Interesting topic. May I ask all you parents a question please?
At what age should a child STOP sleeping in its parents bed, with both parents? There is a child, about 6, who sleeps in the parents bed, with both parents in it. I find this disturbing bcos the mother has hinted previously that the couple do have marital relations in the bed while they think the child is asleep. But the child can wake up and notice something going on, it seems very wrong to me.
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Ok thats just not right (my initial reaction was ewww). Do the parents have a valid reason for keeping the child in the same bed, like joint family system and not a spare room for the baby?
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That is so not right to have any hanky panky going on when the children are in the same bed, or even in the same room, or even like standing outside :no:. They should be tucked in and fast asleep in a separate room or involved in some activity in a room far far way where there is no chance of them getting a hint.
It can become an emotional/pyschological issue in the long run.
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[note] A very interesting topic. I took the liberty of changing the title of the thread to direct RupayHalwa's original question. [/note]
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yes it's very disturbing to have a kid in the room. There are no excuses in this world that could be deemed valid to support whatever your decision to keep your sleeping child in the same room.
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If your child must sleep with you at night and you do need to like..umm get together, then the couple can go outside the room 
… I mean most of here have other rooms in our home. I can understand people who live in villages and all but that’s a different story.
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I never understood those poor families - who lived with the entire families in 1 small room.
I mean the kids, the parents, the brother's family - gosh how did they ever get a chance? - lol
but then again - they did get a chance cause they normally have 3 kids.. rt?
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Yeah, those people are OK with it probably as they don't have a choice, they're used to it, there's less of this shame concept there. You even see women very openly breast feeding in villages with hardly any covering.
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I think it is pretty traumatizing for kids.. they do not know what's going on and no one will even explain if they had witnessed anything.
so hold your horses people! lol
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Horses don’t have to held, just taken to a different stable 
If they do not know what is going on , then how is it traumatic for them ? 
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Because it looks abnormal and strange 
oh that reminds of a White friend of mine
she said her sister’s kid about 4 - saw the parents in their acts… the next day parents didn’t think much about it.
The next day the kid was misbehaving, and mom said I will tell your grandpa!
so the kid said - then I will tell him that at night you had dad’s “willy” in your mouth!
haaaawwwwwwwwww!
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^:omg:
And the stuff mentioned in the first post is just ick! Big NO NO :no: Cant they just do it earlier in the day or something or in another room or something?
Sorry dont really have anything better to contribute in here. 
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And those kids , who dont sleep at night or dont go outside to play , remain the single kid in the family ...... che che che !
From kids' point of view , its much better to sleep at night than being the one and only , or i must say lonley kid in the family :)
i am sorry just remember some one story:hehe:
i heard that too:omg: it was under the caption THE MOST EMBARASSING MOMMENTS.
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I see nothing wrong with letting a 6 year old sleep in parent's bed if they are insecure and need that extra comfort. My eldest is like this.
I DO see something horribly wrong with hanky-panky going on when theres a child in the room, no matter what their age and no matter if you think they're sleeping or not. Its wrong.
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At what age should a child STOP sleeping in its parents bed, with both parents? There is a child, about 6, who sleeps in the parents bed, with both parents in it. I find this disturbing bcos the mother has hinted previously that the couple do have marital relations in the bed while they think the child is asleep. But the child can wake up and notice something going on, it seems very wrong to me.
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Thats soooo disturbing, how can they do that with their child in the same bed as them!!!!!