partner's shoes.
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there is no need for marriage or anything...some of us are..just plain**** of it..
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:o Blah blah blah.
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confused khala he is telling the truth…i think it is fardh for muslim man and women to marry at some stage in their life:blush:
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confused khala he:)
I am worried..and i want to leave gs for good..who are you..pm me..now..khala..ka..ladla..