OK, so I'm relieved to see that I'm not the only one who thinks this is wrong. Actually I thought it was so wrong that I advised the mother to make alternative sleeping arrangements for the child (there is another room kid can sleep in), but she said the kid is now used to sleeping with them and will cry in another room (not that they even tried it).
This couple have relatively recently arrived from Pakistan so I thought its maybe normal for there, but she said her english neighbours kid also has the same sleeping arrangement and that it's totally normal. Really I think that wasn't true about her neighbour, probably was said to justify herself.
So anyway, I was left feeling like I shouldn't have said that to her bcos maybe it is actually normal for some ppl, and I don't generally like giving ppl unsolicited advice about what they should do in their homes, especially when I have no experience with kids, but I think it had to be said.
Yeah, she may be asleep, but as parents, you do have this need for complete privacy at that moment in time… and what if she wakes up at the moment in time
A family I know has a few sons - couple of them are married and they all live together in one big house. Okay not that big but each family gets their own room, i.e. Son #1 and family gets their room, Son #2 and family their own room and so on…
What bothers me is that these couples have children - 3, 4, 5 years of age-range. and I’ve always wondered about the parents intimate life and its impact on kids if/when they wake up. Ughhhh bothers me so much. But since I’m not married I won’t dare bring it up …
See there's nothing wrong if kids come in in the middle of the night and want to sleep with you. Sometimes they need security and protection. But if they sleep with you regularly, then you have to find other times and locations to do your stuff. Once parents have kids, it's their responsibility to provide a good environment for the children, set the right standards, etc.. even if it means sacrificing some personal urges. And it doesn't have to be that parents become saints or something, it's just being smart about timings.
Ok I don't get it, how on earth would the parents know FOR SURE that the kid is asleep the whole time they are doing the hokey-pokey??? I just can't buy that. I mean seriously: moving/shaking bed ---> child sleeps throughout?? not even a flinch?
sounds emanating from married couple ----> child still manages to sleep throughout???
I don't know :( I find it hard to believe. Apologies if I conjured up any images or if its TMI
Ok I don't get it, how on earth would the parents know FOR SURE that the kid is asleep the whole time they are doing the hokey-pokey??? I just can't buy that. I mean seriously: moving/shaking bed ---> child sleeps throughout?? not even a flinch?
sounds emanating from married couple ----> child still manages to sleep throughout???
I don't know :( I find it hard to believe. Apologies if I conjured up any images or if its TMI
I agree with you too, this is why I felt I had to say something. I don't think I should say anything more to the lady tho, bcos that might be too much like interfering, but I think she should at least have started to think about it, hopefully.
