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why are you leaving:( …not cuz of me haan i am really sorry if i did something jo app ko bura laga ho:bummer:
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I think there are MANY OTHER farz in Islam that if I follow them quite honestly and with loyalty I think I'll still go to heaven even if I'm not married. I know how Islam recommends it or if it's one of Muhammad's (saw) commands but still. There are people who're not comfortable with sex or don't want to do it. What about them? Marriage is not marriage without a physical relationship you see. Besides, our desi men would kick you out of the house if you don't do it for a while.
All I'm saying is that why can't I get married when I feel the need to do so? Whether it's in my 30s or late 20s? Why do I have to get married by 25?
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I remember reading sumwhere that Muhammad PBUH once said, Marriage is half your deen, or something along those lines. Age when you get married doesn't matter.
And girls I dont know what culture your from, but don't the guys and girls meet first, maybe get to know each other better, and then go ahead with the marriage, its not like you'll be seeing them for the first time on your wedding night.
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That’s what I recommend. Get to know the person first and that will take me like…what…an year or so? I think we’re all Pakistanis here. And yes in our culture age does matter. I don’t really follow some of the cultural crap (yes let me say crap) because it’s not appropriate sometimes. And I don’t care much either but it’s our parents who wouldn’t listen you see.
Are you Pakhtoon by any chance?
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Probably desi men won't. Others surely will.
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LoL, desi men would take whatever they could get.
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Ooo u sayin des men r desparate, whos manhating now :p
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true,but still these gals complain about desi man being sex hungry animels:blush:
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yep both have their own perks!! I won't trade my single years for my married years and vice versa :-) I think a person should experience both and have a blast while doing it!
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Desi men would take what ever they cud get…from their wives…they have no other choice…
…as women call the shots in marriage.
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I agree. You can’t logically explain to someone the difference between life before marriage and after. In many ways it’s like your eyes and areas of your heart and soul are opened up when you truly love someone. (hubby and kids). I feel it completes a person. It’s very sad that people live a life alone and then regret it when they’re too old. It’s like you don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone.
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I think you may need to see the doctor. Puberty should have kicked in at 14.
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woopsy wrong thread AGAIN :o
my bad folks :)
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Hey Destinee,
You can get married when ever you want to. You don’t ** have to ** get married by 25. There are a lot of people who get to know their future spouses regardless of where they live. Just talk to your parents.
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You don’t have to get married by 25, but the older you get the harder it is to get a suitable guy willing to marry you.
My dadi got married when she was 27 - very late for 1940s India, but she insisted on completeing all of her education first.
However, she then struggled to get suitable rishtas. The best that came was my dada; and he was not only younger than her, but also a serving wartime military officer who just came home on leave. After the nikkah and rukhsati, he marched back off to the war for another 3 years.
Not quite the most secure of husbands.
That was an extreme case, but the principle applies today. The majority of guys prefer younger girls and there is an ample supply of them.