There was no traditional thing that my mil came to see me or talked to me or he wanted to see me, or he was looking for a rishta or we fall in love instead it was different. He saw my pictures from some party called my home and left a message for my parents that I have seen your daughter in pictures and here is my number and I belong to this family. My dad heard the message and told him I am coming to meet you next week. He was in South East states at that time, so my parents went lived in his house for two or three days,looked at his work place environment, met his friends enjoyed and told him we like you, you can talk to our daughter now and you both can decide after that. We chatted or talked on phone for 2-3mnths and felt like we were meant for each other, choices, life style, different things. So after three mnths we got married and AH we are so happy together. AH :)
There was no traditional thing that my mil came to see me or talked to me or he wanted to see me, or he was looking for a rishta or we fall in love instead it was different. He saw my pictures from some party called my home and left a message for my parents that I have seen your daughter in pictures and here is my number and I belong to this family. My dad heard the message and told him I am coming to meet you next week. He was in South East states at that time, so my parents went lived in his house for two or three days,looked at his work place environment, met his friends enjoyed and told him we like you, you can talk to our daughter now and you both can decide after that. We chatted or talked on phone for 2-3mnths and felt like we were meant for each other, choices, life style, different things. So after three mnths we got married and AH we are so happy together. AH :)
That is a very different story, glad it all came out beautifully! Congrats
There was no traditional thing that my mil came to see me or talked to me or he wanted to see me, or he was looking for a rishta or we fall in love instead it was different. He saw my pictures from some party called my home and left a message for my parents that I have seen your daughter in pictures and here is my number and I belong to this family. My dad heard the message and told him I am coming to meet you next week. He was in South East states at that time, so my parents went lived in his house for two or three days,looked at his work place environment, met his friends enjoyed and told him we like you, you can talk to our daughter now and you both can decide after that. We chatted or talked on phone for 2-3mnths and felt like we were meant for each other, choices, life style, different things. So after three mnths we got married and AH we are so happy together. AH :)
I must say that, at the time, the best advice I ever recieved from my ammi (who is deceased :() was this: "dheko, yay log jaisain hain, waise hi rahainge. ye mat samajnha kay tumhare liye koi badlayga, ya tumhain samajnai ko kyoi koshish karega. Tumhain badalna hoga unkay liye. Inka rahain sahain humsay kaafi alag hai, or agar tumahain lagta hai ke tum nahin adjust karpaogi, tho phir ye rishta khatam kardo. Agar shaadi karni hai, tho phir apne aap ko itna masboot kardo, ke kisi ki baat tumpay assar hi na karay. 6 months baad mujse mat aakay kehna ke tumhari saas nai tumhe toka hai ya feelings hurt kiye hain..."
This is soooooooo true! Every mother needs to teach this to their children. :)
This is soooooooo true! Every mother needs to teach this to their children. :)
Off topic but why should mothers instill such a principle in their children, I don't see how conforming to the wants of others is a good thing? I understand compromising with the partner in order to better harmonize but changing for the entire family is beyond me. Don't people lose their identity that way?
January 2008 i met her in flight while i was going to New York and she was en route to Rome. We spend 8 hours together in flight, the conversation start because of an renaissance art book she was reading. Alright alright... i did try to flirt because she was so freaking beautiful, my first words were ...you look like an angel. welcome to earth...... It all started at the height of 36000 feet.
The coming years of wonderful memories. Moments of giggles, sly smiles and inside jokes. So many great memories. Sure there were some road bumps along the way too. We had some arguments, some good ones in fact. We wrote letters and talked on the phone occasionally. We went out of our way to see each other, even if it meant flying to Dubai, Firenze & Istanbul to share a few precious hours together.Along the way we decided to marry, you know all weddings are similar, but every marriage is different.
We were lucky to have parents who didn't for a moment create a hurdle. Finally we tie the knot on the eve of 31st December 2010 @ Faisalabad, Pakistan
I will end it with the first picture together, somewhere in Pistoia, Italy
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Well we met at the univ. became friends. Real good buddies. Always Looked out for each other. He’d buy me lunch, I’d cook him and his roommates daal. Then We would all watch star trek episodes together.
One day he asked me to marry him. I said yes.
Went through hell.
15 years later, alhamdullilah, we’re blessed, and may Allah make us even better for each other.
Naabigh, yeah… So my hubby used to work at the univ library, he knew the time I’d come in to work on the computer, so he’d unplug some wires and all. I’d end up going to the help desk and he’d be the one to come help, like always, as he had instructed the other student assistants to let him go when this particular person has trouble. I never knew until one of his colleagues told me.
Naabigh, yeah... So my hubby used to work at the univ library, he knew the time I'd come in to work on the computer, so he'd unplug some wires and all. I'd end up going to the help desk and he'd be the one to come help, like always, as he had instructed the other student assistants to let him go when this particular person has trouble. I never knew until one of his colleagues told me.
sogni bhabhi here on gs.
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