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talk 2 him!!! wats worse that can happen?
Nothing, and that's what a zillion other people said, in plain words, im JUST DUMB. :(
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Ill try, i don;t think so the way im goin at the moment…
- what is rong with me aghhhh, iv always been a chicken*
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Talk to your parents and try to convince them that you are not comfertable with the idea. in this guy).
Tried it, she's not having none of it, oh god why i am still alive cries
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Tried it, she's not having none of it, oh god why i am still alive cries
then talk with some other elders in the family. make your point accross that you CAN NOT be forced for an arranged marriage and you ARE serious about it.
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Tried it, she's not having none of it, oh god why i am still alive cries
how old are you .. if you don't mind me asking.. ??
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then talk with some other elders in the family. make your point accross that you CAN NOT be forced for an arranged marriage and you ARE serious about it.
We don't have family here, there is no one to turn to, its every1 back home that come visit us and stir the masala in. i have an uncle, there are all on my mums side, because i am the lat girl in the family to be wed off (as in the last girl out of all cousins etc). Talkin to them is like talkin to a brick wall now.
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We don't have family here, there is no one to turn to, its every1 back home that come visit us and stir the masala in. i have an uncle, there are all on my mums side, because i am the lat girl in the family to be wed off (as in the last girl out of all cousins etc). Talkin to them is like talkin to a brick wall now.
hmmmI from that I take you do have some older siblings and they are married? talk to them. it doesn't matter if they are in UK or not.
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hmmmI from that I take you do have some older siblings and they are married? talk to them. it doesn't matter if they are in UK or not.
No i am the oldest, i have cousins in Pakistan who are all married, reason everyine says 'sort her out'.
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hmm that is a very sad situation, you still have other options if the things get worse. there are LAWS AGAINST FORCED MARRIAGES and you can seek legal assistance if things come to that point, but I sincerely hope that it will work out for you. may be your parents didn’t realise how seriouse you are about it.
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calm down calm down lass!don't panic and DON'T make a decission unless you are pretty sure about your own feelings. Don't look for an easy escape like approaching this guy for avoiding a POSSIBLE force marriage. Talk to your parents and try to convince them that you are not comfertable with the idea. at the end of the day, it's YOUR life and you have to make a decision, but it DOESN'T mean that you jump off the cliff to avoid a fire (unless you ARE interested in this guy). Hope things work out for you well.
yea. firstly analyse yourself , whether are you really interested in that guy ,
or is that some kind of a mere infatuation :)
moreover it's not necessary that if you approach him , he will turn back towards you , he may completely ignore you - or maybe he must have moved on with his life .
another thing , always keep in mind that you will get married only to the person who is destined for you , not to the man whom you like , or your mother likes ,
i know there must be some pressure , but then it's best to remain calm and act wisely .
last thing , never be judgemental about anyone in life , some people really are caring , and some are just show -offs , all that glitters is not gold
marriage is not a game , it's some big responsibility , never be hasty.
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so what happeneed???
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Okay I just caught up with this and what did happen? did u talk to him?!
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NOOOO im too terrified and shy...i saw him online on FRIDAY...i promised ill do something but i just don't have the guts!...i can't believe its taking me this loong...
Today my mother came up to me and told me she's gona introduce me to 2 students from Pakistan for marriage (who obviously want a British holder) she doesn't care as loong as im out, i was like 'don't you dare',,so she stopped talkin to me again...
I don't know whats guna happen, i just don't have the confidence, i can never do anything in life :(
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omg . sweetheart you may aswell forget everyfin now . i will wait for ur weddin pics to one of the students.
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^ Sheesh thanks!!!!
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Jisss na ke sharam ... Usss ka photay karam :)
or in English
Fortune favors the brave :)
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come on!!! make a move!!! u dnt want no student..u want msn guy go for it...
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whats the worst thats gonna happen when you unblock him??
look lol i think i went through something similar with my fiance........i remember my mom told me that there's this rishta blah blah and how i should talk to the guy at least and i was like grr fine and i started talking to him and he really started liking me but then i dunno what got into me , i guess it was stupid girls who were corrupting my mind or something so i stopped talking to him and i started coming up with these rediculous excuses as to why i dont wanna marry him.....my mom and i had so many fights over this and we stopped talking about it lol and i didn't talk to him for over a year and a half or 2 years .....finally i thought about how i should give him another chance and ring him up so everyday i would stare at his number with the cell phone in my hand and everyday i would lose my courage and put the phone away....finally one evening i called him up and i was sooooooo nervous that i didn't even know what to say to him but as soon as he said "hello", there was this magic so to say and my nervousness gradually disappeared
so moral of the story is that you gotta get over your fear or nervousness and just do it hun because noone else is gonna do it for you and who knows maybe once you start talking to him you might just feel less nervous
do it!!!
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have u dun it yet??